I met this guy online d other day, we ve been communicating for somtim nw (5wks). He sounds very reasonable 2 me but not sure if all this internet dating thing works. He's askin me out, i dnt no if its worth givin a go. Can anyone with previous experience help PLS. Hav nvr tried it before.

no

Ve u tried it b4 though

yeah it does, i've met a couple of idiots though but by and large nice. i'm quiting this yr though. tired of it

it don't work y will u want to date someone u can't see someone ,someone u can't, gurl u know its just stupid to me ow r u sure he don't even av a gurl he can see and do all dat 2 her and u r over here thinkin bout a guy on d internet it even sounds stupid

it works for certain pple depending on how knowledgeable they are and how they are able 2 read pple from what they write. i think i can do that cos i can know exactly what a person is lyk after chattin 4 a while. if u know u cant predict, the DONT

Internet dating is not the proper way to get someone because most internet dating failed before it hits the ground but then there are cases where it works. Just don't depend on internet period because most are fake.

That's really hard to say, girl. One side tells you, "Well, why not go for it" yet your more logical side tells you, "What in the world are you thinking?"

All I can say is that entering into any relationship, whether the person is near or far, takes courage and vulnerability. It all depends on you: are you willing to tread on such a water? Besides, I believe that once a cheater, the tendency is that the person will stay one. So distance cannot ensure or disprove any person's fidelity.

Most relationships that begin as friends tend to last more so than others. I understand you want some advice but don't use someone else's yardstick to determine how far you will/can go because you never know, maybe they broke their own yardstick,

Good luck.

it works
i met my girlfriend 3 years back online
we sure have been datin since then
we should be getting married soon

it sure works just keep faith
and u have to learn to fish inthe right rivers - u dont catche whales in ponds- similarly u dont expect to catch good guys in porn sites(I hope)

@ Kaecy5

i didnt meet him on a porn site. I met him on one of this nigerian sites.

I think it would work. Its just a matter of what you feel inside and putting the extra effort to make it work. My first advise is to try and see this person and re-evaluate how you feel about him. If you feel the same way then go for it. You will never know what lies at the end of the tunnel!!!

it works, i'm dating someone i met online too. i'll see where it goes.

YES! it really works.

I met a wonderful, caring and loving man online in Feb, and we're now in a serious relationship. You never know whats waiting for you out there, I know there is the general feeling among Naijans that only freaks need to look for 'love' on the internet. All I would say is that we need to embrace change and try to solve our problems by trying 'new' as well as 'traditional' stuff.

If like me you live in the US/Europe, work 14 hr days sometimes and so on, meeting people for relationships needs some real creativity (lol). Believe me, there are lots of lonely pp out there. Life's too short as I always tell my sisters, if you see an opportunity, grab it with your two hands.

My general advice is this,

1 What are your expectations? what do you want from the other party - sex, casual, serious/marriage. You should seek someone with similar aspirations, and make this clearly known, otherwise from the onset both parties would be expecting different things of each other.

2 Dont take it too seriously!!! keep an open mind, and take disappointments on the chin. For all you know you may find love 'offline' (lol). You may meet him after chatting online and he turns out to be a midget (though his profile says he's tall), has baby mama drama (though he said he was 'single') or has a schizoid personality (1 min calm, d oda min he's raking for you) etc. You may also end up as friends without any relationship (I met 2 of my male friends in this way).

3 Watch the person. Eg, conflicting information about their age, marital status, location etc. We often try to portray a different image from who we really are. If you are particular about certain things - eg using swear words, sexually explicit language, physically threatening language and so on, make sure this is known by the other party. If you are not comfortable with the behaviour of the other party, remember you are free to terminate the contract at any time (lol)

4 Give out your personal information (e.g. real name, photographs, address/telephone nos, contact and family history) only after you have established some trust/confidence in them.

5 Dont meet 'offline' too early. After chatting, or speaking on the telephone for at least a month, arrange a date in a neutral location (not his/her place) where there are lots of people around. e.g. Starbucks, a restaurant etc. Make sure at least one person knows who and where you are meeting.

Note to self: I met my boo offline just 2 days after chatting w him. Duh, Go figure . Please people, don't follow my example!! Guess I was lucky afterall,

6 Give out only as much information that you get. Find out what type of person he/she is, his occupation/address, family background, religion, interests - music, politics  etc, and do the same for yourself.  Establishing a friendship or rapport is crucial to the success of any relationship, whether you meet on the internet or your friend's wedding. There has to be a  'connection' (emotional, intellectual, spiritual, maybe physical), understanding (of each other) and tolerance, which works both ways

7 I should add about not having sex on the first date/too early and not making/accepting a marriage proposal until both parties are familiar with each other and formally begin dating or courting as the case may be. Involve your friends/family/loved ones to give an 'independent evaluation'.

In fact this is the critical stage of the online relationship, when the digital and physical worlds converge.

Internet dating should not be approached with desperation, anxiety, hostility/suspicion towards the opposite sex, or other ulterior motives. Just see it as another way of meeting a man or woman you could date, and who knows eventually marry.

Of course, this blueprint is hardly 100% foolproof. But I'm grinning to the bank, and 4 Diasporean Nign couples I know met on the Internet. Its worth giving it a try, be positive and prayerful. There's someone for everyone as they say, you may find them offline, but who knows, you may meet in cyberspace. Never say never, my dear.

One last thing, I don't know if the house rules allow me to do this. Theres a very popular dating site for Black Africans/Caribbeans/African Americans. Its based in the UK - http://www.ukafro.com. Worth a try (as you guessed, I met my boo through this site ).

Aite, nuff said. Good luck in the quest. May we all find happiness in the pursuit of happiness (Buddhist saying)

yeah but i dont know how far yu can go.i would not advice yu to give him a yes cos yu dont know him

@neonaijan

thanks 4 dat piece of info, really appreciate it.

Well i have tried it before not once and presently i am having a serious relationship with somone i met on the net and we hav been dating for 4 years now.

so you can give it a trial

estylove1:

Well i have tried it before not once and presently i am having a serious relationship with somone i met on the net and we hav been dating for 4 years now.

so you can give it a trial

esty dear
hmnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
4 years internet dating experience
pls teach me d secret
I am interested
lol

@topic
hell, it doesn't work
but it is kinda consoling

i don't know what internet dating is, but i know anything i really want will work for me.
so if it doesn't work for you, that doesn't mean it won't work for anybody else.
just accept the fact that you are unlucky.

@funmise baby, take your time, keep chating with him, make him have a heavy feelings about you. dont rush to see him, make him ask and beg you to see him. after wish you can do anything else you want to with him

i will tell u frm experience, i met my guy online n for 3yrs nw we've been together n still going strong so it does wrk bt nt all the time,goodluck girl.

estylove1
I think i know you,
Do you mind for chat?

estylove1 I'm also interesting.

reaserch shows that ladies are more likely to have sex with a guy they met online on a first date, guyzzz,

seriously, dont try it , u will end up getting hurt, internet profiles are full of lies and deceit , people will want to impress u, lie lie, i prefer meeting ladies that i like face-2 face, kinda gbadun love at first sight

seriously, dont try it , u will end up getting hurt, internet profiles are full of lies and deceit , people will want to impress u, lie lie, i prefer meeting ladies that i like face-2 face, kinda gbadun love at first sight

i watch this programme 'elove' wen sumtimes it works
but i tink you gotta be careful, ve u seen him on cam & if u gonna meet him pls meet him in a neutral place where there is a lotttttt of people

well just read thru everythin & saw that u already met him gud luck

no serious minded guy or girl will claim to be looking for true love online, Online dating is more of one night stand ,

nope

From the poster's replies, she had already made up her mind to meet this guy, just looking for supporters. Plz allow her to satisfy her conscience.