MarieSucre:
its sexxxx! Its not food! What is even wrong with some people sef. That's why our generation is as silly as they are. Simpe discipline they don't have. They'll make up all sorts of excuses to be intolerant and undisciplined. Some of you men will grumble if for instance your wives asks you to go to church with them all the time or certain meetings that are important to them but then get angry when she starts leaning on pastor. Its the same thing. Be considerate!!! Life isn't all about what only you want.

Although the fundamental ingredient of marriage is sex, procreation and unionism, but be assured that sex has priority whether on the part of men or women. Sex is not ordinary to men as you think. In fact, it is more than food to we men. Go and find out, men are intrinsically obsessed with bitches that can offer it to them with ease.

What is silly if an husband demand for sex from his wife at all time? Have you found out that libidinal energies of men and women are different? Some men can indulge in sex as often as it is available, likewise some women.

You complained about leaning on pastor, if your husband move out of marriage circle to indulge in sex, is it not the same pastor you will bombard with *I-must-possess-back-my-husband* prayers?. Marriage demands flexibility and dynamism: it is meant for matured minds.

A responsible spouse will do everything to satisfy his/her couple to keep his home in peace. this is because love is not a feeling, it is a decision. If there is anything wrong between both of them that the woman is not happy with, she should call her husband's attention to it.

My opinion though.

steph2sweet:
Put him in prayer

U 2 wicked I swear... God won't answer d prayer cos she is trying to bribe God to achieve her desire.... corruption everywhere..... there are a lot beautiful, physical and sexy girls who are dying to have it out there..... pastoress ajidara

hamilton62:

sorry madam, you sound selfish to say this.... do you think your opinion is the grail of all and do you know that some people prefer once a month to your preferred 3-4 times weekly and that also makes you jobless and animalistic just as your post...?
Sorry madam if you misunderstood my opinion but i just want to point out that every marriage has a separate way of handling issues because of the unique nature of spouses.... 1 Corinthians ask for total submission of a husband or wife to each other if a compromise isn't reached...
obedience is not as it pleases one but as it must be or asked to be... if she tries to settle with a 3rd party in this, then she has invited a broken home...
she should learn to adapt with the husband and blended with prayers so that he will have a heart of compromise without going out whenever she isn't feet for it. Remember, the heart of all kings are in God's hands and he said we should start with Him in all we do so that He will grace our efforts.
Must women don't know the type of power they have on men and their husband and this ignorance is mostly among my fellow born again sisters who have no much appetite for sex and never lived the erroneous life of sex outside marriage but that doesn't stop toy from preparing yourself prior tine because you will never be self centred forever because there is marriage in the future if you want to get into that institution without hiccups from your ignorance

that woman no get a dime of sense at all. imagine the rubbish coming out of a married woman. instead of advising the woman to the right direction, she is there talking rubbish, I believe she give her husband all the sex he needed to prevent him from outside chik.

SUCH a useless woman

MrsChima:


I don't think OP is complaining about giving sex...she is saying there is more to marriage than fvcking.

Jobless people have time to fvck all day. 3 to 4 times a week is reasonable and humans are not animals.

nd u tink u v made a contribution...

LadyBoss1:

The best thing uve said
I know ur smart

and I noticed you're cute

9jatatafo:


Some still do it with co-workers and total strangers and still disturb their spouses. I once lived in a neighbourhood where a married woman constantly fought her husband because of this sex thing, the bone of contention was that, every time the man comes from work or from any occasion , the wife will say she MUST sniff her man's joystick to find out if he had used it on another woman. It was so funny and weird. An elderly man in the neighbourhood asked the joystick-sniffing woman this question - What if your husband washed his joystick after the act, will you know? She answered yes. What I am saying is that some individuals both male and female are weird when it comes to this thing called sex. I just feel it is how this set of people are designed and programmed.

That's called being promiscuous and selfish.

sonofananimal:


and you open that rubbish of your called mouth, they take senseless thing


you are very stvpid for saying those trash.

You don't seems smart. Why would I stay with a cheater?

I have never heard a woman or man is stup1d for leaving a cheating spouse with STDs and AIDS very much alive.

You sound bitter...did your woman/man leave you for cheating?

jack67:
babe, talk true?

Yeah you did.

misspicy:

please doc where is the prove that having too much sex will reduce life expentancy? or having sex everyday is noy healthy?
yes a man ought to be understanding abt the schedule of his wife and vice versa but does that stop them frm enjoying the pleasure of marriage?is sex a task or sumtyn stressful?sex is a relaxing exercise for both partner,i see no reason why a man or woman wilk complain abt sex on a daily basis as long as they r married.i can only understand if sex is not enuf.

its not possible to even have sex everyday,atleast the woman has her off days,afterbirth and other situations whereby she wunt be available.
op id just exaggerating.

What I mean by saying it will reduce life expectancy and tell on couples means that it will have negative effect in old age that is everything done without moderation will cause some problem in future. Sex is fun but must not turn to work.

MrsChima:


That's called being promiscuous and selfish.

I agree with you but we shouldn't feel these things don't happen. In courtship or marriages, these will happen till end of time.

simseg01:
Men are not built to be with just one woman, I don’t know why our society is living in denial. Most men who claim they have just one wife are “shooting” left, right and center with other ladies.

Even the single ladies who are looking for one-husband are “firing” other women husband. #GoFigure.

A lady who doesn’t want her man to get another wife even when she can’t satisfy him has cried out:



Keep complaining…just continue. Lol!

http://naijabizcom.com/2015/04/20/my-husband-is-disturbing-me-too-much-with-ex/?utm_source=facebook.com

Men are not built to be with one woman? That's like saying blacks were not wired to be innovative as the whites.
Women are not made of stones either. What do you think happens in a polygamous home where a man thinks he is married to 5 women...Can he satisfy them equally? Can you say that none of the sex starved women won't stray?
The only advice i have for the woman is this- she should involve her husband in caring for the kids. Let him have a feel of what she goes through on a daily basis. When your hands are always full, you'll start thinking less with your dick.

am ur husband's friend, dont worry, you re out of the house already.,

starlingslimnet:
The hypocrisy... am Well sure she is not married and if she must say something she need not tag the woman in question a religion fanatics. You can't compare sex when single to sex when married; there are a lot of task task to do and every woman knows it's not easy unless the woman is a liability to her husband that is jobless. Am not married but have seen my mum do these things for us when we were young it's not easy...she gotta go to work... make breakfast and come home to make dinner and on the weekends she is supposed to rest she had do laundering and still will got to go out together as a family. I mean it's not easy. If you men were women they would not even think of marriage.

I get your point, but she said the plain truth. Please note that the importance of sex in marriage cannot be under-estimated: in fact, it is the solid foundation upon which marriage is built. From my findings, 80-85% of marital conflicts occur as a result of sex, but couples always said something otherwise when contacted. I am neither a pastor nor marriage counselor, I am just a single trying to prepare himself for the challenges that lie ahead in marriage.

There are situations whereby wives has a stronger libido than husband too: this signifies that men have different libido, likewise women. But the most important thing is flexibility and adaptability: that is why marriage is for mature mind and not kids. It requires a lots of sacrifice and forgetfulness of self.

If there is anything going wrong, the couples should sort it out amicably. Denying each other sexual satisfaction will make the marriage to hit the rock in no distant time either consciously or unconsciously.

May God bless my future spouse.

Speakdatruth:
yeah, I don't expect every wife to rule over her husband. I pity him

I don't expect husbands to use sex as a measurement of love and respect.

How can giving reasonable sex is ruling over anyone? I pity your common sense.

Not every tin shud be brought to Nairaland! Nawa o!

preizton:
And u are the type of woman that I want.

Thief!

Jamean:


So is it preferable she dies as a result of the marathon sex?

Some men are not considerate at all. Try to ensure there is libido compromise with your partner. All fingers are not equal.

How can a married woman die of marathon sex, are u dat lame?

Prodeegee:


Who says?

What verse of the bible or qoran?

I voiced my opinion of what I rhink is reasonable. You don't have to agree and I could care less.

sylarsquins:


How can a married woman die of marathon sex, are u dat lame?

People have died during sex. Fact.

vislabraye:



So the husband must be jobless ? Smh.
Oh, because he's asking his wife for sex frequently.
Maybe you have to go to clubs and see for yourself that richmen have a lot of time to fvck .

It is only men like you that think that libido of every man is the same. Have you not seen a woman with stronger libido than her husband. For your information, libidinal energy is quite different from physical one: the fact that you are a goliath is not an indication that you are excellent on bed.

I know of a man living in our compound that can only revive himself through sex whenever he is tired. Thank God for the kind of woman he has, yawa for don gazh, honestly.

JoeCutie:
And why must she be tired every day? See what girls (ladies/women) do; they always 'form' tiredness or nonchalance towards sex whenever the guy wants it. Do you know what they want? They want to be in control; they want to have sex with you when they want, not when you want. In other words, you must wait until she feels like doing it...even if you don't feell like doing it again yourself. (Feminism? Maybe) But this isn't how things should be done. Yes, the guy should understand that she's tired (that's if she's genuinely tired) and let her be SOMETIMES, but NOT ALL the TIME. In a relationship/marriage, people should learn to bend their rules sometimes, just to accommodate their partners. Sometimes I do things not necessarily because I feel like doing it at that particular time, but because I know it would make her happy. And if you see a way to make your partner happy, thereby, strengthening your lrelationship, why not do it?

What's the fvck? Why shouldn't she be tired? Is she a robot? Do you think it is easy to care for kids, home, and hold a full time job? Some people don't have village maids and some women do work outside of the home and take care of the home.

Being tired is taking control? WTF? Relationships failed because you have silly people saying dumb sh1t like I know you are tired and I am Hot. I am a man and I get what I want and if you say no then I will go outside and cheat.

I see you are sick babe but I want sex and if you say no I will divorce you or seek another wife. I know you just had a baby and bit sore but I need sex so perform your duty bish!

MrsChima:



People have died during sex. Fact.

Dats so supernatural n nt natural, buh serzly I blive ur a mature woman and dz comin frm u means u really ve no idea about sex.......

sylarsquins:


Dats so supernatural n nt natural, buh serzly I blive ur a mature woman and dz comin frm u means u really ve no idea about sex.......

it is too much information for people to remain ignorant.

MarieSucre:
My thoughts- If the woman was getting pleasure from it. Probably she is able to reach orgasm each time then she'll look forward to it. If it is just the man mounting her 7 times of day and then rolling of after rigorous pounding leaving the woman like "schmerrrrr" then of course who would look forward to such a chore. Make your wife enjoy sex with you. Meet her sexual needs and probably there will be less resistance.

The woman I believe isn't open to sex as a pleaurable act, frm d way she sounds I doubt if she'll be able to partake on other positions other dan d usual papa mama style aka missionary position

starlingslimnet:
Sometimes I wonder if you had first class in stupidity.

u needed attention and u hv been noticed

Ephemmm:


I get your point, but she said the plain truth. Please note that the importance of sex in marriage cannot be under-estimated: in fact, it is the solid foundation upon which marriage is built. From my findings, 80-85% of marital conflicts occur as a result of sex, but couples always said something otherwise when contacted. I am neither a pastor nor marriage counselor, I am just a single trying to prepare himself for the challenges that lie ahead in marriage.

There are situations whereby wives has a stronger libido than husband too: this signifies that men have different libido, likewise women. But the most important thing is flexibility and adaptability: that is why marriage is for mature mind and not kids. It requires a lots of sacrifice and forgetfulness of self.

If there is anything going wrong, the couples should sort it out amicably. Denying each other sexual satisfaction will make the marriage to hit the rock in no distant time either consciously or unconsciously.

May God bless my future spouse.

There is a difference between denying sex and demanding sex everyday. There should be a balance and if the only activity ones does with their spouse is sex then that is a red flag.

Just because a person demand sex daily doesn't mean either is being pleased.

MrsChima:

it is too much information for people to remain ignorant.

Wateva maam

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9jatatafo:


I agree with you but we shouldn't feel these things don't happen. In courtship or marriages, these will happen till end of time.

No one is denying that cheating doesn't happened but we know there are some people with integrity that won't cheat!