dean2725:

umhh!!!

Negro_Ntns:

Men do not understand love.  We understand and respond to show of respect.  When you respect a man he will respond to you with love and affection.  You have acted impulsively to disrespect your man.  You have hurt him tremendously and he will respond to you.  When he does, bite your tongue and suck it up.  If you need to take him back and keep him in your arms, then you must subdue your pride and allow him to vent and calm.  Don't talk to him about love, just keep emphasizing to him that you respect him.  He will open up again with love and embrace you.  

platinumnk:

mannn, man, man, , I had that happen to me before. there was this guy that i was going to date, but we were too busy for us to actually set a date; but we kept in touch. We used to study together and one day he borrowed my notes, and he promised to give them back to me. Now my exam was the next morning and I kept textin him telling him I need my notes back, Finally I got sooo frustrated that I sent him a hellish text message and pushed getting my papers back out of my mind.

Ten mins later he called soooo mad, and he told me that he promised to give me my papers and he was going t do that, but he doesnt want us to be friends anymore , so I went to his house got my notes and that was the end. I told him I was sorry, and that I was anxious because I was taking the final tommorow, but he didnt want to hear it. So that was it. <sub>And im not gonna beg to be with some guy, hahahaaha

I'm kinda glad we didnt hook up, I met my bf soon after</sub>

But diva try apologizing to him, thats all you can do at this point, did he say anything back?

OgidiBoy:

@ poster,


You freaking out because your man didn't show up I wonder what you'll do if you find out his cheating on you with your best friend

Thanks a lot but right now, where do I go from here? I really don't like the words I used and said to him no matter what, do I just text him, an apology msg and forget or what?

Even when I was texting him, he even called me to aoplogise and calm me down but hey i guess i was blinded with anger and finished him off with horrible words.[/

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So far you have the right atittude - you admit wrongdoing and you want closure on the bitter episode.  Look at that keyword in the highlight.  That's your clue.  He is conciliatory.  Do not be timid, there could very well be legitimate reason to get irate but manage your grievance in perspective of your needs and interest for the relationship to survive.  This is not about rights, this is about interests, so you need to negotiate, not demand!  

Calm down, remember, R-E-S-P-E-C-T, lmao!  After he is calmed and vented, then you can talk love and give him some to pacify him.  Okay?

amebo no1.:

isnt this d same guy u opened up some thread in the past "where did i go wrong. . . . . . . ."

when i called you a desperado i know very much wat i am saying, a man that  gives you no respect does not want you

seriously i wonder why some of you girls are just too blind to see wats written on the wall

Thanks a lot but right now, where do I go from here? I really don't like the words I used and said to him no matter what, do I just text him, an apology msg and forget or what? Even when I was texting him, he even called me to aoplogise and calm me down but hey i guess i was blinded with anger and finished him off with horrible words.
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Diva1:

Yes it is, I know it was easy to say at that point but we have been through a lot for 3yrs and yes he did apologise and changed, even today when I reacted this way, he didn't even say anything to hurt me, he was trying to calm me down.

amebo no1.:

yes im sure he will keep apologising as long as the sex continues atleast until a better subsitute shows up

which man that respects or loves his girl will keep standing her up almost all the time

love ko,love ni

you better go for a test cos the guy must have contacted HIV,SINCE HES KNOWN FOR SLEEPING AROUND

amebo no1.:

ARE my words harsh? oh really

well sorry i have no advice for some dude who im so sure might be having sex with one of his numerous lovers right now or for you,whos forcing urself to stay with a man that does not want you

i wish you all the best

dean2725:

i am sorry but that was a bad thing to do especially whan you also confirmed his busy schedule made him failed in those the dates.

well there is no need telling you what should have been done, the damage is done already so i will advise you first try and seek his attention because i sure he will be really mad at you right now.

go to his place, explain why you did all those things even though it was not worth it. let him know how ashamed and sad  you were afterward. not only you will tell him how you felt, he needs to feel and see it in you that you feel bad about it and that it was out of aggression. it is important not to put emphasis on what he did wrong, talk about your own wrong doings and not his, atleast for now.

if truly you want him and really love him, be prepare to do anything he will never imagine/xpect you doing to apologise to him. not all this present or gift or sort of. i mean be real, be persistent, submissive and anything he would never expect you to do.

also you need to be prepared as i dont see him giving you any serious attention in sometimes. prepare to be embarassed, insulted it is normal considering the  magnitude of your outburst (wishing him and threating him with jail; you do that to your enemy not those you love).

remember he has a scores to settle with his friend  for telling you the stuffs about him and likewise you have scores too with his friends for making then look like bad friend or something.

and the essential thing is to be prayerful because even though you aided the devil in achieving his aim, it is  still the devil on duty.

i hope this is useful and helpful.

pinky lady:

a relationship of three years and you could still reign insult on him like this.
i still find it hard to believe that you love this guy and yet u could still insult him like this

_{people with their different definition of love. na wahh ohh}

izeek:

this is so new to me,
making appointments and not meeting up with them has suddenly become some taboo?

what i need to know is, how long have you been dating this guy?
if you just met, i dont think he will stand you up like that 4 times,
but if its been for a while, then hey maybe something was wrong somewhere.

either ways dear, you had no right, absolutely no right to go off like that.
call him and say you are sorry, and just try to take whatever he does for now.
somehow i know things will defiantely work out.

ugo_2u:

@Diva


Since he didn't lash back at you then he will be more than willing to forgive you. First of all call him and apologize, he may not respond but that's ok.second send him a text also apologizing four hours after the call. Then call him six hours later and apologize again. He should forgive you. Take care ok.