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6 Stupid Things Singles Do To Mess Up Their Lives
By Nancy Van Pelt


Cathy Guise from the comic strip says: “I’m beautiful, charming,
talented and ready to share my life with someone, Charlene. I want to
dream with someone . . .plan with someone . . .I want to be there for
someone, and I want someone to be there for me!”
Charlene responds, “My husband has a really cute friend who . . . “
”Auck!” Cathy screams. “A fix-up?? No fix-ups!! I’m ready to be
married. I’m not ready to date.”

Many singles are like Cathy. Marriage is their goal. But they don’t
want to go through the process of preparing for marriage. They lead a
busy life, own their own business, have a successful career, plenty of
friends. But are unsuccessful in establishing a long-term
relationships. However, it is possible to have more control over future
relationships, learn from the stupid mistakes of others and make
better choices in the future. You can learn to recognize stupidness.
Don’t go there!

Stupid Mistake #1: MARRY TOO RAPIDLY.
There are seven stages in dating and each stage has a function and
purpose . If any stage is rushed or skipped, there is a gap in the
development of the relationship, and problems result. Strong lasting
relationships must be paced over a long period of time where “getting
to know you” is the major theme.
Stage 1 is Friendship. At the friendship stage, a couple get to know
each other while participating in non-romantic activities.
In stage 2, Casual Dating, two friends now move away from the group to
engage in couple activities. Stage 3, Special Dating, is an in-between
stage that means there is a growing emotional attachment between the
two but they have not yet made a commitment.
Stage 4, Steady Dating, signifies there is an understanding between
the two that they will not date others. In stage 5, Pre-Engagement,
the couple begins discussing the possibility of marriage–“someday.”
But their understanding is private and personal rather than final or
binding. Stage 6 is a Formal Engagement in which a wedding date has
been set and wedding plans are in progress. Stage 7, Marriage, is
final and binding and it should be the continuation of the romantic
phase of courtship.
Unfortunately, many couples go through these stages out of sequence. So
eager are they to find love, they skip the preliminaries and jump into
romance.. Adult singles, especially the previously married, tend to
act in haste and marry too quickly. An urgency rushes them into
marriage without first establishing a stable base for a relationship.
Every couple should date for two years prior to engagement. One whole
year should be spent at stages 1, 2, and 3, carefully nurturing a
friendship first. During the second year the “masks” begin to slip and
character flaws emerge that till now have been hidden.
Research validates this point.. Researchers at Kansas State University
found “a strong correlation between length of time spent dating their
current spouse and marital satisfaction. The researchers noted that
“couples who had dated for more than two years scored consistently
high on marital satisfaction, while couples who had dated for shorter
periods scored in a wide range from very high to very low.”
Some of the biggest fiascoes I’ve seen have been with previously
married persons who thought they could skip all the kid stuff and rush
into marriage. The stupidest mistake of all is to try to rush into
marriage.

Stupid Mistake #2: LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE MARRIAGE.
You’ve been dating someone terrific. You get along great. Let’s live
together before getting married to make sure it works.
Another stupid decision in light of recent studies. There are seven
major studies that show that couples who live together before marriage
have a higher divorce rate. Moving in with someone is an act of
immaturity which blasts a loud message. “You don’t have to do much to
get me! Date me a few times and we’ll play house.”
` In marriages that have been preceded by living together only 15 out
of 100 couples stay married. The odds are four to one against a
live-in relationship lasting.
Marriage has some definite advantages. It offers commitment, status,
rights, and opportunities that living together doesn’t. Marriage
offers mental, social, physical, and spiritual oneness.
Don’t play Russian Roulette with your future! Don’t live together first!

Stupid Mistake #3: BEGIN DATING BEFORE THE DIVORCE IS FINAL.
Tom and Becky were legally separated. Becky had someone else lined up to marry.
But Tom refused to date until the divorce was final. Just before
everything was final, Becky shocked her attorney and Tom by announcing
she wanted to try again. Now she and Tom are working toward
reconciliation.
Until the divorce is final you are still a married person.
Furthermore, a recently separated person is not emotionally ready to
date. Next to failing to date for two years prior to marriage, the
stupidest mistake is to begin dating before the divorce is final.

Stupid Mistake #4: BECOME SEXUALLY INVOLVED BEFORE MARRIAGE
Many singles look to sex to fill the void and make themselves feel
loved. But sex isn’t the answer to feeling unloved. Sex outside of
marriage only complicates the problems we already have. Let’s look at
some of the problems:
(1) Those who have sex before marriage are more likely to divorce.
According to one study they have a 53 to 71% higher divorce rate.
(2) Those who engage in sex before marriage are more likely to break up.
(3) Those who engage in sex before marriage are more likely to
experience extra marital affairs.
(4) Those who engage in sex before marriage experience a devastating
blow to their self worth. Many sacrifice their self-worth at the altar
of sex and get nothing in return. The answer to such problems can be
found in a life committed to Jesus.

Stupid Mistake #5: IGNORE DANGER SIGNALS
Those desperately in love, tend to ignore danger signals. A Gallup
study showed that 38 % of those who divorced were aware of problems
that led to divorce while they were dating but ignored them! There is
a need to do some serious investigation early in a relationship.
If you want to know something ask questions. It’s a red flag if he/she
doesn’t answer. It’s another red flag if he/she doesn’t have friends
and never introduces you to family or friends.
If your friends speak well of your date and it all jives with what you
know, you are probably okay. But if you pick up negative vibes of any
kind you must do some serious investigation. Listen carefully for
information about a former mate and the reason for divorce.
Take off your rose-colored glasses. If you don’t do some serious
investigation now you may spend a lot of time and money in a
counselor’s office later on. Remember, a person with something to hide
rarely wears a sign around their neck or wants you to know about it.

Stupid Mistake #6: MARRY WITHOUT PREMARITAL PREPARATION.
“What do I need premarital preparation for?” one man blurted out.
“I’ve been married three times!” This is precisely why premarital
preparation is decidedly needed!
Most churches require engaged couples to have only two or three
counseling sessions in which most of the discussion focuses on
planning the wedding service. There is no required waiting period, no
required reading, no training in communication skills, no
compatibility testing. A church that functions in this manner becomes
only a “blessing machine” for tomorrow’s divorces.
An effective premarital program should include both a required waiting
period and compatibility testing. An instrument called PREPARE*
(Premarital Personal and Relationship Evaluation) is a useful tool for
predicting a couple’s compatibility. PREPARE gives an objective
diagnosis of relationships strengths and weaknesses as well as
assessing conflict-resolution ability.
The most remarkable element of PREPARE is that it can predict with 86
percent accuracy which couples will divorce and with 78 percent
accuracy which couples will stay happily married. Especially is this
needed for second and or subsequent marriages. Such persons are less
likely to seek premarital guidance. And the older a couple is the more
likely they marry with little or no engagement period or premarital
guidance. PREPARE MC is available for those previously married with
children and MATE, for those over 55 years of age.
One of the big challenges for adult singles is trying to avoid the
potholes of life. All of us face life’s potholes, but single people
must dodge them alone. Trying to escape all of them would be like
attempting to dodge every pothole on the Long Island Expressway in
April.
Through Christ, you as a single adult can have a hope for the future
that goes beyond the broken dreams, promises, and hurt you may have
experienced. Through Jesus you can obtain a vision of your potential
if you gain the courage to face the problem–to begin to risk, to start
over again. Remodeling may require growing pains, but look to the
Master Architect for the finished product.

*Information about PREPARE can be obtained by contacting
PREPARE-ENRICH at P>O> Box 190, Minneapolis, MN 55440.

This article is excerpted from Smart Love–A Field Guide for Single
Adults, by Nancy L. Van Pelt. Fleming H. Revell, Grand Rapids, MI,
49516, 1997.

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