Hi guys,

I have this issue that sometimes make me fee sad about the attitude of my ex.
We dated for about a year and when i saw that her ideaologies were not in line with mine and if we go ahead to marry, we would have problems. I decided to call of the relationship ona mutual ground pointing out some of those things that are not working especially from her end, she agreed and we ended it but i mentioned that we will always be friends.

To cut the long story story, she broke up all communication channels (blocked me from her social media accounts) as against my wish.
After two years of break up with her, I got married to an age long friend of mine of which she was aware.

Few days ago, i got her no from her younger brother and i called her but she gave me a very cold shoulder. I told her its no crime to say hi to her and i even proposed if we could see but she makes it all very difficult and sad.

Guys i need your candid opinion; is it wrong to continue friendship with an ex? Pls bear in mind that she is not the only ex, i have others who are still friends with me and they even know my wife (one patronises her business).

Thanks

Yes, he or she is not your enemy right?

You broke her heart oga.

Ok woah, hold on, does your wife know you've been in contact with your recent ex? Why can't you let bygones be bygones? Why do you have to seek her out when it's obvious she wants nothing to do with you? If I was your wife, I wouldn't be thrilled one bit.

Now personally, I cut all exes out of my life & I expect the same from someone I'm dating. If you don't have a child with them, then there's absolutely no reason to still be in contact with them. It ends there. Keeping in contact means unfinished business to me & you're not about to have "unfinished business" with someone else whilst with me. Screw that!

I suggest you move on & let sleeping dogs lie. You're a married man now & your main focus should be your wife, not some ex from years ago. Move on!

Guy God punish u,what kinda friendship exist between cat and rat....face ur wife and build ur family.....I still don't understand why u called her after 2yrs

I pity ur innocent wife

What could you possibly want with her, huh? If you can answer me this question, you win....seriously

My ex wanted it but I'm not ok with it, its just like making your GOOD enemy you BAD friend

My ex wanted it but I'm not ok with it, its just like making your GOOD enemy you BAD friend. Real bad

Oh man ! Don't be a jerk! Your wife won't be happy hearing this as u won't be when you hear that af her

It's not just bad, it's disgusting! U broke her heart and you're married. Why not focus on your marriage and let her be. I don't know why some persons will not let sleeping dogs lie. If she starts flirting back, you'd start disturbing Nlanders. Mtcheewww..

Life is too short.......maintain frndship wt anyone dat makes u happy.

Well, because you're married it is wrong. Besides she already gave you a cold response, you should know that's a No-no. Save yourself the stress. Your wife won't be happy with this but she won't tell you.

germainediva:
Life is too short.......maintain frndship wt anyone dat makes u happy.

see ur life outside......so u don't mind ur husband hanging out with his Ex Abi?

Later when it happens u start laying blames on the old mama at ur village

kallmemrB:
see ur life outside......so u don't mind ur husband hanging out with his Ex Abi?

Later when it's happens u start laying blames on the old mama at ur village

Hahaha @ old mama at your village.

What's the point! It's over so let her be. Remember the old saying that you can't eat your cake and have it back.

I dnt tink itz normal. If u remain frnds wit ur ex is eida u guys wia neva inluv or U guys re stil inluv.

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sylvalord:
What if one only ate half of the cake ?

you still can't get the half you've eaten back

sylvalord:
Now relate this to the OP; what if he ate just half of the cake and now he wishes to eat the rest?

same thing I'm saying. He can't relate with her like before. Just as the half of the cake you've eaten. That cake can't be the way it was before.

sylvalord:
LOL.. You don't understand me. Sorry i bothered you.

i got your point. You're the one who doesn't understand me.

Guy,you are married,can't you just face ur marriage?..what are you looking for again?...you still want to chop the ex abi?..the tin sweet you?.....she does not want to have anything to do with you..so please move on!!!!...if somethin happens naw you will be all over nairaland seeking for help

germainediva:
Life is too short.......maintain frndship wt anyone dat makes u happy.

Hello,
I've been following you for a while, sent private emails but u never replied. Would love to be friends with you.
Pls kindly text you contact number to the number on my signature.
Thanks and Happy new month.