One month after my 16th birthday, I
saw two pink lines on a pregnancy test
in my then-boyfriend’s basement. I
cried and freaked out as any 16-year-
old would. Then I called my friends to
pick me up for the varsity hockey
game because before your belly
expands and the idea of becoming a
parent is plopped into your lap, red-
faced and hungry, you think you might
have a chance at hanging onto your
teenage life.
My daughter is 20 now and I’m well
past being a teen, but I will always be
a young mom, “not old enough” to be
her parent whether I’m 16 or 36. There
are so many things people have said
to me over the years out of misguided
support and curiosity, or just plain
ignorance that still cause me to roll my
eyes.

1. You look like you could be the big
sister!
Yes, I know it’s generally a compliment
to tell others how young they look but
not to me, not in front of my daughter.
Not when I’m trying really hard to be a
good mom and be taken seriously. I’m
very aware I could be her big sister,
but I’m not, I’m the mom.

2. Where’s the father?
Am I wearing a sign that says, “Please
ask me personal questions at the
playground”? Just because I’m young
and not wearing a ring, there is no
reason for me to share the background
of our family.
3. Did you get your GED?
What??!! Being a teen mom does not
automatically turn a person into a high
school dropout or struggling member
of society. Yes, some of us need to
leave school to survive, but some of us
also finish high school and go on to
college.

4. Do your parents take care of her? My
parents have always been amazingly
supportive, but please don’t, after I’ve
been juggling school and work and
midnight feedings, ask me if someone
else is taking care of my child.

5. You don’t look like a mom.
Look, I’m trying really hard here. I’m
trying to fit into a world where I’m not
the norm and I don’t need to be
reminded that I completely stand out
at kindergarten pickup.

6. Does she [looks around and
whispers] know?
Does my daughter know there are only
16 years between us? You mean did I
sit her 3-year-old self down and tell her
I had premarital sex? One of these
days, we will discuss the choices I
made in high school, but I’m thinking it
will be after we talk about the birds
and bees.

7. You make it look fun. I want one!
Yes, I swear to you this was said to
me. When everyone is dressed and fed
and not crying, motherhood is fun, but
parenting at any age is not easy — and
we don’t pick kids the way we do cell
phones and cute shoes.

8. So you wanted to keep her?
I did. That’s why she’s here. And
again, we’re discussing way too
personal things about my life in front
of my child and the rest of the moms
at the swings.

9. What did your family say?
This one might not be hard for
everyone, but it’s always been difficult
for me. Telling my parents I was
pregnant was extremely difficult and
being brought back to that time by a
stranger feels like a sucker punch of
emotions.

10. Do you regret it?
Nope. Not once in her 20 years of
existence have I regretted bringing her
into this world. She’s not a decision
I’ve made. She is my daughter, and I
love her just as much now as I did the
day she was born.

source: http://rukielnino.com/2015/09/10/10-things-not-to-say-to-a-teen-mom/

Aww...your baby's all grown up now, OP?

Just forget the question dey ask u and take care of the child.

11. How did it happen
I drank too much milk only to find out I am pregnant

12. What were you looking for?
Wetin concern you with wetin I dey find

13. You are a loose girl?
I already know and I don't need a reminder


Funnily, 99.9 per cent of those that would tell you all these things are your fellow ladies. Ladies crucifying each other since 1666 BC

osaslord500:
Just forget the question dey ask u and take care of the child.

i tire for all the yeye questions o, how does the questions affect the welfare of the child?

Hmmm...

Its dat bad... Genevieve tried sha...

Why d f.uck wud she be a teen mom in the first place??