I'm so confused right now and i need your candid advice about this issue,

I met dis guy in 2004 and we became friends, i mean a platonic one, he made
his intensions known to me about how he wld want us to be a in a relationship,
i agreed and it all started but for the fact that i do not believe in sex before marriage,
so each time he brings up the issue, i kindly brush it off.

The problem now is, he hardly calls and he sees me once in a blue moon, pls advice.

Hey girl, face it. He's not your BF.

do non virgins still practice 'no sex before marriage'
well, u gast to move on

if you want to be in the relationship then you'll have to give hi.m sex and head too

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Thanks y'all, i told him the last time he called that if he has no intention of taking the relationship serious anymore he should stop calling. He actually did, i didnt hear from him for close to a month, only for him to call just yesterday and i shunned him off the phone.

OMO IBO:

do non virgins still practice 'no sex before marriage'
well, u gast to move on

What made you so sure that i'm not a virgin?

segzi cres:

if you want to be in the relationship then you'll have to give hi.m sex and head too

Is that the only way to make a relationship work?

OfficeGirl:

What made you so sure that i'm not a virgin?

Is that the only way to make a relationship work?

No sweetie, dont listen to them. Any man that's making sex a criteria for dating you just dosent deserve you. You should only do it when you want to, not because he wants you to.

Its the same guy complaining that you've refused to sleep with him today that will turn round tomorrow to call you 'loose' for sleeping with him.

OfficeGirl:

Thanks y'all, i told him the last time he called that if he has no intention of taking the relationship serious anymore he should stop calling. He actually did, i didnt hear from him for close to a month, only for him to call just yesterday and i shunned him off the phone.

Give him what he wants, stop bawling.

oh dear thats no relationship and he is not your boyfriend. you will meet another man and i hope he will be one who can bear this no sex before marriage thing.its gonna be pretty hard but some men still roll that way.

U'll b an ex if dat dude don't get sex. . .boys dey vex!

"no sex before marriage" now,thats a scary sentence for most guys but goodluck trying to build a relationship behind that sentence.

~Sauron~:

Give him what he wants, stop bawling.

I would not, if that is the reason why he's been behaving
funny then i'll have to say good bye.

OfficeGirl:

I would not, if that is the reason why he's been behaving
funny then i'll have to say good bye.

what if your next boy friend wants sex?
you'd deny him sex as well?
is that how you know if a guy loves you?

OfficeGirl:

I would not, if that is the reason why he's been behaving
funny then i'll have to say good bye.

you are a good lady. you are very rare. continue to keep yourself for it is the right thing to do. the right man will come at the right time. this guy obviously dont deserve you.

ask all the men here telling you to have sex with him why they didnt marry the girls they had sex with.

Move on, and remain single cos u'll face this issue in 9 out of 10 relationships. . .  Forget about the guy, he's probably getting all the sex he needs from another hottie somewhere who initially believed in 'no sex b4 marriage'

The guy no sabi jare,
Rules are made to be broken, if he gat all his formalities ryt girl you would have forgotten that sentence long ago,
Shame on him!

@poster,
if he can't live with that he can go,stick to your plans,he is not worth it,at the long run he will get to know how hard it is to find people like you,he should be proud of you.tell him to go to hellll.

@snez,
Man you are definitely like the guy she is talking about,sex is absolutely nothing outside marriage,think about it.

I appreciate y'all, both the good, bad and ugly responses!

It's not like i'm a virgin, but this guy portrayed himself like he was different
from others, Though he had never told me that sex was his problem in the
relationship.

But seriously guys, do you think sex could be the reason for his behaviours?

Poster, I was once in your position but the difference is that luckily my bf did not dissapear. He was still at my side through good and rough times. But however, I just feel his pain you know, . . I just can feel that when a guy has a girl by his side, he might be suffering deep within if theres no sexual activities. So thats when I decided to learn how to do pre-intimacy and give a good Mouth Gig. I went watching porn and karma sutra and read articles and magazines and I did experiments on him. We have not done sex but still its a little satisfying than no sexual activities at all.

I gues yeah, sex could or might be the act of his behaviours.


But no matter what, I dont think it should be the most important thing in the world

Just has gabrywyl said just give a Mouth Gig or other pre-intimacy when he feels like it although its not the same as the real thing but better off. I had a gf then that was like u no sex b4 marriage we did everything but no actual sex which I was still Ok with until one night she begged me for sex LOL! it was so funny anyway take gabrywyl advice or just leave him when his tired of it he will come back thats if he has not met his dream girl.

OfficeGirl:

But seriously guys, do you think sex could be the reason for his behaviours?

U want a candid answer abi
The reason y he's behaving funny is because of the sex (take it or leave it).
Some  guys lose interest after avn sex with their partner, while others develop more love afterwards. So that's problem number 2 (it's not even about avn sex with u).
I had sex with my chick 2weeks after we met, we are now 9months into the relationship and are both talkn abt takin it 2 d highest level next yr( hope u catch my drift).
So officeGirl, it's not abt him avn sex with u, it's abt u keepn ur place after the sex.
It needs luck and prayer

@ poster

If he really loves you and appreciate other important things about you, he will surely come back. Afterall, you are not trying to get into guiness book of record for the amount of men you have slept with.

, though do not him as a bad person because it takes a lot of discipline and the spirit of God in a man to over sexual desires, especially if you with someone you fancy

Thanks y'all, so what do i do since i dont want to give in, do i just forget about him?

@ Byte, Welcome to Nairaland, i'm so proud to get your first post on my thrend!

hey girl if you really love him and you feel he loves you too do not forget about him but just make him see reasons with you and always learn to stand your ground except it comes from your mind to do it. ONE LOVE GIRL.

gabrywyl:

Poster, I was once in your position but the difference is that luckily my bf did not dissapear. He was still at my side through good and rough times. But however, I just feel his pain you know, . . I just can feel that when a guy has a girl by his side, he might be suffering deep within if theres no sexual activities. So thats when I decided to learn how to do pre-intimacy and give a good Mouth Gig. I went watching porn and karma sutra and read articles and magazines and I did experiments on him. We have not done sex but still its a little satisfying than no sexual activities at all.

I gues yeah, sex could or might be the act of his behaviours.


But no matter what, I dont think it should be the most important thing in the world

Not sayin it doesn't work 4 u,bt is tht d best option?
most guys cant handle dis(Mouth Gig) u knw.Cant imagine a Mouth Gig witout sex,real punishment(i go tear tht gal tht day)i guess u dont knw d consequence of dis witout followin it up wit sex.Not da best option sweetie.
@ poster
Love doesn't av anything to do wit sex, i guess is drivin it too far 4 keepin away frm yo,bcoz of dis.Bt blieve me-d next person might agree not 2 av sex wit u,bt keep on avin sex wit other gurls(while keepin U), u ok wit dis?

Hoh-Dee:

Not sayin it doesn't work 4 u,bt is tht d best option?
most guys cant handle dis(Mouth Gig) u knw.Cant imagine a Mouth Gig witout sex,real punishment(i go tear tht gal tht day)i guess u dont knw d consequence of dis witout followin it up wit sex.Not da best option sweetie.

Yes I know but still, its better than nothing right? I know my bf tells me that the best thing is sex and he always could not wait but than again, he understands and will be patient to wait if he really does loves me. But mind you, Im trying. . . Just that this breaking of hymen thing is not as easy as it seems to be.

you be virgin,
why you no let let the guy rest mid now, if na me na this same thing i go do ooooo
when am sure you are a virgin, so why keeping your self away from him then

Poster, please let him phock you good. He will be please and you will be please as well

@ Anthonykil, Comot for road! I would rather allow another guy do it,
he just doesn't worth it!

@ Gabrywyl i think bj would not actually go down well with me, its as good
as having sex with him dont you think?