it is sad to say but a lot of nigerian guys i have meet or talked to who tried to be romantic just dont have it in them... they start reciting poetry to you and these kind of poetry are not the ones to blow your mind away they are the kind of poems that makes you want to punch them and ask them to shut up. i actually told a guy off because he was just getting on my nerve.. and the poems that he apparently came up with were lyrics from couple of songs that i recognised...

their favourite happens to be lyrics from boys II men..... and the lines are ridiculous like this guy said oh "that before he met me he was not breathing and then me met and he started breathing"!!!!!!!... a whole load of crap. i was thinking men i could just kill you right now.. that is sooooooo rediculous and Annoying and i feel embarassed for them because they think that they are really good...

are you guys lacking in imagination or just struggling with English?

sad...sad...sad!!!!!

Leave them alone oo. They r trying to be romantic, hopefully they'll achieve their dreams. I guess i'll wait for the guess to comment on this one.

economic situation no finace for all those lovie doviie stuff

I don't know what with the poem, I will like to know too.

Hi Chigszy,

Tell me about your romantic scenarios......or what your definition of being romantic is.....that might help us. Also, why is it that you attract such Nigerian men? 

No! No! Listen, this is the best one." You should be locked up for looking this good". More like you should be locked up for sounding so stupid... Guys!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! so so lame

How many chances have u given these 9ja guys? Basically we operate on different frequencies(guys abd gals). The gals watch alld movies, read all d novels and they have this fantastic idea about love, dnt get me wrong nuttin bad, but u get understand say omo guys no like read novel maybe xcept it's about being rich or has some naked chiks, so at the end of d day we all clash cos we fail 2 understand each other and wen the guyz try 2 meet up, the become as lame as some of the guyza u meet, but u need understand these guyz r deviatn from their norm 2 plz ya, either they r not tryn hard enuf or u fail 2 encourage dem well. Na so d life b lovely ladies. We cnt walk this walk alone we need 2 move 2gether, so it's up 2 each person 2 try 2 strive ahead.

But i sabi plenty guys wey dey drop dope romantic poems. If u need sha i fit hook u up.

.......................1luv

CHIGSZY U MEAN ,POEMS LIKE ,"u are the only cockroach in my cupboard <the sunshine and rainfall of my heart beat<the only hole in my pole ,the abracabra of my bank account,the list goes on and on they even go to the extent of saying i fit die for u ,but when the titanic stuff arises ,dem go jump four storey run ,chigszy no mind them ,action speaks louder than words .no be today.just forget meat head like that .face ur front jareee.






they are all daudas at work .just jump and pass ,no fallin insideooo.

I would sweep you off your feet with the poetry of John Donne, but then I have to break down the poetry so you can understand it. After the hour of reciting the poem, breaking it down, looking in the dictionary to see what valediction means. I promise you, that you will be swept off your feet.

Who started this forum ? Don't u know to be romantic needs money? No guy wants to go that lenght especially d cheap ones. BUT POETRY. Nope ain't a poetry person so any guy that tries being romantic with poetry of all things in the world will certainly get d worst from me.

My boyfriend says poetry to me and I love it. He even sends it to me in text messages and emails everyday. I think it is a cute gesture. I don look so much at what he is doing to be romantic but I look more at the gesture behind it. I think it is great and I even write poetry to him and recite it to him. I say just give the men a chance even if it does sound cheesy, because think about it if you reject this small gesture then he may not make any more romantic gestures down the road for fear of rejection, and then you will be complaining that he does not even try to woo you anymore even with the poetry you are rejecting. Believe me flowers and candy are nice but I have been there and done that, and most of the times those are just material things with no meaning. Any man can go out and buy something for you to passify you and shut you up, but sometimes the meaning behind it is nothing. I have dated men who buy material things and then do not spend any time with you becasue they are having to work over time to put money back into their accounts and then have extra to continue to buy you more things you want. I personally would rather have the time, attention and the sappy poetry, it speaks more to me.

this thread is just hilarious, l.m.a.o

This is the exact same point i was trying to make on a different thread! Some and indeeed most Nigerian guys are just blank when it comes to being romantic....... and "i wasn't breathing till i met you" ? what's that? that is soooooooooooo lame and pathetic and in a way, really really funny . i'd laugh my head off if a guy told me that. Not that i'd be laughing cos i find it funny, i'd be laughing cos it sounds stupid, no offence guys! But seriously, some of you need to learn!
Oh my!This thread is just so funny

here in canada, i think the men r all the same, because they all use the same line, like "Girl, u r d most beautiful nigerian girl i ever met damn,' and i'm standint lookin at them like, what the heck. . I'm not sure if they all have a special meeting somewhere to decide their new lines or somethin,

i know i am beautiful, but as soon as they say it, i'm like damn am i that ugly

hehehe..

"baby, u are very beautiful, i havent come accross any nigerian girl in america that's has beautiful as u are".. Lets say u fall for that one.. and u give them your phone number or better yet email address!

Message from nigerian man/guy.

Baby, i formed this poem myself just to show u how special u are.

"U r my african queen,
the girl of my dreams, u remind me of one thing and that's the african beauty" [like i don't know it's 2face song uh?]
baby girl, if i could re-arrange the alphabeth, i'd put U and I together".

Will sumbody fxcking kill me already??

Friggin naija men..

oh my! that's funny! They should leave 2-face's words and try being original!

watttttt did i hear u say "Nigerian Men Romantically Challenged"?? hahahahahah lol lol lol lol lol ohh myyy!! datz funny!!! i wld sayy not all nigerian guyz r romanticall challenged ...i'd say sum of dez guyz stand OUT!! if u know wat i mean as 4 thozeee romanticallly challenged onez what can we do uhmm lemme see.... ohhh yeahhh smack them n' they'll surely b romantically activce lol lol

that could work chilling!

Interesting thread!

Yes, the majority of Nigerian men can be considered as non-romantics. I'll mention a couple of factors that attribute to this observation.

Abject poverty is a significant factor, Nigerian men have picked up on the fact, that Nigerian women do not fall for the "I who have nothing (but love to give)" type of men, unfortunately romance is deemed as having a direct relationship with material wealth. The men have the "if you want heavy sussy, you must to pay for am" mentality. Sad but true.


It has not been in our tradition to express unrequited love with poems written by the likes of Blake or Keats, neither with the ambience of a piano recital nor with a flower, dowry used to be commonplace...

Unfortunately, there are very few women like yourself, that get tickled by such amorous advances, as mentoned above, if more women begin express their dissatisfaction with the romantic gestures of their men, maybe the men will start to take note...

heyy ocho! tell me sum!! dat'll surely work!!

Let's just say you girls have not met the romantic ones, that's why you are saying all this.

raregroove:

Unfortunately, there are very few women like yourself, that get tickled by such amorous advances, as mentoned above, if more women begin express their dissatisfaction with the romantic gestures of their men, maybe the men will start to take note...

maybe, just maybe!
but well said bro!

Try Italains, you'll have no problems. And it's not only in the talk.

Deadly attack on Nigerian men !!!
This is real "operation kill all unromantic Nigerian men".

We seem to be empahasising only poetry as a means of expressing  romantic feelings. It ought not to be so.
Not everybody is poetic.

There are different ways to express romantic feeling,such as going to the beach,picnic,dancing, cooking together,etc

I think most Nigerian men and  women are unromantic and the reason is not really abject poverty but lack of exposure and this "I am an African man" mentality.

Back in Nigeria I work with a multinational company that pays good salary and yet last year when the company organised a "Couples Night" for married staff members some of my married male colleagues where in the office,claiming to be working hard,while the event was going on at the staff club.I was disappointed.

The way out is for us to allow ourselves to be more exposed to a more romantic way of life and this comes through reading,watching,studying and practicing romantic maneouvres.Not a bad idea to learn from our western counterparts

u know, i think that not all of them are like that and i think we should give them a break


some of them are actually romantic

I agree with you Rolly. Me and my girl friends here in America who are married to or engaged to Nigerian men find them extremely romantic on a daily basis, but I guess that is becasue we are not looking at romance from the material prospective. It is not about the material things but more about the care and concern they show us. It is more about the protection they provide for us. You see we have to learn to look for romance in the simple everyday things these men do. Romance is making dinner so that when you get home from work you can just eat and relax and not have to stand at the stove for an additional hour. Romance is Helping you with the house chores and the laundry. Romance is making sure that when he goes to the market he remembers to pick up the snacks you like to munch on and making sure the beverages you love are always on hand. Romance is rubbing your feet after a hard day. Romance is cuddling with you and whispering sweet words in your ear(even if they are cheesy). Romance is going 30 to 45 minutes out of his way just to pick up from work because he knows you do not have a car just to keep you from having to ride the bus or call a cab. Romance is callling you everyday just to say he loves you and to see how your day went. Romance is uploading your picture onto his computer desktop just so he can look at you all day at work. Romance is kissing you good morning and telling you how beautiful you are. You see these things are very basic and cheap really but they involve time and care. Ant man can buy things when he has the resources, but that does not mean he loves you, it just means he opened his wallet, big deal! But spending time with you or taking time to remember and consider you now that is real romance. When it comes to romance I would say Nigerian men are wonderful!! Yes Nigerian men really do the things I mentioned. Ladies you just need to open your minds and your eyes.

ooh! how sweet!

@ makeda,

Awwwwww! that is sooo sweet!

@ makeda

You see we have to learn to look for romance in the simple everyday things these men do. Romance is making dinner so that when you get home from work you can just eat and relax and not have to stand at the stove for an additional hour. Romance is Helping you with the house chores and the laundry. Romance is making sure that when he goes to the market he remembers to pick up the snacks you like to munch on and making sure the beverages you love are always on hand. Romance is rubbing your feet after a hard day. Romance is cuddling with you and whispering sweet words in your ear(even if they are cheesy). Romance is going 30 to 45 minutes out of his way just to pick up from work because he knows you do not have a car just to keep you from having to ride the bus or call a cab.

@ocho

ooh! how sweet! 

@Rolly

Awwwwww! that is sooo sweet! 

     

See how the women have equated romance with house boyism.
wait ooo.... is the man a house husband ? Considering all the "wonderful" things Makeda expects him to do to prove he his romantic.
In fact, if that is the definition of being romantic,I give up.I don't want to be romantic any more 

what is the "houseboyism" there now MR fun loving?
you don't want to be romanitc any more? ok o! that just proves our point.

@ funlovin

Guy it's all just wat a caring passionate guy does 2 his girl & not house boyism as u feel. Alot of guys do much more and worse and there also guys that don't know when 2 say yes or no. Making a woman feel loved and secure and doin' all those stuff makeda talked about it goes so far in a woman's heart & mind. There so many things you can do that tells a woman you respect & luv her without you actually sayn the words.

Think about it funlovin, it's time 2 keep stereotyped ideas behind

.....................ciao