sonnyudoh:
Broke broke broke guys commenting above me at the moment how many of u can even boast of an untouched 500k in ur account lets hear word abeggggggii

Fxwarrior:


Why I agree that marriage is a good thing I cannot subscribe he's ready to face the pressure since he's hands are full at the moment.

What is #600 000 that would be gulped down with the marriage preparation? Meanwhile the fiancee is unemployed and there's no guarantee she will get a job immediately after the wedding meaning that all her financial needs and desires will be shouldered by your friend as it is. I don't know if the fiancee is as ambitious as he is or if she can manage finances in wisdom as you left that part.

Let him start building a house on those plots of land as it would make things easier for him in future. He's right to insist the fiancee should get employed albeit self employed since its her role to be a help meet. So what help can she render to him should he marry her now?

If your friend or you as I don't know if you are person marries her now then it means you are not man enough to take decisions and would fall further to future pressures to them.

Marriage is a liability especially where only one party iss financially involved.

badboyphc:
I am 23 with 6.3M bank balance and I am not ready sef. I pity you. 600k. mtchew

ibedun:


Dangerous advise, just because your co-workers are happy scratching a living does not mean the OP's friend should settle for that kind of doing fine.

Oga leave the woman jare, when your money comes and you marry in opulence you will too enjoy your marriage o!

olumide4christ:


I CAN'T HELP BUT SOUND THIS NOTE OF WARNING TO THOSE WHO HAVE SUBCONSCIOUSLY SET THEIR MINDS TO HAVE A COLOSSAL SUM OF MONEY IN THEIR BANK ACCT BEFORE THEY MARRY!

I am saying this based on the 4 years of blessed marriage I have had and also based on other people's experiences I have learnt about.

1. Having a colossal sum of money in ur bank account, car(s), your own house, a well-paid job, a business empire, etc is not a guarantee whatsoever that you will get a good wife. Good wives are not easy to find these days and I can assure you that the above-mentioned items will not lead you to them or attract them to you.
REASON - Good wives are also looking for good husbands (both in the present and the future) and they surely know that a man that has all the above-mentioned items does not necessarily mean a good husband.
- If you have the above-mentioned items and you have a troublesome, extravagant, abusive wife, be rest assured that you can't enjoy the above-mentioned items in your marriage. Haven't you ever asked yourself why a man would just disappear from his home for a while or intentionally keep late nights at the office continuously? Go figure - they are probably having unsettled homes! Afterall, ANT can't run away from sugar! I have heard of people working in top firms like Schlumberger & co. who lamented that they had all that was needed to get married and many ladies were flocking around them for those things, but their heartache was that THEY WERE LOOKING FOR LADIES WHO ACTUALLY LOVED THEM FOR WHOM THEY WERE, AND NOT FOR WHAT THEY OWNED! WHAT AN IRONY OF LIFE! BEWARE - YOU CAN'T EASILY DETERMINE WHO TRULY LOVES YOU WHEN YOU HAVE ALL THE GOODIES AROUND YOU! ITS BETTER TO START SMALL WITH YOUR SPOUSE & GROW TOGETHER!

2. Some women are wise in spending (prudent) while others are foolish in spending (extravagant). Now I assure you that - if for example you have saved N10 - N15 million for wedding/marriage, and your fiancee is extravagant enough to allow you spend N5 million or N10 million on a wedding simply because you have the money, not thinking that there are other things to be done with money after the wedding day, I can assure you that whatever funds you have left from your savings will not be able to sustain that woman through the early period of your marriage. WHY?? Because she has high tastes.
On the other hand, a prudent/wise woman like the woman in Proverbs chapter 31 in the bible will not agree with you to spend 70-80% of your savings on a one-day wedding, but would rather encourage you to save for a rainy day.

TO THE UNMARRIED GUYS - IGNORE THIS ADVICE AT YOUR PERIL! YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!

TRUST IN JESUS CHRIST FOR WISDOM IN MARRIAGE & ALL OTHER ENDEAVOURS!

laudable:
Your friend is out of his mind, a man of his calibal without a wife is incomplete and not wise, means he is very stingy cos he wants his wife to struggle too to support the marriage.

demiawise:
3rdconded lol. Nice advice man, I love your opinion. God bless you.

demiawise:
3rdconded lol. Nice advice man, I love your opinion. God bless you.

Yomieluv:
If #600k is the price to marry,by now,I would have been a multiple polygamist hubby.,

600k is damn too small in the present Nigeria,where a kilo of turkey is #1000 as at this morning,and a derica of beans is #190.. Tomatoes is expensive,4 pieces for #100,and pepper is scarce.

House rent is killing,and a good school fees is beyond the minimum wage.

So think twice.

Ephemmm:


He is my 'senior friend' though, but remember, nobody is an island of knowledge.

olumide4christ:


BROS, You hit the nail on the head! Many men do not understand God's purpose of marriage (He is the author of marriage) and so many have missed it (made mistakes) big time and they regret it today!
When I proposed to my wife in 2009, I don't think I had up to N50k in my account because I had just gotten an accommodation of almost N500K (total package) about 2 months before, combined with the cost of relocation and buying some important things to the house. At the time, I was on a salary of just N80K per month.
But because I and my wife understood that money is not everything as far as marriage is concerned, she accepted my proposal and we went ahead to court for almost 2 years before getting married. My wife was doing some business at the time, though a graduate while I was in paid employment. And as God would bless us, we did our wedding which cost over N800k with some cash to spare, and by God's grace, 4 years on in the marriage, we haven't had to beg anybody for assistance. God has been sufficient. I am now self-employed, along with my wife.

So therefore, the OP's friend, based on my understanding and experience, is ready for marriage. All he needs to do is get an accommodation and work hard and trust God (if he is a Christian) to bless the works of his hands in order to have a wedding and get married.

I will also advise him that wedding should not be elaborate due to his financial situation, he should cut his cloth according to his size. I myself, if I were to do my wedding again, will not spend N800k on it because it simply isn't necessary.

All the best as you trust God to do it for you!

Yomieluv:
If #600k is the price to marry,by now,I would have been a multiple polygamist hubby.,

600k is damn too small in the present Nigeria,where a kilo of turkey is #1000 as at this morning,and a derica of beans is #190.. Tomatoes is expensive,4 pieces for #100,and pepper is scarce.

House rent is killing,and a good school fees is beyond the minimum wage.
So think twice.

Ephemmm:
Despite staying idle for over a year after his graduation from one of Nigerian Polytechnics, my friend finally secured his first job at Access Bank as a contract staff with 70k as salary. After two years in Access Bank, he did not only become a graduate member of a professional body in his discipline, but also strive hard to have 600k in his account. My friend has also acquired two plots of land in “not too enlightened area” in Osogbo, the capital state capital of Osun State. As a very ambitious man, he is also considering going for his Master Degree Programme, but has not yet decide on which the course and direction to follow.

At a talented student, he came out as the best candidate among both Universities and Polytechnic graduates called for interview in one of private firms in Nigeria and has started working with them with N115k as net monthly salary in the past few months.
He is 32 years of age now, and he is in love with a lady of 26 who was her junior while in Polytechnic. The lady in question too has combined fashion school with her job search, the ambition which has not yet come to a fruition.

The bone of contention now is the insistence of my friend that his would-be-partner MUST be employed gainfully too before he can have a slightest though about marriage despite intense pressures from all angles. His parents have assured him of little help during marriage ceremony, but his self-reliant tendency has not acceded to their admonition. In my own perception about him, he is not ready to settle down for marriage as a result of his 'over ambition' in academic line: truly he is talented and I can beat my chest for him anyday anytime when it comes his discipline.

Without accommodation of his own at present, coupled with the need for marriage expenses and the need to further his education, should he consider settling for marriage in Lagos now?

As one of his closest friend, I decided to narrate this incidence on nairaland so that he can get first-hand-advice different from my own perspective because he is a kind of somebody that nobody can compel to do something unless he is personally and totally convinced, just like me.

This is a true life scenario: matured advice is needed. Thank God he is a nairalander too

ogawisdom:


U r ur imaginary friend in all of this. U won't get my advice until u stop lying n admit its u

Ephemmm:


What is your business whether it is me or not? For your information, the person I am referring to is live on this forum, learning one or two things.

However, will I be crucified for doing that if it is me? or what is shameful in it if I come here to expose my personal problem in a anonymous forum? If you have advice, give: keep it to yourself if you don't. Nobody cares.....

ogawisdom:


Shut up liar maggot

Ephemmm:
Despite staying idle for over a year after his graduation from one of Nigerian Polytechnics, my friend finally secured his first job at Access Bank as a contract staff with 70k as salary. After two years in Access Bank, he did not only become a graduate member of a professional body in his discipline, but also strive hard to have 600k in his account. My friend has also acquired two plots of land in “not too enlightened area” in Osogbo, the capital state capital of Osun State. As a very ambitious man, he is also considering going for his Master Degree Programme, but has not yet decide on which the course and direction to follow.

At a talented student, he came out as the best candidate among both Universities and Polytechnic graduates called for interview in one of private firms in Nigeria and has started working with them with N115k as net monthly salary in the past few months.
He is 32 years of age now, and he is in love with a lady of 26 who was her junior while in Polytechnic. The lady in question too has combined fashion school with her job search, the ambition which has not yet come to a fruition.

The bone of contention now is the insistence of my friend that his would-be-partner MUST be employed gainfully too before he can have a slightest though about marriage despite intense pressures from all angles. His parents have assured him of little help during marriage ceremony, but his self-reliant tendency has not acceded to their admonition. In my own perception about him, he is not ready to settle down for marriage as a result of his 'over ambition' in academic line: truly he is talented and I can beat my chest for him anyday anytime when it comes his discipline.

Without accommodation of his own at present, coupled with the need for marriage expenses and the need to further his education, should he consider settling for marriage in Lagos now?

As one of his closest friend, I decided to narrate this incidence on nairaland so that he can get first-hand-advice different from my own perspective because he is a kind of somebody that nobody can compel to do something unless he is personally and totally convinced, just like me.

This is a true life scenario: matured advice is needed. Thank God he is a nairalander too

loomer:
na from clap dem take dey enter dance.

make him marry, things go better

ifoundmyperfect:
Forget marriage, he sld opt for a babymama... marriage can come once he is >80% self-reliant...

deeobserver209:

Wonderful testimony! Your message will seriously help young guys out there set their priorities straight especialy as it concerns marriage. Wish you the best in all your endevours.

Ephemmm:
Despite staying idle for over a year after his graduation from one of Nigerian Polytechnics, my friend finally secured his first job at Access Bank as a contract staff with 70k as salary. After two years in Access Bank, he did not only become a graduate member of a professional body in his discipline, but also strive hard to have 600k in his account. My friend has also acquired two plots of land in “not too enlightened area” in Osogbo, the capital state capital of Osun State. As a very ambitious man, he is also considering going for his Master Degree Programme, but has not yet decide on which the course and direction to follow.

At a talented student, he came out as the best candidate among both Universities and Polytechnic graduates called for interview in one of private firms in Nigeria and has started working with them with N115k as net monthly salary in the past few months.
He is 32 years of age now, and he is in love with a lady of 26 who was her junior while in Polytechnic. The lady in question too has combined fashion school with her job search, the ambition which has not yet come to a fruition.

The bone of contention now is the insistence of my friend that his would-be-partner MUST be employed gainfully too before he can have a slightest though about marriage despite intense pressures from all angles. His parents have assured him of little help during marriage ceremony, but his self-reliant tendency has not acceded to their admonition. In my own perception about him, he is not ready to settle down for marriage as a result of his 'over ambition' in academic line: truly he is talented and I can beat my chest for him anyday anytime when it comes his discipline.

Without accommodation of his own at present, coupled with the need for marriage expenses and the need to further his education, should he consider settling for marriage in Lagos now?

As one of his closest friend, I decided to narrate this incidence on nairaland so that he can get first-hand-advice different from my own perspective because he is a kind of somebody that nobody can compel to do something unless he is personally and totally convinced, just like me.

This is a true life scenario: matured advice is needed. Thank God he is a nairalander too

JKisOK:


Babymama! Ladies, una see una life? You are gradually being reduced to sperm incubators and baby-making factories, to be impregnated when boys want babies without responsibility. Babymamas indeed!