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Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 8:30am On Jul 23, 2015
benedictac:


I know this person must be a male. Eeeya! Kai!
I KNOW THIS PERSON MUST BE ONE OF THEM. SHM
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Chibabe1(f): 8:46am On Jul 23, 2015
Some mothers are difficult people o.
Ladies, please just be yourself and love your mother-in-law as you would your own mother. smiley
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Dara55(m): 9:01am On Jul 23, 2015
AliuAbdulwahab:
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The other day, I was watching a discussion on TV about how to deal with difficult mothers in law and a lady said that she would prefer her mother in law dead before she gets married. Like seriously?

Ladies don't always like the mention of mothers in law because they feel threatened by them. And actually, many mothers in law are always finding fault in their daughters in law. They are not easily impressed. This issue sometimes ago raised the debate question 'who owns the man, mother or wife?". The point mothers in law are trying to make is that they gave birth to and nurtured the man you call your husband while the wives also want to prove the point that the man now belongs to them because the day they got married, they became one and hence belong to each other.

This does not apply to only African mothers in law. Even the oyinbos complain about them too. The truth is that you will be at the losing end if you don't learn to cope with the excesses of your mother in law. Couples divorce but families hardly do. So, these points I will be mentioning below will go a long way in helping those that have been doing google searches on 'how to impress/cope with my mother in law'.

1. Lower your expectations of your mother in law
Knowing that mothers in law are unpredictable, expect the worse from them. By so doing, you would not be shocked at any strange doings by your mother in law. I am not promoting the fallacy of poisoning the well but when you equip yourself with the general belief that a mother in law could give you hell, then you will try avoid being shown hell.

2. Do not take her criticism personal:
A mother in law could make you believe that you are not good for her son. She could undermine you in front of your husband and kids.
She could really pose as a threat in your home in a case of delayed child birth. The thing is that you have to remain focused on strengthening your marriage rather than thinking through all her criticisms. At no point should you try to pick quarrel with her. Avoid the fire-for-fire approach.

3. Communication:
Do not be the type of daughter in law that doesn't ask after her husbands family. If you would want to have it cool with your mother in law, always call her on phone in a case she's far away. And if she's near, find time to to pay her visits and don't forget to go with petty gifts. By so doing, you are buying her over.

4. Encourage your husband in giving both financial and moral care to his parents:
Some wives are only concerned about their own family forgetting that their husbands family exist. Your mother in law or any other person from your husband's family won't have any problem with you if they know that you have not tried to monopolize your husband's income. Always remind your husband to care for his parents before they think that its your people you packing the money to.

Source: http://www.abdoolwahab.com/2015/07/you-wont-have-problem-with-your-mother.html






Gbam! u are correct but most ladies are too arrogant to do this. Mind u if u wish your mother-in-law dead, sooner or later u will also become one.
Those who sow wind will surely reap whirl wind.

Mothers we celebrate you!
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by bbjummy: 9:09am On Jul 23, 2015
I bless God for my own mother in law o. We even sleep on the same bed, gist and laugh together. She is really wonderful and I love her.
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 9:21am On Jul 23, 2015
efonat:
[size=30pt]I don't have any financial obligations to my mother in law[/size].

JUST LISTEN TO YOURSELF, WOMAN WRAPPER. grin
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 9:22am On Jul 23, 2015
Taylor86:
A bad mother in law can't be pleased

do good to her today

tomorrow she forgets and cancel them cos of a minor mistake

if u fry egg for her everyday

ITS ONLY BECAUSE YOU NEVER HAD A GOOD ONE.
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Durojelife(m): 9:53am On Jul 23, 2015
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Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Akuneshiobike(m): 11:04am On Jul 23, 2015
guntranno:
Easier said
Babe, like seriously, you look exactly like the lady i wedded in my dream lastnight.
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by sayoberry(f): 11:53am On Jul 23, 2015
Your mother inlaw will be wicked if she is like that. Some women are bitter, bitter, really bitter sadists. No matter how you try to please them. If you like, serve your head in a plate for them. They will always be the nightmare you did not wish to have.
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 1:40pm On Jul 23, 2015
The PROBLEMS of LADIES are LADIES themselves

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Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 1:42pm On Jul 23, 2015
sayoberry:
Your mother inlaw will be wicked if she is like that. Some women are bitter, bitter, really bitter sadists. No matter how you try to please them. If you like, serve your head in a plate for them. They will always be the nightmare you did not wish to have.
You will still act LIKEWISE when your time comes..

Most LADIES ranting here, will definitely do worse than PATIENCE OZOKWOR

Most of them here can give their MAIDS, sanitary pads to eat.

The WICKEDNESS of a LADY is INNATE and knows no bounds at all.. It will only take REAL MEN of varlour to keep their WIVES, MUTE.
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by celineyoung1404: 2:01pm On Jul 23, 2015
U ARE VERY RIGHT, BUT THEY DON'T NEED MUCH PLEASE because ANYTIME U FAIL TO DO SO THEY WILL THINK U HAVE GOTTEN ALL U NEEDED AND SHOWING OFF UR REAL SELF. JUST B NATURAL NOT PRETENSE.

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Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by destiny25(m): 3:57pm On Jul 23, 2015
Idealy correct. Myself and my wife are playing the game very well. She hardly relates with my mum, so i don't even relate with hers. Peace be still....
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Jennifer89(f): 4:12pm On Jul 23, 2015
My MIL Loves me like her own daughter so no stress at all.
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by guntranno(f): 4:22pm On Jul 23, 2015
Akuneshiobike:
Babe, like seriously, you look exactly like the lady i wedded in my dream lastnight.

Nightmare looms
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by efonat(m): 5:02pm On Jul 23, 2015
[size=30pt]same to u[/size]
kaeforum:


JUST LISTEN TO YOURSELF, WOMAN WRAPPER. grin
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Abimbolaile(f): 5:12pm On Jul 23, 2015
elnino3:
What if your mother in law mama gee, Will all these work?

I doubt it
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Abimbolaile(f): 5:13pm On Jul 23, 2015
LatestTrend:
wink

Be like..."but why mama"
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Abimbolaile(f): 5:18pm On Jul 23, 2015
KingKuntaVart:
is this for the ladies ladies or the guys cause as for me ones i pay the bride price i go home with my slave..... end of story! undecided

Why must you talk through your anus...your slave? what the!!?
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by themanderon: 8:12pm On Jul 23, 2015
yinchar:
lol...They wont listen, I once met a lady, that said categorically said she wish her mother in law is dead

The funny thing is that the clowns wishing her dead forget that they will be mothers in law tmrow. Be careful what you wish for others cos it might turn around to bite you.
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by sayoberry(f): 11:26pm On Jul 23, 2015
EVILFOREST:
You will still act LIKEWISE when your time comes..
moi
And what gives you the impression *folds arms*
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Quintee(f): 10:58am On May 17, 2016
blesoh:

my dear its true,last week my MIL told everyone dat wish to listen,dat i didnt help her carry her handbag untill she asked me to.
Lol,i ve my own handbag hw do i manage wid 2 bags but i carried to avoid problm yet she stil told pple abt it.MIL no easy oh
Na war o. Someone like me that doesn't even like the idea of collecting people's handbag. I can help to carry any other thing but not handbag.
Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Tomason: 10:51am On Apr 15, 2020
Etumgbe:
I just pray I don't marry Jezebel as a wife if not I see myself kicking her out if she dares my mother cos I don't play with my sweet mum.

My brother balance the equation, what if its your mother frustrating your wife
Can't let my family control my marriage shaa

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