misspicy:
Yup

DDoubleUps:
what "yup" really?

Jollyjoy:
Hehehe op it ovious you have not come to term with the fact that you aree a dad..

See,the kids are essential part of your life,they should be involved in some of the family funs though not all,if you want to be allone with your wife then hire a nanny but for now give the baby her due attention and love.

vizkiz:
seems you are new in marrigae...btw, it is never and has never been about the kids bro, your husband/wife comes first then the kids

DDoubleUps:
but how do you bring this to your wife without it sounding as if one is selfish, believe me am the best dad in the world, but it just seems like the husband part is eroding... how do i tackle it and yes am new to marriage

DDoubleUps:
i do not mean not giving our kids time and all the love, but what about my time alone with my wife? what about us? Must i go every with the kids? and what about turning to cuddle your wife in the morning and then the kid is there between you two? dOes our love life end because of the kids and all the love now should be to the kids?

vizkiz:


you talk to your wife about it. She is your wife bro and she knows the facts, maybe she feels the same way you are feeling who knows...but the truth still stands "kids are secondary priority in marriages

Jollyjoy:
are you kidding me?? Kids are secondary in marrige? Says who??

Incase you dnt knw,kids are essential and top most priorty in marrige,i dnt knw were you got that theory from.........

so you are telling me the major reason why you wanna get married is tohave kids and when you are at it, you focus most of your attention on the kids

Now I see why most married men cheat

DDoubleUps:
I really need the matured minds in the house to talk about this cause i have been experiecing it and few of my friends too,but the thing is that anytime we talk about it we all come to the same issue, how do we say it without being misunderstood? Does a man life with his wife end as soon as the start having kids? does every outing have to always be with the kids? Do the couple have to give up their own private time and dates together just to make sure the kids are always involved?Really sometimes i feel more like am running a kindergarten than in a relationship and the last straw that breaks my back is putting our 5months baby in our bed every morning and thereby robbing me of the early morning cuddles and the rest of it... how really should this issue be handled?

vizkiz:
seems you are new in marrigae...btw, it is never and has never been about the kids bro, your husband/wife comes first then the kids

vizkiz:


so you are telling me the major reason why you wanna get married is tohave kids and when you are at it, you focus most of your attention on the kids

Now I see why most married men cheat

gj22:


This is wrong. They didn't ask to come into this world, you made that decision for them so they must come first

gj22:


No idiot. But when you DECIDE to have kids, they must come first before anything else.

You can't just bring someone into the world (don't forget they didn't ask to be born) and then start to ignore them. Life doesn't work that way.

shut the furck up dummy!

You should think with your head not your empty stomach! Did I type "ignore your kids" you should pray for intelligence before you stay typing shiit on social networks

therealdeal10:
In sm cases it shuld b about d kids cuz dey r gift 4rm God, u av 2 take care of dem properly.
Hahahaha buh op u very funny oo, so d lil baby is robbing u of ordinary cuddles, hw u n ur wife cuddled up urself all nyt long isn't enough??
Cmon a lil tym wit d baby wnt hurt u

vizkiz:


shut the furck up dummy!

You should think with your head not your empty stomach! Did I type "ignore your kids" you should pray for intelligence before you stay typing shiit on social networks