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| You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by AliuAbdulwahab(m): 7:41pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
[img]http://2.bp..com/-zuX8WpTyuFk/Va_bDRR_tXI/AAAAAAAAKUE/bwJ5VRjEcX8/s1600/%253D%253Futf-8%253FB%253FTW90aGVyIGluIGxhdyB3d3cuYWJkb29sd2FoYWIuY29tLmpwZw%253D%253D%253F%253D-736504[/img] The other day, I was watching a discussion on TV about how to deal with difficult mothers in law and a lady said that she would prefer her mother in law dead before she gets married. Like seriously? Ladies don't always like the mention of mothers in law because they feel threatened by them. And actually, many mothers in law are always finding fault in their daughters in law. They are not easily impressed. This issue sometimes ago raised the debate question 'who owns the man, mother or wife?". The point mothers in law are trying to make is that they gave birth to and nurtured the man you call your husband while the wives also want to prove the point that the man now belongs to them because the day they got married, they became one and hence belong to each other. This does not apply to only African mothers in law. Even the oyinbos complain about them too. The truth is that you will be at the losing end if you don't learn to cope with the excesses of your mother in law. Couples divorce but families hardly do. So, these points I will be mentioning below will go a long way in helping those that have been doing google searches on 'how to impress/cope with my mother in law'. 1. Lower your expectations of your mother in law Knowing that mothers in law are unpredictable, expect the worse from them. By so doing, you would not be shocked at any strange doings by your mother in law. I am not promoting the fallacy of poisoning the well but when you equip yourself with the general belief that a mother in law could give you hell, then you will try avoid being shown hell. 2. Do not take her criticism personal: A mother in law could make you believe that you are not good for her son. She could undermine you in front of your husband and kids. She could really pose as a threat in your home in a case of delayed child birth. The thing is that you have to remain focused on strengthening your marriage rather than thinking through all her criticisms. At no point should you try to pick quarrel with her. Avoid the fire-for-fire approach. 3. Communication: Do not be the type of daughter in law that doesn't ask after her husbands family. If you would want to have it cool with your mother in law, always call her on phone in a case she's far away. And if she's near, find time to to pay her visits and don't forget to go with petty gifts. By so doing, you are buying her over. 4. Encourage your husband in giving both financial and moral care to his parents: Some wives are only concerned about their own family forgetting that their husbands family exist. Your mother in law or any other person from your husband's family won't have any problem with you if they know that you have not tried to monopolize your husband's income. Always remind your husband to care for his parents before they think that its your people you packing the money to. Source: http://www.abdoolwahab.com/2015/07/you-wont-have-problem-with-your-mother.html 23 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by elnino3(m): 7:51pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
What if your mother in law mama gee, Will all these work? 23 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 7:52pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
This Thread is SEXIST. What about us Guys? You think we don't have problems with our Mothers-in-law. Personally am not close with my Family and I can't complain too much. You can choose friends not FAMILY  11 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by efonat(m): 7:52pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
[size=30pt]I don't have any financial obligations to my mother in law[/size]. 8 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by sukkot: 7:52pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
ok |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by sweatlana: 7:52pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by LatestTrend: 7:53pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
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| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 7:53pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
A bad mother in law can't be pleased do good to her today tomorrow she forgets and cancel them cos of a minor mistake if u like fry egg for her everyday 14 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 7:55pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Dear future wife, my mum requires only 4 things: 1. You must be a good cook cause her son cook like a chef. 2. You must posses humility and self respect. 3. If you are not born again, you must be willing to accept Jesus. 4. You must not starve her son in your matrimonial duty 30 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by yinchar(m): 7:55pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
lol...They wont listen, I once met a lady, that said categorically said she wish her mother in law is dead |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Qweenedo2(f): 7:55pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Ok |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by akosh005: 7:55pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Also add her phone no to ur family n friends numbers 4 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 7:55pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
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| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by koplisun: 7:55pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Somw mother inlaw na wintch o na problem dem go just won dey create. 3 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Etumgbe(m): 7:56pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
I just pray I don't marry Jezebel as a wife if not I see myself kicking her out if she dares my mother cos I don't play with my sweet mum. 7 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by DiegoNakel(m): 7:56pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Shey una dy hear  |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 7:56pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Good points. My very first comment on NL !!! 1 Like |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by okotv(m): 7:56pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Steps again ? How about flyovers ? 4 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by nnomy3: 7:56pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Seriously I get this unconscious weight and a bit uncomfortable whenever I hear of mother-in-law. It's just like a competition and you trying so hard not to win 3 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 7:57pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Story that touches the bombom Be yourself 6 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by eyeon(m): 7:57pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
One thing about fathers-in-law; they hardly have issues like the mothers-in-law. #NDI_NNA 6 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Orter(m): 7:58pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Gooooooooood |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by MRpii(m): 7:59pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Noted |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 7:59pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
AliuAbdulwahab:MANY NIGERIA LADIES JUST FULL OF PRIDE, AND THAT IS THE CAUSE OF THERE PROBLEM 2 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by michaelwilli(m): 8:00pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
I hereby book a piece of land on dis post. Op take note |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 8:00pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by dream2014: 8:00pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
The most important step is to always remember that you will be a mother in law someday. 6 Likes |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by Nobody: 8:00pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
Hmm Change ur callerfeel to ... " my mother-in-law amaka!!!" |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by eyeon(m): 8:00pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
akosh005:Believe me, this wount satisfy her/them. 1 Like |
| Re: You Won't Have Problem With Your Mother In Law If You Follow These Steps by MRpii(m): 8:00pm On Jul 22, 2015 |
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