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I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by annoyed: 1:47am On Mar 27, 2009
I am a naija man and I am married to a beautiful oyinbo girl for the last 3 yrs.
However there are 2 things about her which I cannot stand and I am seriously considering a
divorce.

1. Her friends
    My wife has the same group of friends since she was 12 . They all went to high school together.
    They're is nothing wrong with these girls. They are not riff raffs or anything. It's their childish
     and immature thinking that gets to me. They act like 16 yr old schoolgirls, my wife included. All
     they care about is who has the latest handbag, painting their nails, how they look, etc. These
     bimbos come around to my house every week and have a catch up with my wife. The conversations
     they have are unbelievable. Making snide remarks about random people and giggling away to them
     selves. They are truly nothing more than a shallow bunch of Barbie dolls and its getting on my
     nerves. I admit that my wife was also like this when I met her but that was 5 yrs ago and I thought
     she might grow up. But shes just turned 25 and I am really tired  i want to start a family soon but I
      don't think I can when she's a child herself.

2. The sex we have is extremely boring. She seems to have no interest. I admit she was also like this
     when I started dating her but I thought I would turn her into a freak in bed. I am always the one
     doing the work yet she just lies there saying " are you finished yet?'' I think she's a frigid or some
     thing. I was wondering why white men left this beautiful girl to waste. Now I can see why.

     Other than that she's a very good wife, very respectful towards me, cooks my meals, would do anything
      for me and very reliable. I love her in so many ways. But I still want a divorce and get a matured woman.
      My family will not agree as they love her so much but I can't live like this anymore
      Any advice??
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 1:53am On Mar 27, 2009
annoyed:

Other than that she's a very good wife, very respectful towards me, cooks my meals, would do anything
for me and very reliable.
I love her in so many ways. But I still want a divorce and get a matured woman.
My family will not agree as they love her so much but I can't live like this anymore
Any advice??

You will be an idiot to throw her away for the other reasons you mentioned. It is VERY HARD to come by a woman with the qualities i outlined in your post.
The problem i see here is YOU. Have you sat her down and talked to her about your fears? What job does she do? If she had one and a family to juggle she'd be too busy finding time to giggle with her friends.

You married her at 20 and you knew all these . . . dude, man up and take control of your home. Do you go places with her, do you do stuff together or you just leave her alone with her friends all day and then turn around to complain?

About what she's like in bed . . . na you go rectify that yourself. I'd rather a woman who wasnt a freak in bed but had everyother qualities than a porn star who is useless. Sex isnt all there is to life.

Strikes me like you married her for her face and skin color and nothing else if not why are you complaining about her now? Fix her up! Divorce is not always the answer, you will regret it later.

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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 2:17am On Mar 27, 2009
annoyed:

2. The sex we have is extremely boring. She seems to have no interest. I admit she was also like this
when I started dating her but I thought I would turn her into a freak in bed. I am always the one
doing the work yet she just lies there saying " are you finished yet?'' I think she's a frigid or some
thing. I was wondering why white men left this beautiful girl to waste. Now I can see why.

Why do your type continue to persist in thinking that you can change your spouse AFTER the wedding?
It doesn't work that way.

Yes, of course, it's her fault.
Maybe you're not doing "it" right.

You married her when you were 20 or she was 20 when you married her?
Whichever one, it's too young an age to marry.
Unserious people.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by osisi2(f): 2:24am On Mar 27, 2009
Yes go ahead and divorce her and go and get a mature prostitute.
a woman who had professional training in the field of sex.
ewu

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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Hauwa1: 2:25am On Mar 27, 2009
grin the 'are you finished' made me laugh hehehe wow!
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by OgidiBoy(m): 2:25am On Mar 27, 2009
My good friend, the grass is not always greener on the other side. If you have any love for this girl try and work things out, you may divorce her and find you an African wife. I don't know if anyone has told you that some Nigerian women have some very serious issues.

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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 2:28am On Mar 27, 2009
OgidiBoy:

My good friend, the grass is not always greener on the other side. If you have any love for this girl try and work things out, you may divorce her and find you an African wife. I don't know if anyone has told you that some Nigerian women have some very serious issues.
Not as serious as Nigerian men's issues

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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by OgidiBoy(m): 2:32am On Mar 27, 2009
Ebony-Silk:

Not as serious as Nigerian men's issues


You ask this crocodile girl sef tongue

Gators suck

Gators suck
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 2:44am On Mar 27, 2009
OgidiBoy:


You ask this crocodile girl sef tongue

Gators suck

Gators suck
I got a pix for you cheesy cheesy



You dig? wink

SORRY FOR OFFTOPIC grin grin

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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by OgidiBoy(m): 2:53am On Mar 27, 2009
@ annoyed,


Now you see what I mean? Ebony-silk is my little cousin and I love her with all my heart, but the girl is just ~ shocked PSYCHO shocked ~. When you first meet girls like her they appear to have all the right qualities we men are looking for, but after a few days with someone like Ebony you will wish you never divorced your oyimbo wife.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 2:55am On Mar 27, 2009
OgidiBoy:

@ annoyed,


Now you see what I mean? Ebony-silk is my little cousin and I love her with all my heart, but the girl is just ~ shocked PSYCHO shocked ~. When you first meet girls like her they appear to have all the right qualities we men are looking for, but after a few days with someone like Ebony you will wish you never divorced your oyimbo wife.
I'm your cousin, why would I act like a wife towards you. So How you take know am not a wife material?? shocked shocked Incest! tongue


@poster
But for real, I'm crazy.
But fortunately, am not oyinbo. so. . . .
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by OgidiBoy(m): 3:03am On Mar 27, 2009
Ebony-Silk:

I'm your cousin, why would I act like a wife towards you. So How you take know am not a wife material?? shocked shocked Incest! tongue


@poster
But for real, I'm crazy.
But fortunately, am not oyinbo. so. . . .

You acting like a wife towards me shocked shocked shocked please oh we are cousins I'm not into all that freaky stuff you'll be doing in the swamps shocked


@ POSTER,

Don't believe her, this girl is only 20 years and has married and divorced three times already.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 3:06am On Mar 27, 2009
Our own swamp is gracefully refined.
Gators knows how to mess it and dress it. wink
Jealousy no go kill the cowhorn abi na longhorn cheesy cheesy tongue

I'm not 20 o, add 2 more years to that.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by DeReloaded: 3:08am On Mar 27, 2009
1. #1 you will find with most women, Naija women especially (though she might just do it while you;re out)

2. Maybe you;re the boring one. When women fee something great, they will react. The frigid excuse have been used by many whom Im suere arent good as they think

Sorry but your reasons for divorce are dumb as hell
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 3:13am On Mar 27, 2009
I just noticed something:

annoyed:

I am a naija man and I am married to a beautiful oyinbo girl for the last 3 yrs.

annoyed:

But shes just turned[b] 25 [/b]and I am really tired i want to start a family soon
Poster, when I first read your post, you said sth about marrying her at 20. did you edit it?

Anywayz, the numbers does not agree with your post
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by biina: 3:17am On Mar 27, 2009
@poster
If you don't like the company your wife keeps, you could try exposing her to a different society.

The sex problem on the other hand is (very x8) likely your fault. Everyone can be responsive in bed if treated right. I advise you go and get some literature/tutoring on the matter. In the worst case, both of you might need to see a counselor.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by annoyed: 3:34am On Mar 27, 2009
Ebony-Silk:

I just noticed something:
Poster, when I first read your post, you said sth about marrying her at 20. did you edit it?

Anywayz, the numbers does not agree with your post

I started dating her when she was 20 then we married 2 yrs later.

OgidiBoy:

My good friend, the grass is not always greener on the other side. If you have any love for this girl try and work things out, you may divorce her and find you an African wife. I don't know if anyone has told you that some Nigerian women have some very serious issues.

Actually I think I am going to marry one of my own. The final straw for me was when my wife came up to me last week and told me she wanted a boob job because her friend got one and she looks great in a bikini. Now my wife wants to look great in a bikini but cannot screw her way out of a paper bag

David, she is currently a studying for her masters degree. She has never had a job yet.

Sorry I don't want to come across as disrespectul to my wife. She's just really frustrating me.
I have had plenty of babes back in naija to confirm that I am a great lover.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 3:35am On Mar 27, 2009
annoyed:

I have had plenty of babes back in naija to confirm that I am a great lover.
What are you feeling like?

annoyed:

I started dating her when she was 20 then we married 2 yrs later.
Ok oh
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by OgidiBoy(m): 3:39am On Mar 27, 2009
annoyed:

I started dating her when she was 20 then we married 2 yrs later.

Actually I think I am going to marry one of my own. The final straw for me was when my wife came up to me last week and told me she wanted a boob job because her friend got one and she looks great in a bikini. Now my wife wants to look great in a bikini but cannot screw her way out of a paper bag

David, she is currently a studying for her masters degree. She has never had a job yet.

Sorry I don't want to come across as disrespectul to my wife. She's just really frustrating me.
I have had plenty of babes back in naija to confirm that I am a great lover.


Well my friend you have come to the right place, there are so many fine Nigeria sisters on NL looking for husband. Just make sure you divorce the oyinbo girl before you marry your own.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 3:41am On Mar 27, 2009
Do you ever discuss with your wife?
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by annoyed: 3:47am On Mar 27, 2009
stillwater:

Do you ever discuss with your wife?

I go out with my pals every weekend so I think it would be a bit unfair to tell her to stop seeing her friends especially since she's known them for so long. I just want a divorce because we are not compatible and I cannot change her. I love her always but I need a proper naija wife who I can relate to. We do not have any kids yet. The thing I'm most worried about is how she's going to take it. I know she won't be happy and secondly my folks won't be happy either. They think the sun shines out of her so I'm afraid they might disown me.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by tpia: 4:24am On Mar 27, 2009
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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 4:33am On Mar 27, 2009
annoyed:

I go out with my pals every weekend

dude, the minute you got married your pals become #2 and your wife #1. You accuse her of not growing up when you are not even out of ur diapers yet. Going out with pals everyweekend is what we did for fun as teens, when you get married that becomes history. How many times do you and your wife find time to go out and have some fun together? Seems you both are living very separate lives - she with her friends and you with your pals.

annoyed:

Actually I think I am going to marry one of my own. The final straw for me was when my wife came up to me last week and told me she wanted a boob job because her friend got one and she looks great in a bikini. Now my wife wants to look great in a bikini but cannot screw her way out of a paper bag

dude, teach her to screw. If you screw her right she wont have time to think about boob jobs. I think she's getting one because you never touch them anyway, its just wham bam thank you ma'am stuff you do. No wonder she's bored.

annoyed:

Sorry I don't want to come across as disrespectul to my wife. She's just really frustrating me.
I have had plenty of babes back in naija to confirm that I am a great lover.

Being able to dig for 30 mins non-stop is not the definition of "great lover". There is no chemistry between you and ur wife . . . chemistry starts from the mind not the genitals.

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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Nobody: 4:41am On Mar 27, 2009
annoyed:

I go out with my pals every weekend so I think it would be a bit unfair to tell her to stop seeing her friends especially since she's known them for so long. I just want a divorce because we are not compatible and I cannot change her. I love her always but I need a proper naija wife who I can relate to. We do not have any kids yet. The thing I'm most worried about is how she's going to take it. I know she won't be happy and secondly my folks won't be happy either. They think the sun shines out of her so I'm afraid they might disown me.

I'm not talking about who you meet every weekend or her friends. I meant do you have serious conversations with your wife? Have you told her how you feel? You claim you love her but it appears you only say that just not to appear as the 'evil one' or make yourself feel you still have some iota of morality in you. That's how I see it.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by DeReloaded: 4:51am On Mar 27, 2009
I have had plenty of babes back in naija to confirm that I am a great lover.

We ie Naija women are great pretenders.

Those raised by "western" standards arent tied by social stigma of being vocal in bed. If oyinbo tell you that you are boring in bed, accept that it's the truth

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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by tpia: 4:56am On Mar 27, 2009
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Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by amebono13: 5:43am On Mar 27, 2009
the part i dont agree with is her saying she wants a boob job cos her friend did it and it looks good


except u r d one lying here,making up excuses just to leave her,but if it is true,i dont like that part,doing things cos friends did same is so not right
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Tgirl4real(f): 6:49am On Mar 27, 2009
@poster, divorcing ur wife doesnt mean u will find a better one naija or not. Like most people have said here, sit her down and talk to her. Let her know what you dont like about her and be plain and straight forward with her.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by C2H5OH(f): 6:53am On Mar 27, 2009
@poster you are very sell fish. 'me me me me me i i i i i i'
have you considered your wife in this whole picture?
her world, emotions, feelings, pain, hurt, heartbreak if you take this huge step?

biko proceed with caution.
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Tgirl4real(f): 6:55am On Mar 27, 2009
Then I noticed u said 'u want to divorce ur oyinbo wife', why the emphasis on OYINBO? I hope u aint thinking ur wife's case is peculiar to whites?
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by Secretz(f): 8:20am On Mar 27, 2009
the simple fact that you married her knowing she was like this, means YOU ACCEPTED her ways!!! My mother always told me what you will not tolerate in a marriage deal with it during courtship! obviously u did not, Olodo!

Face it, ur crap in bed! lol tongue
Re: I Am Tired Of My Oyinbo Wife by JustGood(m): 10:48am On Mar 27, 2009
This one na real mumu o

You get oyinbo woman wey be "good wife" and you no happy. She is actually a rare exception for an oyinbo woman. I was expecting you to land the blow about how she goes partying and getting drunk with her friends, which is what most others like her would do.

Ol boy, make you leave am and see whether another man no go thank God say him get the woman.

Married man wey dey go out every weekend. . . wonders shall never end.
Whence cometh these irresponsible men?

So, na the one wey get prostitution degree you dey find.

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