Hello guys, thank you for your help. I'm not Nigerian, and there's something in your culture that I have not been able to understand yet...
Hope you can explain it to me!

Why women invite their ex bf to their wedding?

For example, I date a guy. Then we break up, and a couple of years later I get married with another guy. I invite my ex to the wedding.

I can't understand how it works!!

1) There's a reason why I broke up with my ex boyfriend. However, it seems that things are alright, cause I invite him to my wedding? So we had a good relationship, yet I broke up with him?!

2) won't my fiancé be jealous?!

3) Won't my ex be sad during the wedding, remembering our times together, knowking we will never be together again?

In my own culture, once I've broken up with an ex, there's no way I will invite him to my wedding, so it's hard for me to understand.

Please mature responses, i'm curious and want to understand... Thank u!

Who did the invite

the world doesnt have to end because it didnt work

zoeee:
Who did the invite

My ex, the girl invites the ex to the wedding

Click like if you don't understand this thread

mebad:
the world doesnt have to end because it didnt work

Fine, but is it necessary to invite him to the wedding?

In my country we're very passionate about our relationships, i don't know how you take it in Naija...

It's not just a Nigerian thing dear poster.

skyfullofstars:


My ex, the girl invites the ex to the wedding

I am confused here .... "My ex" , "the girl.... "Are u a male or female?

I invite ma ex so dah he can see how happy i am witout him

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Fine, but is it necessary to invite him to the wedding?

In my country we're very passionate about our relationships, i don't know how you take it in Naija...[/quiote]


it is not necessary. I would go to an ex wedding to prove to her i still want her to be happy even if it is not with me.

zoeee:


I am confused here .... "My ex" , "the girl.... "Are u a male or female?

Omg... Guys, wasnt i clear?
Im female. Im not getting married, i've just given a random example

skyfullofstars:


Fine, but is it necessary to invite him to the wedding?

In my country we're very passionate about our relationships, i don't know how you take it in Naija...

Hmm. So some countries lack passion?

skyfullofstars:


Omg... Guys, wasnt i clear?
Im female. Im not getting married, i've just given a random example

A random example, like a first-hand experience?

skyfullofstars:


Omg... Guys, wasnt i clear?
Im female. Im not getting married, i've just given a random example

He went to ur wedding kz u invited him... If u don't want want him there, don't invite him.... If he comes on his own free will.... Then we need to ask this question.... Or answer... But u stated clearly dat u invited him

Ur grammar na cash n carry

he can to c d guy dt will finish d remains of wat he ate earlier

It is very common to see girls who are under pressure to get married and lot of guys who are not yet ready for genuine reasons (mostly economic). In such cases, you have a mutual understanding to move ahead and in most cases, you are still in talking terms.

In cases like this, you see the girl inviting and the guy attending. Though you can never see the guy inviting his ex (except she is already married) to his wife.

zoeee:



He went to ur wedding kz u invited him... If u don't want want him there, don't invite him.... If he comes on his own free will.... Then we need to ask this question.... Or answer...

U dont understand, im asking why would a girl invite his ex to the wedding?

skyfullofstars:


U dont understand, im asking why would a girl invite his ex to the wedding?

Mmmm... I see... Please modify your question...

ITbomb:
It is very common to see girls who are under pressure to get married and lot of guys who are not yet ready for genuine reasons (mostly economic). In such cases, you have a mutual understanding to move ahead and in most cases, you are still in talking terms.

In cases like this, you see the girl inviting and the guy attending. Though you can never see the guy inviting his ex (except she is already married) to his wife.

Finally a mature answer, thank u!! I was about to delete the post already

Another question, why wouldnt the guy invite his ex?

yawns

boolet:

A random example, like a first-hand experience?

No, im not married yet, and i wouldnt invite my ex to my wedding.

Because Lil wayne said"Fvck a nigga wife and eat his wedding cake".........my ex...I screw am tire and still ate her hobbies wedding cake.#Gangsta#thuglife.........Warning*Karma dey o!

Why not? I'd like to witness
the dude dancing to the altar,
proud to be inheriting
my fairly used goods

skyfullofstars:


No, im not married yet, and i wouldnt invite my ex to my wedding.

I mean who invited her ex that you know and is Nigerian?

nagreggory:
Why not? I'd like to witness
the dude dancing to the altar,
proud to be inheriting
my fairly used goods

Bad niqqa

Provided that i am a girl.. There is nothing wrong inviting your ex to your wedding.. But if you aint a virgin to your husband, it is better not to invite him.. Unless somebody else does.. Coz when your husby sight him, he would do nothimg but the thought of you guys once had sex together will cross his mind...and it may and may not affect your relationship when that thought flashes his mind often
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skyfullofstars:


U dont understand, im asking why would a girl invite his ex to the wedding?

to prove to her husband to be that she is over that relationship with her ex....... I think its okay to invite an ex to one's wedding. It rests on the ex whether to attend the wedding or not.

I have never attended and ex's wedding and I never will

OP learn to let things go, it shows maturity.

OP,

sometimes we think that being friends means that love relationship can also work. Not always so. There are some ladies I like so much and adore but I also know that a relationship won't work. Lots of people cannot appreciate or accept that fact and get involved. At the end, it crashes.
But that friendship can still remain if no party was seriously heartbroken by it.

Depending on the level of maturity and friendship before the love affair, both might still remain friends. In that case, such an invite is ok. But if I think my presence could cause jealousy or discomfort, I won't attend. In fact, I keep some distance from female friends when they get married. Just to protect their marriage because some men are very jealous/insecure. Some have interpreted it as me being unhappy because they got married. Which is completely wrong.

In reality, you can never really tell how many of the guests present once had an affair with your new wife or hubby. People don't reveal everything even in the best relationships. So the current commitment is what matters.

skyfullofstars:
Hello guys, thank you for your help. I'm not Nigerian, and there's something in your culture that I have not been able to understand yet...
Hope you can explain it to me!

Why women invite their ex bf to their wedding?

For example, I date a guy. Then we break up, and a couple of years later I get married with another guy. I invite my ex to the wedding.

I can't understand how it works!!

1) There's a reason why I broke up with my ex boyfriend. However, it seems that things are alright, cause I invite him to my wedding? So we had a good relationship, yet I broke up with him?!

2) won't my fiancé be jealous?!

3) Won't my ex be sad during the wedding, remembering our times together, knowking we will never be together again?

In my own culture, once I've broken up with an ex, there's no way I will invite him to my wedding, so it's hard for me to understand.

Please mature responses, i'm curious and want to understand... Thank u!

Its simple, its to see if the new dude or babe is better.

Like a poster righter said,its maturity,what is wrong in inviting an ex to ur wedding?....life is sweet,just move on