If Your Guy Does These Things, Don't Marry Him

Here are five red flags that give you the green light to walk away, even when you’re not 100 percent sure you’re doing the right thing.

1. He gets violent, even if he doesn’t hit you

You may think this is a no-brainer but honestly it isn’t. Most women I know who’ve been in abusive relationships have immense strength, only to shut down in the presence of her partner’s anger and violence.

As a strong woman myself, I froze when a guy I’d been dating went into a rage one night, throwing things, damaging property and calling me names.

I knew it was a deal-breaker because even though he didn’t put his hands on me, he scared me.

No healthy relationship can be built off a foundation of fear because you never know when his actions may escalate.

2. He cheats

Many people will say this point is debatable because lots of couples who have fidelity issues repair their relationship and end up in a better than where they were pre-cheating.

But it’s not the act of cheating that’s the deal-breaker here; it’s the disrespect, broken trust and significant risk to your health. With all the risks that hang in the balance for just a tiny bit of pleasure, it’s entirely inconsiderate and selfish when a man cheats on you.

Do you want someone who puts his wants before your needs, like security and trust? I don’t which is why I’ve said BYE to cheating men.

3. He doesn’t claim or proclaim you

Many women will spend time in limbo-like relationships with guys who won’t give them the girlfriend title.



Here’s the truth: If you’ve been dating a man for longer than six to nine months and he’s hasn’t made you an official part of his life, it’s time to MOVE ON.

Stop making excuses for why things aren’t progressing to the next level; you’ll only waste time and your time is worth more than that.
These days, I don’t settle for less because I don’t want a man who makes you a bargain-bin find. If he knows your worth, he’ll claim and proclaim you and there will be few conversations about how ‘he isn’t ready.’

4. He suffers from addiction

There are plenty of honor badges to be earned by standing by your man when he’s fallen on hard times.

But CAUTION if you stick with a man fighting demons, namely addiction. Addiction can range from less-severe, like cigarettes, to major issues such as drug, alcohol and s*x.

Someone who suffers from an addiction will do anything and I mean anything to get their fix, even at the expense of those they love.

So unless you’d like to be second to whatever vices he has, it may be time to ‘leave smoke.’

5. He gaslights you

We’ve spoken about gas-lighting, which is the manipulative act of someone attempting to change your memory or perception of events in their favor, making you feel crazy or like you’ve forgotten something.

But when is gas-lighting a deal-breaker, you ask? The answer is when it happens! A man who resorts to manipulative tactics to have his way or ‘win’ an argument will continue to play mind games and be dishonest with you.

When I experienced gas-lighting in my relationships, I felt crazy and my self-esteem plummeted until I understood the game that was being played.

Take advantage of the situation and leave immediately; it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.

If Your Guy Does These Things, Don’t Marry Him

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Marriage Counsellor
When re you getting married?

Good one

it's relative

@OP show me a man who does nt have 1 of those traits above? u dnt just leave a relationship jst bcaus d man gets angry, relationships or marriage per say is a school dat takes u almost have a century 4 u 2 graduate 4rm, everyday u keep learning 4rm ur spouse, u learn 2 determine all his good and bad traits and d remedy nt 2 bring out his bad traits, if he gets angry, who made him angry? you offcourse so u restrain 4rm getting him angry, even if ure nt d cause, u calm him down with ur kind words and loving touch, use d womanly weapon u have. "4 d fact dat he does nt hit u shows dat he loves u.

I dnt need to marry him,coz he is married already...juz kidding

no 1 is so wrong..
op pray I don't hit you..if I do, I'll end up dating another woman.You must have turned to a disabled lady.

KashyBaby:
I dnt need to marry him,coz I've decided to stop stalking him before I get in trouble

how can you be helped with your low self esteem?

Kilo komi?

KashyBaby:
I dnt need to marry him,coz he is married already...juz kidding

hello angel, hw are u?

Sorry Sir, i didnt wrote it this way... do we have a ghost writer here So strange!

tpiander:



how can you be helped with your low self esteem?

softapples:
hello angel, hw are u?

I am great! Tnx for asking..

KashyBaby:


I am great! Tnx for asking..

ure welcum, why wnt i ask? dnt u know ure like a goddess, pls permit me to worship ur beauty.

softapples:
ure welcum, why wnt i ask? dnt u know ure like a goddess, pls permit me to worship ur beauty.

Hahhahahaha...ur funny...be careful what u ask for

Relationship........

KashyBaby:


Hahhahahaha...ur funny...be careful what u ask for

i rather ask 4 everything with u than ask 4 a million dollar, with u by my side, iv got more than a billion dollar.

softapples:
i rather ask 4 everything with u than ask 4 a million dollar, with u by my side, iv got more than a billion dollar.

Hahhahahaha...nice msg.

KashyBaby:


Hahhahahaha...nice msg.

i want to make u feel special and happy, it gives me joy to see u smile

All dis shit does not work..

Those are the reasons they won't have anybody to marry them

Date a violent person once...he never hit me but was smashing things and calling me names. Not pretty I tell ya.


Cheat. I swear I don't know how women stay in a relationship with a cheating partner. The angel in me would tell me to leave the relationship, the devil in me would make me do something evil to the cheat...real evil.


Gaslighter. I have dated a gaslighter and truth is they are liars. And we all know liars are thieves.

He doesn't claim or proclaim. Depends shaa.

softapples:
@OP show me a man who does nt have 1 of those traits above? u dnt just leave a relationship jst bcaus d man gets angry, relationships or marriage per say is a school dat takes u almost have a century 4 u 2 graduate 4rm, everyday u keep learning 4rm ur spouse, u learn 2 determine all his good and bad traits and d remedy nt 2 bring out his bad traits, if he gets angry, who made him angry? [b]you offcourse[\b] so u restrain 4rm getting him angry, even if ure nt d cause, u calm him down with ur kind words and loving touch, use d womanly weapon u have. "4 d fact dat he does nt hit u shows dat he loves u.

I'm sure ur not married,I'm very sure.



Only women make men angry abi?

#3 is particularly true

If a guy has been with you longer than 6 months and doesn't introduce you to his friends/family esp sibs as his gf, then you are nothing but a side chick

love2nicee:



4. He suffers from addiction

There are plenty of honor badges to be earned by standing by your man when he’s fallen on hard times.

But CAUTION if you stick with a man fighting demons, namely addiction. Addiction can range from less-severe, like cigarettes, to major issues such as drug, alcohol and s*x.

Someone who suffers from an addiction will do anything and I mean anything to get their fix, even at the expense of those they love.

So unless you’d like to be second to whatever vices he has, it may be time to ‘leave smoke.’

How can someone classify or define "sex addiction" ?

softapples:
ure welcum, why wnt i ask? dnt u know ure like a goddess, pls permit me to worship ur beauty.

I really pity women. Just imagine the crap they have to endure from some men. Ass licking another man wife, gf or even sex mate, smh

KashyBaby:


Hahhahahaha...nice msg.

you are bemused? I have been insulting the brain of a fish with wrong classifications.

Eddygourdo:
I really pity women. Just imagine the crap they have to endure from some men. Ass licking another man wife, gf or even sex mate, smh

bro take it easy na

softapples:
bro take it easy na

no vex. If she likes the moves more grease to ur elbows though it makes more sense if u tell her that personally like through a pm. Happy weekend

Eddygourdo:
no vex. If she likes the moves more grease to ur elbows though it makes more sense if u tell her that personally like through a pm. Happy weekend

yeah thanks happy weekend too

prestige2013:
Marriage Counsellor
When re you getting married?

How that one take concern you , she make sense...

Eddygourdo:
you are bemused? I have been insulting the brain of a fish with wrong classifications.

IDGAF what u say….juz mind ur damn biznez & stop insulting urself...

Eddygourdo:
no vex. If she likes the moves more grease to ur elbows though it makes more sense if u tell her that personally like through a pm. Happy weekend

Hmmm....sensible statement. Nice one bro!

softapples:
i rather ask 4 everything with u than ask 4 a million dollar, with u by my side, iv got more than a billion dollar.

Bro,those words are just lame 2 a lady,those are what we used to say back in the 70s and 80s, and even then it had become lame.So for ur mind now u av touched her feelings with those words abi? Oga go hustle get money woman go find u!!!
Those are the kind of words Lord Lugard wud say to Flora Shaw in the 1890s