GraceBestowed:
Although I agree with some of your logic, I find a few things in this post to somewhat misleading.

First of all, there are true prophets and men of God out there. The problem is that there are also fakes and one needs to ask God for the spirit of discernment to know the real from the fake.

Secondly, it is possible for a man of God to speak the mind of God towards an individual through the power of the Spirit - especially in marriage.

God knows who He wants us to get married to, His perfect will for us. We cannot just 'choose' but rely on God to bring that person to us and reveal His will to us. There is this misconception that we can 'marry any one we want' and that's wrong.

Marrying the wrong person can cripple a person's destiny!

ladyF:
Me sef I don't understand this prophet thing. One prophet will tell u this is the man for u, another one will tell you he isn't.

Prayer is free, communicate with God by yourself!!

GraceBestowed:
Although I agree with some of your logic, I find a few things in this post to somewhat misleading.

First of all, there are true prophets and men of God out there. The problem is that there are also fakes and one needs to ask God for the spirit of discernment to know the real from the fake.

Secondly, it is possible for a man of God to speak the mind of God towards an individual through the power of the Spirit - especially in marriage. We should however, NOT rely on hearing from God through others but hearing from God ourselves and asking Him to use others to confirm His word to us.

God knows who He wants us to get married to, His perfect will for us. We cannot just 'choose' but rely on God to bring that person to us and reveal His will to us. There is this misconception that we can 'marry any one we want' and that's wrong.

Marrying the wrong person can cripple a person's destiny!

horexy:
Hmmmn, there are many fake men under the guise of being real men of God...
It just takes d spirit of discernment to knw wat is really up as regards a life partner...if u have a personal relationship with God, u'r just gonna knw this is ur man when he comes around

Toks2008:


I perfectly understand but then the spirit of GOD is never the author of confusion and that is why i get so confused if the same man of GOD who clearly tells you a certain man is not yours can not go ahead to reveal to you who the person is talking about the specifics as stated in my last paragraph.

Creamish:


TRUE.

I'v had a "man of God" approach me with a bible saying "The Spirit revealed to him that I am his wife"... I just walked on by... had nuttn to say to him that wasn't going to be offensive.

God has blessed us with instincts. How much attention we pay to them determines how much of a success we might be. When u date someone and Uv got some doubts, always explore those doubts. Don't let "blind love" make U sweep dem under the carpet. They will be temporary residents of the carpet and the day they resurface, it would be hell.

Some Pastors are indeed gifted. When U get a prophecy, pray and fast so God can reveal which is true and which isn't.

Toks2008:
That awkward moment when a prophet or pastor tells a lady that GOD has revealed to him that the man she is planning to marry is not the one for her.

As innocuous as this statement may sound,many ladies have been totally misled by many prophets who claim they hear from GOD or see stuffs. Many ladies have ended up as side dishes for these self acclaimed prophets and many baba ba n ye wo(Native spiritualists) have ended up marrying sweet chics as free wives all because these ladies just won't back down in their quest to seek spiritual direction on who is right or wrong for them.

As an individual,go on your kneels and pray to GOD to lead a responsible and man of purpose to you and wait on GOD. If any man comes your way,simply look for the vital signs to know if he is good for you or not and make up your mind without the need of running to spiritualists each time a new guy says hi to you.

There is no particular man for a particular woman and visavis and there is really no good or bad choice of spouse but what we have is YOUR CHOICE and when you make that choice, be ready to do your best to face the consequence.

Marriage is like a black market and no matter how sweet the courtship may be, no matter how superb that man or woman may be,there is always a dint of uncertainty lurking around and when it rears its head,be ready to face it head on without any feeling of regret.

The next time you see a man of GOD that tells you that man you love and that have also expressed sincere love towards you is not the one for you, simply take a deep breath and humbly ask the man of GOD to inquire from the same source and tell you right there the name of the right man for you,his tribe,skin color as well as house address and even the gender of the first born both of you will have together.

"Men of GOD" deceiving people from time memorial.

Omotayor123:
Kikikikiki.... Nice one Toks.

But seriously, some revelations are true

akin101:
This is a very interesting topic. I fear that most contributors aren't doing it enough justice. I believe most of the contributions to this thread aren't married and haven't gone through the stage of seeking pastors spiritualist when they were ready to marry.

This are my humble contributions. Pls kindly note this are my opinions and my personal beliefs after passing through the subjective phenomena that we call life. If your beliefs differ or are opposing I clearly do not give a f&$k what you think or what u believe. I can only hold firm to my own life experiences and where they lead me to.
1. All of this so called pastors are liars. There is not one amongst them that sees a single thing. They can't see anything to save their own lives or save any other persons life

2. A large percentage of people have consulted pastors and spiritualist still end up divorced.

3. If you have a nagging feeling that you are making a wrong choice with respect marriage, you probably are. My advice to you would be to take some time out of the relationship, take some time away from all the pressure and clearly define the following.

A. Your assumptions
You may need to be clear on this. Wrong assumptions will set on a wrong road to a hell of a life. We all make decisions based on what we know or believe to be true. Be wise and test what you assume to be true about yourself your intended spouse and the generality of your situation

B. Ask yourself if you can live with this person in the same house under the worst of circumstances and still be happy. If your answer is yes. I believe you have solved at least 50% of the marriage puzzle.

C. Do not accept any pressure from external people about your choice of marriage. Make it clear to all parties inclusive of parents, friends and relative that they will not be the ones living with the choice of wife made. Most humans are useless with their good intentions. The road to hell is paved with good intentions. Nobody but you should know what's good for you. If you don't know what's good for you you are on a long thing and clearly not ready to get married.

That's all I have for now in my head. Hit like if you are thoughtful and learnt something from all that's said I just might add more lessons from my life experiences.

HBB1:
I have lived around many of this men if God. Most of them misuse their offices- or better still people are just not responsible. If an adult has to run to another man for any decision he has to make (marriage, work...) he remains immature all his life. A good man of God would wean dependent people off himself- which is the essence of his office, abi his own holy spirit is different?
FYI, pastors are getting divorced aplenty, many of their wives are not 'really' Happy, some just put up an act.
Reminds me of a scene in Roots (kinta kintay). The father of Kinta goes to the medicine man on his name day to ask what name he should call him. The medicine man asks if his wife has been cheating on him, he replies, 'no,' the man then tells him if it's his son, it's his business.
Someone who's ready for marriage won't be jumping around with a list of names seeking peoples opinions. The same person will still run around in the marriage seeking 'help' when two adults (alone) could just mind their business and their marriage.
Atheists are having happy marriages if you don't know.
Marriage should be a union of two people who have agreeable mindsets- whether a Bonnie and Clyde or Enoch and Folu Adeboye.
Most marriages fail not because they didn't love each other but because they didn't know how to live together- Myles Munroe (paraphrased).
My sister got married without telling anybody because a madman told her she wouldn't conceive if she does so. Other siblings have had normal marriages without wahala- even the children of the so called 'God's mouthpiece'
A 'man' makes his decisions and lives with the consequences.
If a girl has to carry my name up and down, she isn't ready yet, bye bye.

GraceBestowed:


Many times we expect more from a man of God than God is prepared to share.

A true man of God is a vessel and will not embellish on what God has told him. God does not work according to our emotions but according to His will. If He wanted to tell a woman who her husband is, where he lives, what he does, He will - I've even seen it happen.

Again, this is why the spirit of discernment is important and we should all ask God for it.

A lot of times, the wisdom of God seems foolish to man but it all adds up.

PascalJ:

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GraceBestowed:


Exactly!! There are deceivers all over the place and the only Person than can guide you right is the Spirit of God.

Toks2008:


Lol!

That is the beauty of being a E-commerce yahoo yahoo consultant. I do my business 90% on the internet and whenever im free i just do my thing.
Tell me you are not enjoying my writings.

loveclux:
[color=#000099][/color]All these endtime prophets using their endtime mouth to give endtime prophesy....


I attended a church program and d prophet declared that my dream husband will locate me in 21days time only for me to attend another program after 7days and the prophet said my dream husband will locate me in easter thereby shifting the previous prophesy

Toks2008:


No wahala my sis.

I am a very prolific freelance writer and i can create 10 different threads a day for the next 10years without any form of similarities of contents.

So just don't mind me when i send many topics,its a passion.

UIA04:
@toks2008 as much as I love reading most of your posts I'll like to disagree with you on this one
Yes it's true that as Christians we must pray for the right partners we must also be able to differentiate between a real prophet and a fake one. Though we pray I tell you some ladies aren't spiritually mature to know the right person don't forget some people can pretend a lot during courtship Devils in sheep clothing hence you can't always use the physical to know the will of God. spiritual immaturity coupled with pressure from family may make people ignore the still small voice of the Holy spirit hence the need for a spiritual father just like we still need the opinion of our biological father

A true life experience of a church member who was warned to wait though the man she brought was the right man but he needed to still be groomed spiritually before marrying her. But she said no pastor this one will run away again. She got married left the church got pregnant lost it to domestic abuse the marriage didn't last more than three years she became mentally ill.

GraceBestowed:


That is God confirming His word to the person!