If you’re married to the same person you fell in love with, then you’re one lucky person! Because it's a different and more common story for people who didn’t. Moving on after a tumultuous past and quietly accepting the future is how people plan to deal with their breakups. Time is the biggest healer, it helps them recover and directs them towards a person with whom they could tie the knot. Let’s assume that they are happy in their marriages. All's well, till the past sneaks in. A certain situation, place or song reminds them of that bittersweet relationship, which is impossible to forget because it was that special.
First love is special. It makes memories that last forever, but it doesn’t last forever itself. Even if you’re happy with your partner after marriage (your spouse might be way better than your ex), you will always compare your life with them to life with your ex. And here’s what you may find...

They never compromised. It was either their way or no way.


Whereas, your spouse listens to you and tries to finds a balance. You compromise in marriage, but in a relationship you don’t. You fought, cried, and refused to put your foot down. Marriage is different. You listen, you mull over and you get convinced easily.

They enchanted you.

You followed them as if they bewitched you. You were ready to go to extreme levels, just to see them smile. Their smile, oh you still remember that bedazzling smile! You often forgot yourself when you were with them. It was a one-way process. One person in the relationship always cares and loves more, and that person was you. The tables may have turned after the marriage. You’re now at the receiving end, and you’re receiving unconditional love.

They ignored your flaws.

They did not like the way you ate, dressed or interacted with their friends. They hesitated to bring your flaws to your notice, thinking you might feel bad if they told you of your shortcomings. However, your partner points out your flaws and wants you to work on them. That’s because marriage is based on honesty.

They were selfish.
Yes, they were. Their love was selfish love and not selfless. They demanded attention and made you run after them. They wanted to spend on frivolous dinner dates without thinking about the dent it made in your pocket. Since you were immature, you mistook that for true love. Then, marriage came as an eye-opener. Your partner’s love is selfless love because they don’t just love you but they love everything that’s attached to you.

They stopped loving you

If their love was strong then your relationship would have survived and it would have been a different picture today. But it did not go the way you expected. It was not meant to be. Your spouse loves you. Even if they drive you crazy, they do. Because, marriage is not a rosy picture. It’s like a maze. You both go crazy while finding the way, but you don’t give up. You both stick together and see to it that you find the end of it. And you get out of it realising that no matter how beautiful the past was, it was the past, and therefore should remain in the past. But marriage is a real revelation. It makes you remove those rose-tinted glasses and see the real picture. That’s your real world and the one from which you can’t escape easily.

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This is really deep.

If ever they give awards in romance section, I'd like to nominate this topic as the 'Topic of the year'.

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If ever they give awards in romance section, I'd like to nominate this topic as the 'Topic of the year'.

thanks so much

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Nice post