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Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by tope2000(f): 9:35pm On Apr 04, 2009 |
Sagamite: rofl |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by sammyzacks(m): 9:42pm On Apr 04, 2009 |
she married because you are the best. forget all of her provocations. calm her down and both of you should work together and build up your marrige. marriage is committment and some hardwork. the sooner she realises that you are everything she needs in the man, the better for the both of you. goodluck man. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by sley4life(m): 8:59am On Apr 05, 2009 |
@poster, ur wife has been sleeping with her ex even when married thats why she is comparing them with u, U nid to have a close watch on her whenever u are away and the truth will be revealed |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by Nobody: 9:37am On Apr 05, 2009 |
Did you seek Gods face before you went into the marriage? So many marriages are broken because we listen to the voice of the flesh. Someone like me can cope with anything from a woman but unfaithfulness which i see here is what i cant manage at all. I suggest you go into strong prayers on her behalf she is possessed of Spirits of Immorality and no matter how hard you try to satisfy her in Bed it wont work. Its quite unfortunate we end up regretting every action we take without Gods consent. I really feel your pains but there is a way out.ONLY PRAYERS 1 Like |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by nedureg01(m): 11:13am On Apr 05, 2009 |
@ poster u be correct ju-man, throw her into the singles-market, or better still discharge her so she'll go back to her better performing ex's. why endure such humiliation? a man must be gentle but never let a woman(or even another) hurt ur ego, 1 Like |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by AmAlone: 2:57pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
viperman: Haba-Allah Haba Allah Haba-Allah Haba-Allah Haba-Allah Abeg you no make sense at all 2wrongs Cannot make A WRIgHt |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by ChuckWoody(m): 3:02pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
LOL at some of the posts telling the guy to bear with it, things'll change, she's being immature. Are you for real?!?!?! Why can't y'all say what's really on your mind? The guy's got himself in the sh*t, she's been telling him about her ex's since BEFORE they were married. And he's still pleading with her to stop!! Dude are you sure she's only talking to them? O boy, get a grip and take control! Or get anodda chick! |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by IFELEKE(m): 3:23pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
@Poster, I believe yours is a Cry over a Spilt Milk. I know the Hand Writings would have been on the wall even before you married her but you were either to dumb or too lost in love to notice. Now that it has happened,I suggest you sit her down and talk sense into her,If truly you call the shots in your home then she will listen to you and amend but If she does,then you are in for it. I personally don't support Divorce so I'll say It's your Cross,Carry It!. MARRIAGE IS LIKE A CASTLE UNDER SIEGE,THOSE WITHIN WANT TO GET OUT WHILE THOSE OUTSIDE WANT TO GET IN. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by AmAlone: 3:57pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
Anyway @pOStEr did she ever compare you to your best ''friEnd'' Just kiDDing. . . |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by omar22(m): 5:22pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
Is this general performance or sexual performance? Cos these are two different issues. If it's general performance, then maybe it's not as serious, but if it is sexual, you better LISTEN to what she says and IMPROVE. If not another man will be watering your garden before long. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- You dont need the pain, because each time she compares you with old boy, each time your confidence would go, your esteem would go, your sexual performance would suffer more, you need someone that would make you feel worthy and happy |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by donpappyt(m): 8:46pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
you should have married her. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by SweetT1: 9:54pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
Forget about it bro'. a woman will always be a woman. Good thing is a woman' private parts is not a meter, otherwise some women's meter will have run down by now. Or we thank God say they don't write it on a woman's fore-head everytime she has sex, otherwise some women will be carrying a fore-head with ink all over. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by Nobody: 10:08pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
this is one condition where a slap might be necessary. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by yme1(f): 10:09pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
i dont think a slap is gonna solve it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by ifihearam: 11:54pm On Apr 05, 2009 |
Where is the poster by the way,let him answer the aspects where his wife usually compares him to her ex,well as for me i will give her a final warning and if it persists,that might be the end of the marraige.But for those of you that suggested he improves on those angle,i think that is taming a wild cat with fresh and bloody meat because the day you do not have such to render you might be the meat.Tha means that should he do as she says just because he wants to protect her and gain control over her feelings,you know women na,she would take an undue advantage and come up with other things that would be worst and she would expect him to keep doing it.chikina 1 Like |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by dasa: 4:42am On Apr 06, 2009 |
you have to be a man. She deos not respect you. Firmly tell her not to repeat such talk. I wont support hitting her. That is wrong. Use different ways to push ur point. U also hav to take the hint. She just let u know how she feels. my brother, u r doing something wrong. How can ur wife talk to u wit such disrespect. Maybe, u r too available physically and emotionally. She sees that u r too in luv so she knows she can do anything and get away with it. Scarcity enhances value. Be a bit scarce. I believe u know wat to do. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by Druss(m): 12:18pm On Apr 06, 2009 |
It is kinda sad that you married such a woman , she isnt ready for marriage! |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by sistawoman: 2:17pm On Apr 06, 2009 |
Sweet T: The same thing applies to men. Why is it that men are allowed to sleep with every Jane, Jill and Mary but women are susposed to have only one mate for thier whole lives? A woman always has the opp. to sleep around more than men. Just for the simple fact that we are women. But it does not mean that we do. Just cuz she is comparing him to an ex does not mean that she had 50 of them. All it means is that she sleept with at least one other dude besides her husband. Stop with the double standard shit. This is 2009 for God's sake!!!!!!! |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by luxoire(f): 3:23pm On Apr 06, 2009 |
some of una na ENEMIES OF PROGRESS - how would somebody advise a man to SLAP A WOMAN!!! what would dat solve? anyhow - look DIALOGUE is the best remedy for most things and unfortunately it is something that some of us Africans have to perfect - not just talking but COMMUNICATING the important issues and trying to resolve it with little embarrassment, and anger! talk to her about these comparisons WHY she does it - it may be she only wants you to listen to her wants and please her how she wants to be pleased (sexually) - so maybe if you took on board her comments and told her there are better ways of putting these across that are less hurtful to you she will listen - NO WOMAN WANTS TO INTENTIONALLY HURT A MAN SHE LOVES. if her remarks a general then find out what she wants you to do that will make her stop this - work together - MARRIAGE IS NOT SOMETHING TO BE TAKEN AS LIGHTLY AS SOME OF YOU THINK - in when its smooth, out when the heat goes up a few notches - no way out - YOU MADE YOUR CHOICE BEFORE GOD AND MAN and so unless your reason is darn good - do not break those vows so easily - what examples are you setting for the younger generations and indeed your children and younger ones (if you have any) |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by asomugha: 1:53pm On Apr 07, 2009 |
Asomugha:I support viparman that is jst d best answer to a situation like this. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by babadee(m): 6:01pm On Apr 08, 2009 |
sistawoman: Thats just the way it is, 2009 or 2999!!! get with the program, 1 Like |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by empire2009: 6:26am On Apr 09, 2009 |
there is no smoke without fire,don't tell me it all started on your honeymoon,the issue may appear complicated but it is not beyond control.First, you need to examine yourself,try to trace the beginning of this dilemma as much as possible. You might have went off the line at a point.Marriage is a very big institution and is filled with ups and downs.You have to handle the situation with maturity.Remember: frail creatures are we all,to be the best is but the fewest faults to have.try to show her more affection,bring out the positive values in her.your wife is your most valued treasure.make her to see how important she is to you,show her love,caring,thats all she wants from you-drop your pride man and love your wife.You alone will make your wife the way you want her to be. Trust in God,he will set you free. I wish you success bro |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by ikwuoma: 4:34pm On Apr 09, 2009 |
i dnt think divorce is the best option.u shld try and talk 2 her hrt 2 hrt.u are already in it so u hv 2 mk it work. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by Sagamite(m): 3:46pm On Apr 10, 2009 |
sistawoman: Because men do the banging, and women do the taking. Men woo, women get wooed Men hardly attach emotions to the sex, women usually do. Men are not the ones that are incubated for up to 9 months and left with a baby. Most men are bothered about their woman's number of partners, some women actually get attracted especially to players that have been with several women. Overall, men have to work for it. women just have to take it if they want. They are different species, hence different rules. That is why men can take the liberty more than women can. Deal with it! But mind you, no one can force you to do anything. If you like sleep with a 1000 men, there is no law against it. 1 Like |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by Richyreal(m): 1:57am On Apr 12, 2009 |
my man i strongly believe that your is still into her past lovers,wat you should do is to try your best at satisfyin her otherwise my broda 'spinna go service madam' |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by spicyblack(f): 11:29pm On Apr 12, 2009 |
bro, get 2 work.work out ur marriage.whatever she says u'rnt doing well,pls work on it. dnt threaten divorce if u'r not sure u can handle a break up. not like u shld over indulge her behaviour but be wise with ur words whenever she compares u wt others.diplomatic approach is d best approach 2 a lasting marriage. keep telling her ur mind abt d comparison. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by Magellan: 5:52am On Apr 19, 2009 |
I hate to be the minority on this one, Just think about it, if she didnt wanna be with you, she probably would have left your ass a long time ago. Give her the benefit of the doubt. You prolly aint the greatest hubby or boyfriend she ever had, but she's giving you the opportunity to prove yourself. Hell, if she didnt want you, she would have stayed with her ex !! Just out of curiosity, have you asked outright if she's cheating My guess would be, NO !! That would be coz you already know he answer! Women these days are not property despite the fact that you pay dowry, they are your lifelong partner, make them know or remind them of the fact. I've had girls/women compare me to their ex, but I didnt take it to heart the wrong way, matter of fact, they helped me be a better partner. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by Honeyboy09(m): 7:37pm On May 10, 2009 |
She needs some deliverance, absolutely she is cheating on you , |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by mccloud224(m): 8:02pm On May 10, 2009 |
@Poster Man, you have a very serious problem on your hand.More serious than you take it to be.This is why it's always good for a guy to find out all he can about his woman's past before taking the relationship to the next level. If she has the balls to call her Ex-studs in your presence or absence, that means one thing.You mean nothing to her.Even if you weren't married to her and you were both cultivating a serious relationship, anything in her past should have been put away.For her to compare with them, men, i don't know how i would react to that.In other words, what she is trying to say is you are not man enough for her and that's the cold truth. I assume her comparisons have to do with bed matters.If that's the case, try to satisfy her orally everytime make love to her (either with fingers or cunninglingus).Make sure she cums before you get into her.If she's still complaining after all this, then it's time to call that marriage quits. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by monstah(m): 1:06am On May 11, 2009 |
@ adecisco you're probably right, but still i'll freak out cos its a sick situation. Jeeeezus! |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by esege1: 3:24pm On May 19, 2009 |
Believe me, your wife is still screwing her Ex, that is what they do when such comes up. |
Re: I Have Problem Dealing With My Wife's Past Relationship by lovestorm(m): 12:56pm On May 21, 2009 |
i believe your wife is not the very first date you ever had. if not, then you could start by calling names of females you ever dated/slept with and recount your experience to her. be detailed about every session you ever had with your past sex life and watch her reaction. tell her if she was that good she could take the lead and teach you those stuff that her past jide or james or eze or segun ever did and she will see if you don't have a newer version. on your own part, if you lack what it takes then seek advice to measure up, read magazines, watch movies, learn some tricks on how to get the heat on while the flame burns. i had an experience in my past relationship, i was still feeble and new to sex. my woman just lie there and i get up when am done but she never complains. the very day i had her twice in a row with so much strenght because she was to leave for a whole 3 weeks, she asked me how come it was so different today. i knew i just started living up to it and i took it upon myself to explore this sex tin. today, its a different story, no woman ever complain, sometimes i get off them cos they cum multiple and am yet to start. |
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