Good evening all...I have enjoyed this site for a number of years now. I was mostly interested in the cheating nigerian men forums. I often thought I can't believe that because I was involved in a beautiful relationship. Started just about 6 yrs ago. I was a little hesitate at first but soon warmed up to it. Moving forward I visited him twice completed our paperwork for fiance visa after several times. Well this year it finally got approved and was waiting for him to get his paperwork. He told me he was having to go to another state due to his visa being blocked. He said he would leave on Thursday and will call me once he return. I didn't hear from him so I immediately started to pray and ask God to please be with him on this journey. I thought the worst like he got put in jail or something. .I tried to call him but the line rung and rung then said service not available.
Puzzled I went online went to his friends facebook page and there it was...my soon to be fiance being budded farewell and safe journey and congratulations all over the page. I noticed in the pics he was carrying a cell phone and was on it. My heart broke. I sent his friend a message asking him to plz help me understand this ...He immediately deleted the pics and nvr replied. I even seen where my fiance had a Facebook profile and people were congratulating him there. I sent him a message and he didn't reply....Am devastated . I would nvr say that all nigerian men cheat but sadly I can say mine did. ...God bless... modification. .I should have nvr posted pic...my apologies

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Pray to God. . its Sunday

Okay, let me get this straight...

You stay abroad, and help your Fiance get a visa to come meet you there

You ladies should please stop falling victims and then running here to share stories.

How can you help someone who hasn't married you to get visa to come abroad

Sorry though...learn from this, and move on ASAP

sowi, but he didnt cheat...he did what he had to do

You av been scammed.But then,u learnt ur lesson

Sorry op, this is what happens when the feeling isn't mutual,another lesson learnt there for you, dust yourself up and move on.

Hi justified 19...that's good and all. I just wished he would have told me.

Hi itsmrike...it would have been quicker to do a fiance visa which was 6 months vs marrying which would have taken over a year.

Truly have learned and needed to hear these harsh comments..ty

Hi thamees...thx for the reply..thought it was mutual as he has contacted me , paid for my fare there and everything.. but again thx for the reply

Your story is neither here nor there.
Can't seem to make head or tail out of it.
Can you write to make some sense??
No ooffiense... (apologies to MrCork )

Hi donx001...I am not offended at all...I do apologize for the misunderstanding. .long story short..met someone. .I was reluctant to talk to but decided to give it a try. Almost 6 yrs later..After two trips visiting him (one of those he paid for) it became a mutual decision to file for a fiance visa ..completed all paperwork got approval. He told me his visa was being blocked in malaysia and he needed to go fix it. After not hearing from him for a few days I became concerned and tried to contact him with no luck. After talking to his friend I noticed on his friends facebook page he had a different cell phone and was getting ready to take a trip. After asking his friend about it he took down the pics however that's when I knew. I wasn't coming on here to bash anyone however I was confused because I don't see any gain for him to do me the way he did. After all if he was scamming me he wouldn't have paid for my trip nor sent me money when I needed it. Hope that clears it up. Am ready for any and all harsh remarks u have...God bless

Every disappointment they say is a blessing in disguise...

Hi afrok....so true. .God bless

Nigerian men sef.

I'm much more confused by your story Op

OP.. You mean you saw his picture with another lady on Facebook

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Hi donx001...I am not offended at all...I do apologize for the misunderstanding. .long story short..met someone. .I was reluctant to talk to but decided to give it a try. Almost 6 yrs later..After two trips visiting him (one of those he paid for) it became a mutual decision to file for a fiance visa ..completed all paperwork got approval. He told me his visa was being blocked in malaysia and he needed to go fix it. After not hearing from him for a few days I became concerned and tried to contact him with no luck. After talking to his friend I noticed on his friends facebook page he had a different cell phone and was getting ready to take a trip. After asking his friend about it he took down the pics however that's when I knew. I wasn't coming on here to bash anyone however I was confused because I don't see any gain for him to do me the way he did. After all if he was scamming me he wouldn't have paid for my trip nor sent me money when I needed it. Hope that clears it up. Am ready for any and all harsh remarks u have...God bless

now I understand what you meant by embarrassed and confused.

well,that is some people for you but hey as lomg as he did not financial crucify you.it can be said you were lucky.
the most important thing is that you don't hurt yourself emotionally.just let the whole thing go off your mind.(it might be hard at first but it will fade at the end).
then move on with your life.life is too short for bitterness
just make the most of life.

May God be with you lady.. just move on and never let this weigh you down

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Hi donx001...I am not offended at all...I do apologize for the misunderstanding. .long story short..met someone. .I was reluctant to talk to but decided to give it a try. Almost 6 yrs later..After two trips visiting him (one of those he paid for) it became a mutual decision to file for a fiance visa ..completed all paperwork got approval. He told me his visa was being blocked in malaysia and he needed to go fix it. After not hearing from him for a few days I became concerned and tried to contact him with no luck. After talking to his friend I noticed on his friends facebook page he had a different cell phone and was getting ready to take a trip. After asking his friend about it he took down the pics however that's when I knew. I wasn't coming on here to bash anyone however I was confused because I don't see any gain for him to do me the way he did. After all if he was scamming me he wouldn't have paid for my trip nor sent me money when I needed it. Hope that clears it up. Am ready for any and all harsh remarks u have...God bless

Wow....sorry about that.
that means the guy was never really into you.
What beats me is what the guy had to gain from all the shenanigans he was pulling off, since it appears it wasn't for financial benefits.
Well, what can I say, take heart, pull yourself together and move on.
On the brighter side, at least you weren't scammed financially too, like so many ladies have been, but you have been scammed emotionally.
Don't let it weigh you down too much, though that may be difficult.
Life can serve you lemons sometimes, try your best and turn it to lemonade.
Cheers.

Hi donx001...
Am glad i was able to construct better verbiage. Lol as am sure u and everyone else could tell I wrote this shortly after I found out. Lol.. Thanks for the advice..I was a lost for words and was beating myself up for devoting my time like that.
Have definitely learned. .but I guess I can be glad I got a couple of vacations out of this.
God bless

Hi bqlekan...Thanks..I certainly will..
God bless

Hi..Baralatie..thanks for the advice. I have to admit it hurts but i know God is my comforter and I will be ok. May need to go pray for removal of bitterness..I don't want to carry this with me and miss out on what and who God has for me...
God bless

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Hi bqlekan...Thanks..I certainly will..
God bless

amen and you too

Hi omotayor123..no what I saw on facebook was him with suitcases talking on his phone (mind u I mentioned the phone number I have now says not in service) and others bidding congrats and safe journey. Looking at a totally different profile of him with different name. No woman on there..just an updated pic of him...This is my woman senses going off.. (Just wish it was working before 6 yrs passed...lol).
God bless

Wow..#thisniggazaintloyal....
The more reason why I dnt pity broke guys....karma must surely catchup wif him,no worry

Hi adeh39..I do apologize but have retold it after emotions simmered down...I don't think I can go any more elementary than that.
God bless

Hi misspicy..Ur so right! Lol

God bless

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Good evening all...I have enjoyed this site for a number of years now. I was mostly interested in the cheating nigerian men forums. I often thought I can't believe that because I was involved in a beautiful relationship. Started just about 6 yrs ago. I was a little hesitate at first but soon warmed up to it. Moving forward I visited him twice completed our paperwork for fiance visa after several times. Well this year it finally got approved and was waiting for him to get his paperwork. He told me he was having to go to another state due to his visa being blocked. He said he would leave on Thursday and will call me once he return. I didn't hear from him so I immediately started to pray and ask God to please be with him on this journey. I thought the worst like he got put in jail or something. .I tried to call him but the line rung and rung then said service not available.
Puzzled I went online went to his friends facebook page and there it was...my soon to be fiance being budded farewell and safe journey and congratulations all over the page. I noticed in the pics he was carrying a cell phone and was on it. My heart broke. I sent his friend a message asking him to plz help me understand this ...He immediately deleted the pics and nvr replied. I even seen where my fiance had a Facebook profile and people were congratulating him there. I sent him a message and he didn't reply....Am devastated . I would nvr say that all nigerian men cheat but sadly I can say mine did. ...God bless... modification. .I should have nvr posted pic...my apologies

I hope you know you have the power to void his visa.... He can't get a work permit without you.... Inform immigration that he never arrived, absconded or you're not interested in marrying him again and they will cancel his visa.... He will deported once found

You're his visa sponsor and he is dumb

kpolli:


I hope you know you have the power to void his visa.... He can't get a work permit without you.... Inform immigration that he never arrived, absconded or you're not interested in marrying him again and they will cancel his visa.... He will deported once found

You're his visa sponsor and he is dumb

Just an update..He sent me a yahoo message and said he mistakenly impregnated an indoneisan woman. He said he was so so sorry and was too ashamed to tell me.
What's pitiful because he didn't have to change his number and never talk to me. All that we been through and he does this? It's like he has now opened up old wounds...but at least I got closure. What the embarrassing part is I have nigerian friends that was helping me prepare for his arrival and now I have to express reason why he isn't coming with dry eyes....smh.

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Just an update..He sent me a yahoo message and said he mistakenly impregnated an indoneisan woman. He said he was so so sorry and was too ashamed to tell me.
What's pitiful because he didn't have to change his number and never talk to me. All that we been through and he does this? It's like he has now opened up old wounds...but at least I got closure. What the embarrassing part is I have nigerian friends that was helping me prepare for his arrival and now I have to express reason why he isn't coming with dry eyes....smh.

Now the ball is in your court, do you get him deported (which I strongly suggest) and let the Indonesian lady handle his immigration or forgive him and move on but if he does anything wrong, remember you're his visa sponsor and will be implicated too

PS: Did he meet her on the flight to you and get her pregnant then or he got her pregnant in Nigeria (only thing that makes sense)