Iam 33 and live and work outside the country. I met a girl who is 26 during my last vacation in Nigeria and we got talking as friends when I got back 2 my base. We started dating about 3 months ago, as we do chat most of the time and call each other too. She possess almost all the qualities I need in a woman and Iam already nursing d idea of tying d knots with her soonest, even though she is hard headed sometimes, I have decided to tolerate her as I have my flaws too. The issue now is that, we quarrelled 3 days ago over a minor disagreement and it rolled over to the next day when I got mad and raised my voice at her when she wasn't replying my messages on time during our chat. She started crying during the call and immediately, I sent her messages apologising for my unruly behaviour, but instead she turned off her phones and has remained incommunicado for the past 2 days and also not been active on any of the social network platforms. My question is... Is she takin the issue 2 far and just looking for an excuse 2 quit, because am still bothered y she should be away for that long knowing fully well that we are far apart, I will be disturbed and also don't have the contact number of any of her family member or.....is she doing all this because she is hurt and wants to get back at me? How do I go about this because I love her, but I wouldn't succumb to any form of emotional of psychological blackmail from a woman am planning to make my wife soon and if it's also a sign that she has moved on, so I do the same.

phrancky:
Iam 33 and live and work outside the country. I met a girl who is 26 during my last vacation in Nigeria and we got talking as friends when I got back 2 my base. We started dating about 3 months ago, as we do chat most of the time and call each other too. She possess almost all the qualities I need in a woman and Iam already nursing d idea of tying d knots with her soonest, even though she is hard headed sometimes, I have decided to tolerate her as I have my flaws too. The issue now is that, we quarrelled 3 days ago over a minor disagreement and it rolled over to the next day when I got mad and raised my voice at her when she wasn't replying my messages on time during our chat. She started crying during the call and immediately, I sent her messages apologising for my unruly behaviour, but instead she turned off her phones and has remained incommunicado for the past 2 days and also not been active on any of the social network platforms. My question is... Is she takin the issue 2 far and just looking for an excuse 2 quit, because am still bothered y she should be away for that long knowing fully well that we are far apart, I will be disturbed and also don't have the contact number of any of her family member or.....is she doing all this because she is hurt and wants to get back at me? How do I go about this because I love her, but I wouldn't succumb to any form of emotional of psychological blackmail from a woman am planning to make my wife soon and if it's also a sign that she has moved on, so I do the same.

just send her texts tellin her u r sorry and dnt bother her again... Do u understand?

Why would you raise your voice on a woman, are a deliverance minister?

She is hurt period! By raising your voice, it means you are gonna be a bully of a husband. Keep calm, keep trying her number and don't shout on her again. What did I say don't ever shout on her again!


Poo happens, man gat to be man

She has another boyfriend.

Wish kan Grammar u dey blow 4 ur topik sef Hian

Paulpaulpaul:
Why would you raise your voice on a woman, are a deliverance minister?

She is hurt period! By raising your voice, it means you are gonna be a bully of a husband. Keep calm, keep trying her number and don't shout on her again. What did I say don't ever shout on her again!

Poo happens, man gat to be man

Nice one

You may be surprise that she did not purposely off the phone or not active on her social network platform. Have u given it a thought that her phone may be stolen, or misplaced. Guy don't jump into fast conclusion.

Incommunicado!!!

Since this is a case of incommunicado I think it's congruous to let elocution takes its place in form of grandiloquence. First and foremost, your relationship is hovering around an incommunicado Bermuda triangle and it is incongruous of you as a man to be incandescent with rage to a point of raising your voice on your inamorata it doesn't ring a sweet tin tin nabulation in her head about you.It is ineffably stupid and attitudinally unacceptable more like puerile. So Mr incommunicado,next time try not to get incarcerated by rage.

As for your incommunicado girlfriend her action is justifiable. She is emotionally disorganized and mentally unstable not really mentally unstable but bewildered by by your animalistic eccentricity spurning her chemically balanced brain into an emotional higi haga and electrical crinkle crackle.

The lady has not truly made up her mind to be yours forever. She must be having a strong distraction from another guy . You raising your voice on her gave her a strong reason to stick with the other brother. And from the cause of the feud, I can conclude that you're almost suffocating the chick and no lady likes that except if you're super rich or fu*ks her better than other men. Now to think of it, is she old enough to understand marriage talks If not then brother let her be. But if she is, then try convincing her back, and start giving her little space. Don't always be on her line calling or chatting. Until after you're fully sure she's yours (you understand what I mean here). So wish you best. If she refuses don't forget to move on and correct you wrong with next girl.

Pardon me,OP,but u sound like a very self-centered person...1st,yhu had an argument which yhu regard as trivial.. it might have been a big deal to her. And then when it spills over the next day, u get furious and shout at her, worsening things all the more. U just fink by saying sorry everything 'll be fine. Alright,now u two have not communicated 4 two days and yhu come here posting dt she goes incommunicado over little things...U can't force a woman to get over her feelings of hurt.
Rather than considering the possibility of sth beyond her control being responsible 4 her not being online, u've already concluded she's doing this deliberately and that u won't give in to emotional blackmail.. smh. Do u even really love her? Perhaps u fink u'll b doing her favour if yhu marry her.
And why won't yhu have the number of any friend or family member of the girl u already looking to marry? U don't care bout her family and friends?
Mr, do get over urself and learn to be patient with a woman. I really don't see any point why yhu created this thread...and if yhu don't love her,better put an end to the relationship and save her the trouble.

Ave had my fair share of dat type of stewpid girlfriends

Highcuerayte:
Since this is a case of incommunicado I think it's congruous to let elocution takes its place in form of grandiloquence. First and foremost, your relationship is hovering around an incommunicado Bermuda triangle and it is incongruous of you as a man to be incandescent with rage to a point of raising your voice on your inamorata it doesn't ring a sweet tin tin nabulation in her head about you.It is ineffably stupid and attitudinally unacceptable more like puerile. So Mr incommunicado,next time try not to get incarcerated by rage.

As for your incommunicado girlfriend her action is justifiable. She is emotionally disorganized and mentally unstable not really mentally unstable but bewildered by by your animalistic eccentricity spurning her chemically balanced brain into an emotional higi haga and electrical crinkle crackle.

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Op.....u shouldn't av shouted at her nau.......just give her time she would get over it,switch on her phone and talk to yu.

OP you suppose to know that she is still hurt and needs time to heal. Since that you have sent an apology message to her, let her be at the moment and once you have the privilege to speak with her again, assure her you will adjust to the way you treated her.

We all have our flaws and don't forget part of being a man is to deal with the emotional nature of ladies.

Harbosede02:
Op.....u shouldn't av shouted at her nau.......just give her time she would get over it,switch on her phone and talk to yu.

Good mrng Bose. Happy weekend

wristbangle:


Good mrng Bose. Happy weekend

same to yu dear

QueenEdna:
Out of Point

And you have to quote me?

phrancky:
Iam 33 and live and work outside the country. I met a girl who is 26 during my last vacation in Nigeria and we got talking as friends when I got back 2 my base. We started dating about 3 months ago, as we do chat most of the time and call each other too. She possess almost all the qualities I need in a woman and Iam already nursing d idea of tying d knots with her soonest, even though she is hard headed sometimes, I have decided to tolerate her as I have my flaws too. The issue now is that, we quarrelled 3 days ago over a minor disagreement and it rolled over to the next day when I got mad and raised my voice at her when she wasn't replying my messages on time during our chat. She started crying during the call and immediately, I sent her messages apologising for my unruly behaviour, but instead she turned off her phones and has remained incommunicado for the past 2 days and also not been active on any of the social network platforms. My question is... Is she takin the issue 2 far and just looking for an excuse 2 quit, because am still bothered y she should be away for that long knowing fully well that we are far apart, I will be disturbed and also don't have the contact number of any of her family member or.....is she doing all this because she is hurt and wants to get back at me? How do I go about this because I love her, but I wouldn't succumb to any form of emotional of psychological blackmail from a woman am planning to make my wife soon and if it's also a sign that she has moved on, so I do the same.

At this point lemme confess...i do exactly what your girlfriend did alot,i will just go mute on my guy for as long as i want till am satisfied with his apology ,she will come of it,just keep apologising...next time you will not shout at her.....

Just text her. Apologise, tell her sweet things she wud love t hear . We do it atyms . Am sure she did DAT cos she was hurt. But OP mind ursef o. No dey shout anyhow

She may be dead.