free2ryhme:


He stays in osogbo and thinks the economy their is similar too lagos abi?

His 600' no reach 2 bedroom for a year for lagos oo

devour129:
You guys have to learn that you don't need money to marry a wife ! Ask me why

bigv:
Can believe a grown ass man is asking such question. This simply implies;

* He's definitely not ready for marriage, and I pity the girl who'd commit to him.

* What was the source of the 600K? Is it sustainable? How long did it take him to make that amount?

* The third is just like the first, as a grown ass man, people with vision have married with a lot less.

I think the problem most times, is we have too many immature men jumping into marriage. Cos if you ask me, I didn't pick a wife for you, so I don't know why you'd ask if 600K is okay. Pls ask Cosmas Maduka

devour129:
You guys have to learn that you don't need money to marry a wife ! Ask me why

bigiyaro:
ur frnd is simply nt ready. He is d type dat schools till kindom come.

Abugab:
Marriage is not all about money per se but how responsible you are.
600k for a wedding is not bad when prudently managed but it is more than just the wedding as marriage comes with responsibilities that involves huge finance.
His income is steady and he has got prospects, the lady in question is educated and has got fashion designing as another possible source of income stream though not yet fully in action. If the girl has her dreams to have a career, she can search for a job and build further income for the family. They can choose to go on break with child bearing by having a family plan for at least two years to enable the girl secure a job and better still, make income from the fashion designer which could be lucrative if she knows the job and markets well. The guy can also use this window to do his Masters before the kids starts coming.
For me, he can choose to settle down but there must be certain areas of agreement between the two of them as na their headache e be.

africanusvu:
Marriage isn't Buying and selling where one needs certain capital and expects certain profit,it is a mutual venture bw two LOVED partners with only one condition,everlasting Love,with any amt of money,so far u agree and hav ambition,You can make it

jaybee3:


Is she threatening to leave because of uncertainties surrounding your commitment towards her or because of your current financial status?

If the former, nothing wrong with engaging her if she is the woman on your dream then set yourself a 6-12 month target for the wedding.
If the later, dump her!

amnesty7:

Let him wait, possibly at 45 he would have become wealthy; then he can marry.

devour129:
You guys have to learn that you don't need money to marry a wife ! Ask me why

Ephemmm:


With 600k: do you want to apply? He is not married yet: overtaking is allowed

Abugab:
Marriage is not all about money per se but how responsible you are.
600k for a wedding is not bad when prudently managed but it is more than just the wedding as marriage comes with responsibilities that involves huge finance.
His income is steady and he has got prospects, the lady in question is educated and has got fashion designing as another possible source of income stream though not yet fully in action. If the girl has her dreams to have a career, she can search for a job and build further income for the family. They can choose to go on break with child bearing by having a family plan for at least two years to enable the girl secure a job and better still, make income from the fashion designer which could be lucrative if she knows the job and markets well. The guy can also use this window to do his Masters before the kids starts coming.
For me, he can choose to settle down but there must be certain areas of agreement between the two of them as na their headache e be.

Ephemmm:


He is actually working in Lagos at present: VI to be precise.

benjaminiyke:
Seconded! The poster should comply with your advice. Marriage should be all about compatibility,understanding and communication...forget love,even that fades away. Your comment is very helpful.

Eyekandi:


Lol. Now I know it's you
, admit Already!

Ephemmm:
Access Bank as a contract staff with 70k as salary. but also strive hard to have 600k in his account. My friend has also acquired two plots of land in “not too enlightened area” in Osogbo. He is 32 years of age now. Without accommodation of his own at present

Ephemmm:


Imagine! if it is me and I come here online, will I be crucified for that? Remember, this is anonymous site, I can never be ashamed of airing my situation online.

Who knows, whether I am the one sitting besides you or even your younger brother? The situation is as real as death

Ephemmm:
Despite staying idle for over a year after his graduation from one of Nigerian Polytechnics, my friend finally secured his first job at Access Bank as a contract staff with 70k as salary. After two years in Access Bank, he did not only become a graduate member of a professional body in his discipline, but also strive hard to have 600k in his account. My friend has also acquired two plots of land in “not too enlightened area” in Osogbo, the capital state capital of Osun State. As a very ambitious man, he is also considering going for his Master Degree Programme, but has not yet decide on which the course and direction to follow.

At a talented student, he came out as the best candidate among both Universities and Polytechnic graduates called for interview in one of private firms in Nigeria and has started working with them with N115k as net monthly salary in the past few months.
He is 32 years of age now, and he is in love with a lady of 26 who was her junior while in Polytechnic. The lady in question too has combined fashion school with her job search, the ambition which has not yet come to a fruition.

The bone of contention now is the insistence of my friend that his would-be-partner MUST be employed gainfully too before he can have a slightest though about marriage despite intense pressures from all angles. His parents have assured him of little help during marriage ceremony, but his self-reliant tendency has not acceded to their admonition. In my own perception about him, he is not ready to settle down for marriage as a result of his 'over ambition' in academic line: truly he is talented and I can beat my chest for him anyday anytime when it comes his discipline.

Without accommodation of his own at present, coupled with the need for marriage expenses and the need to further his education, should he consider settling for marriage in Lagos now?

As one of his closest friend, I decided to narrate this incidence on nairaland so that he can get first-hand-advice different from my own perspective because he is a kind of somebody that nobody can compel to do something unless he is personally and totally convinced, just like me.

This is a true life scenario: matured advice is needed. Thank God he is a nairalander too

Yomieluv:
If #600k is the price to marry,by now,I would have been a multiple polygamist hubby.,

600k is damn too small in the present Nigeria,where a kilo of turkey is #1000 as at this morning,and a derica of beans is #190.. Tomatoes is expensive,4 pieces for #100,and pepper is scarce.

House rent is killing,and a good school fees is beyond the minimum wage.

So think twice.

Koolking:


BTW, Op, this is you, not any friend. If it's not you directly, then you are in the same predicament with the original writer. That makes this thread C&P.

Marriage is a mean to an end, not all there is in life. Marriage is not fulfillment and happiness. These are choices that are within us.

For a dude who work hard to save N600k without accommodation (privacy) of his own, then the dude is immature and the thought of marriage is a misplaced priority. The picture you painted approves that you are still living under your parents and are confined to whims and caprices of parenting.

Leave marriage for now and concentrate on your career until you are of mature age to marriage.

gabazin080:
Now that am back from the mods prison. I will continue bashing you guys until you stop being clueless.
Now back to the topic, I will advice you reason with your brain and not your d*ck. Don't let the thought of free pvssy involved in marriage make you do what you will regret. Besides you don't need someone to tell you when you are ready.
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