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Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Memejem: 6:00am On Feb 18, 2016 |
I would like to begin my accepting your apology. Thank you. Nobody is perfect in religion, we are all learning and growing with each others help as well as through discourse. In regards to my previous statement about the old testament, based on my understanding the old testament as well as the laws contained in them were given to the israelites (jews) and not the gentiles (modern day Christians) as means to govern them and keep them until the promise of a Savior for the world, a descendant from Abraham would be fulfilled. these laws were also put in place to keep the jews as a people distinct from the gentiles. This was prophesied in the old testament: Jeremiah 31:31 "BEHOLD, DAYS ARE COMING, DECLARES THE LORD, WHEN I WILL MAKE A NEW COVENANT WITH THE HOUSE OF ISRAEL AND WITH THE HOUSE OF JUDAH" In the new testament: Hebrew 8:13 "when he said "a new covenant" he has made the first obsolete. But whatever is becoming obsolete and growing old is ready to disappear" Luke 22:20 " this cup which is poured out for you is the new covenant in my blood" Based on these passages and a few more I was taught that these are some of the reasons why Christians for the most part do not follow the laws of the old testament as least not strictly. Based on the old testament we are not to eat shellfish, work on the sabbath which is actually begins on Friday evening to Saturday evening, but we Christians have moved our day of worship to Sunday. to be honest im not really sure what the truth is as vie heard different interpretations from different pastors and sunday school teachers and the like. this debate on the rules of the old testament as it relates to Christians is a little controversial and no school or though or branch of the christian religion has come to agreeance over it. At the end of the day, i know that i mostly follow the teachings and laws of the new testament, and draw the wisdom of the old testament as well. Please where does it say that women can not divorce men? I was told by my pastor that when the bible utilizes the word "he" it is to be interpreted in a plural form as when Jesus or one of the disciples are speaking to a group of people. we should only interpret "he or him" when they are specifically speaking about the male gender. if this isn't the case then the majority of laws and rules in the bible is not applicable to women at all. we have to keep in mind that in the new testament many of the laws regarding divorce was when the pharisees (which were men) were questioning Jesus about divorce and he replied to them. Unfortunately the bible is written as a biography of sorts from the interpretation of the disciples and prophets which were men. (meaning they will ask Jesus questions as it pertains to themselves and will record it as such, which i will add is NOT A PROBLEM TO ME) Anyways, to the best of my knowledge there is no documented passage where a woman or group of women questioned Jesus about divorce. But regardless in Mark 10:4-5 "they said "moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away, but jesus said to them. "because of the hardness of your heart he wrote you this commandment" Mark 10:11-12 "and he said to them, whoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her and if she herself divorces her husband and marries another man, she is committing adultery" This is the proof here that Jesus was talking about both sexes and their ability to divorce, though in this particular passage he does not mention the only reason for divorce which is adultery OR abandonment. He mentions that in Matthew 19:9 "And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery" BUT also in Matthew 5:32 "But I say to you that whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery; and whoever marries a woman who is divorced commits adultery". Like i said before in THIS case this scripture is applicable to both men and women. This is how it has been interpreted by every church ive attended as well as every pastor ive ever asked as well as scriptural teaching i have read online. and abandonment reason is which is found 1 COR7:15 "Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace," in the case of abandonment it is the other spouse who gets the divorce as they do not believe in the covenant of marriage as it pertains to the christian religion Thanks postmann: 4 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by jaybee3(m): 6:07am On Feb 18, 2016 |
21st century women have equal opportunities so why should they accept/settle for less? PS: y'all should stop with your nonsensical bible quotes geez. Marriage is an institution that people engage in irrespective of their religion so the topic should be viewed from morality and values angle which i strongly believe has nothing to do with religion 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by doskie(m): 6:16am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008:ive never cheated. and yes! im a man. 6 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by josite: 6:17am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: yes it does but the greater sense is to divorce a spouse if u cant cope rather than stab him or her to death while sleeping.a lawyer-wife just did that cos the hubby has ababy with another babe in france. 2 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by plendil: 6:19am On Feb 18, 2016 |
mizquote: What of silly statement is this? Are you okay at all? yeye. @topic I really wonder why our air-headed counterparts are getting all hot and bothered. There is really no issue here. Adultery is not something to be toyed with or rationalized. Its a terrible thing and it destroys. For instance, the statement below is absolutely and shockingly preposterous: Don't even think about worrying your head about your husband's fidelity but warn him to use protection if he must keep mistresses...Da fuqqq?? Warn your husband to use protections while chooking an ashi?? OP na wa for you ooooooooo. Further this male vs female thingy is totally unnecessary. Any right thinking female, not irredeemably blinded by feminism, will easily see OP is not speaking for men. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Memejem: 6:20am On Feb 18, 2016 |
i agree with your statement as well. I was just answering his questions as it seemed he would not take me seriously unless i quoted the bible in regards to divorce as he requested. but i tire sha...if he no agree see my point then he never will. so ill just simply stop replying. i guess ill see how he responds. jaybee3: 2 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by iambijo(m): 6:23am On Feb 18, 2016 |
cococandy:if na guy, he will beat you up,emergency meeting with ur parents and at the end he will divorce you and say u bi ashawo 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by HaneefahRN(f): 6:24am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Any man tht cheats or sleeps around is a dog simple! U dnt av d ryt to call women bitches, hoes, sluts and what nots for sleeping around, when u think urself smart for sleeping around. The OP is always hypocritical. When the mad dog wt no self control brings home STI, like, HIV and all, tht poor woman wld also share frm it. Many women come down wt cervical cancer later in life as a result of their husband's multiple sexual partner, I knw women tht died from AIDS just cos they were enduring a dog as a husband. I wld rather stay sexless than endure what I dnt av to. They keep telling women to endure shit when they themselves wld throw her out if she did same 9 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Donpizzle(m): 6:28am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Phema: u must b an origin of IMO state. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by just2okworld(f): 6:42am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Hmmmmm |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Raymonbell(m): 6:44am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Women are not an object someone should own and staying with a cheating husband could be detrimental to their health and could as well put their entire family at risk of STD. My own is that every women should think through their decision before going through divorcé. Training children alone without their father could be nasty |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by iPopAlomo(m): 6:45am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Timbuktou: Word!!! |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Teespice(f): 6:46am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: and so far, the answers given are by married women. are you married yourself. 7 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by 1miccza: 6:53am On Feb 18, 2016 |
KanwuliaJara:I trust you say you good die!! |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Teespice(f): 6:53am On Feb 18, 2016 |
gemale: thank u o jare. the day I will take him serious is the day he gives this same advice to his fellow males. I am not a married woman neither am I in a relationship, but I can say with all confidence that should I get married or be in a relationship, I will be faithful to him and I expect same from him. it swings both ways. not all women can put up with a cheating spouse. I will rather leave and be single than have heart attack over someone who has chosen not to respect me. good luck to the woman who decides to put up with a cheating spouse because of what the likes of this op with his sexist views think. 4 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by macino1(m): 6:57am On Feb 18, 2016 |
okay |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Trustworthiness: 7:01am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Phema: I want to believe you are from a particular tribe in Nigeria that their women used to kill their husband and take over the wealth. Later they will realise they need a man in their life and they will start to run after another woman's husband in other to satisfy their sexual urge. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by cococandy(f): 7:02am On Feb 18, 2016 |
iambijo:Ooooh I'm shaking in fear because divorcing a philandering mofo is the worst thing that can ever happen to anyone. 4 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by jadelyn007(f): 7:05am On Feb 18, 2016 |
This is Toks Toks is a misogynistic pig Toks is a hypocrite who can't eat same shit he wants to dole out to others Toks is a stupid boy Do not be like Toks That said, I can swear I get hot feelings too each time I meet some guys with hot bodies and those amazing blue eyes, I fantasize about screwing some of these men, and some times I joke about it with my man. As much as my body has these urges, I do not act on them because I am a human not an animal with no self control. I find it utterly stupid therefore for a man to excuse cheating. Nobody enjoys screwing the same thing, same size, same skin texture, same muscle, same moaning sounds and all that shit. No body likes eating same food everyday, we all like variety with everything in life. Even women fantasize and some times they get opportunities to actualize these fantasies but they chose not to 8 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Frankaka8(m): 7:08am On Feb 18, 2016 |
EggovinMma:two wrongs don't make a right. In dis part of the world, the females get hard knocks while d males are overlooked as regards infidelity. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by richard870(m): 7:09am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008:This is a very useless post...exactly what is your point 5 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by iPopAlomo(m): 7:10am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Kachisbarbie: you haven't answered Timbuktou's question either... the man you were going to marry at first... Isn't he faithful till you found out he cheated...?! |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Honestyboy(m): 7:10am On Feb 18, 2016 |
We should do well to keep the relationship going. https://www.nairaland.com/2937918/10-likely-questions-interviewer-should |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by unmask: 7:10am On Feb 18, 2016 |
I usually laugh when women complain that their husbands are sleeping around. Would they prefer he called a meeting and says he is going to take in 2 new wives? If your husband cheats.....then you are not fulfilling your bedmatics duty. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by iPopAlomo(m): 7:11am On Feb 18, 2016 |
freecocoa: Must you get married to him...?! |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Nobody: 7:12am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Toks2008: If the above are ur reasons, then why get married? For you, sex is the ultimate reason for marriage. Wouldn't it be better for a woman to just have a sex partners and have her own kids and focus on her career, than marrying and then viewing her husband as a sex partner cos of infidelity. I don't believe in settling for less cos of low standards of morality. Divorce after infidelity is a personal choice in which many issues should be considered before the decision. But the reasons u have given is as flimsy as the word flimsy 4 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by Toks2008(m): 7:12am On Feb 18, 2016 |
jadelyn007: If only it is possible not to have teenagers and ladies who have no clueof what marriage ia all about comment on this thread. Most comments i have seen so far are from ladies who are still living in fantasy. This is a realistic thread and how i wish even after these ladies with wild adrenaline make their odoriferous remarks, they end up answering the questions i asked..WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF FACED WITH SUCH SITUATION?Period. If you like curse me from here to the skies,it does not change the fact on ground that most guys cheat on their wives and even if i preach from now till kingdom comes,it will not chnage the polygamous nature of men so start living with this fact or dont bother getting married. |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by uzolexis(f): 7:13am On Feb 18, 2016 |
this OP is a misogynist, I wonder why his topics keeps getting pushed to FP. What does that say about NL I am very sorry for your future wife OP cos all your opinions are just about surpressing women. So a woman should stay with a cheating husband right? even when she knows he is cheating Do you know the emotional consequence of that Have you heard of emotional breakdown Pls dont annoy me, it's too early for this non.sense 5 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by ThoniaSlim(f): 7:14am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Let's flip your stupi.d ideology round for a moment. What if it was the wife sleeping around should the husband divorce her? Some men giving reasons for their dog-like behavior! Must you get married? If you cannot be faithful in a marriage by all means remain single! 5 Likes |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by iPopAlomo(m): 7:14am On Feb 18, 2016 |
Omotayor123: please... don't get married... |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by francizy(m): 7:15am On Feb 18, 2016 |
cococandy: Hehehehehehe!!! I can't imagine my wife distributing my personal belonging to other men oh! Straight up, divorce! Even if she just kissed a man (knowingly or unknowingly), then divorce is a must... However, if am not man enough to keep myself from cheating when am married, then I don't deserve a faithful wife either... It's a vice versa thingy... 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Before you divorce your Adulterous hubby by babyfaceafrica: 7:16am On Feb 18, 2016 |
OP this ur write up is very insulting to faithful wives!!!!....a married woman should decide what she wants to do with a cheating husband,why does she have to stay with a dishonest and cheating man ?....there are lot of things preaching don't solve....any woman that accept what you wrote hook,line an sinker is a goner!!!! 7 Likes |
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