I met this guy early last year, we've been friends, December last year we decided to get serious, before we got into d relationship I asked several questions abt his last relationship I figured out he lied to me, he just had a break from d girl, they didn't really breakup, April 2015, this girl started attacking me, calling me different names I just try as much as possible not to let her words get to me, my guy got to knw abt this, his mum also heard abt it, she called to settle d scores although he apologized on her behalf but told me he would want to end things with her amicably, so I think they stop seeing each other for sometimes, few days back we had an argument and this girl has actually been hiding her no. to call me, maybe just to confirm I was d owner of d line, I dnt knw. I called my guy that same night only to hear insulting me on background, I was really hurt, I called his friends that knew abt our first fight, with the way the girl runs her mouth i felt i shld tell someone who is older like a family, i honestly do not want to fight her, so i called d girl's elder sis, explained things to her, she apologized on her behalf few hours later my guy called me and asked me d right I had to av called d girl's sister, pls av I done anything wrng. if yes what could I av done.

I seriously don't get what dix one is saying.

donholy28:
I seriously don't get what dix one is saying.

Me sef no get.. @op, come again

My dear, ur post is too coded. U need to be more opened if u really want pple to help out.

From ur post, I can hardly deduce what u are trying to say.

#thanks

donholy28:
I seriously don't get what dix one is saying.

em say e boyfriend former babe they para for her and as the gentle sisi wey she be(OP), she con carry phone call her boyfriend former babe elder sister, make da one help her talk to the former babe to stop dey harrass and insult her(the OP). So her boyfriend hear say she call em former babe sister he con vex say waten bring dat leg, now he don carry the matter for head like aeroplane, so waten she go do?

How did you get the elda sistas numba by the way?

You get girlfriend... wahala!!! you no get girlfriend... wahala!!!

u sure say ur so called boyfriend love u so

Its not too clear but from what I see your man is trying to make shìt work and you are runni g round trying to mess things up
Watchu calling his big sister for. If I was him, shìt like that will get U kickedout

I don't even know what you saying

It's obvious he was cheating on the ex by seeing you previously. By the way how did she get your digits and how did you get her big sisters digits? Are you sure she ( the ex) was not your friend?
Well, there are loop holes in your story so I can't help you . Come with something genuine so we could help!!!

My dear, try talking it over again in a mature way. If it doesn't work out, just pack ur things and walk away. Trust is one the most important ingredients in relationships even though it is in short supply. Remember to commit it to God in prayers. Peace.

I am sorry dear, you only wrote this in a way to exonorate yourself and above all paint yourself white, a year relationship and you are calling friends to help mediate into issues, have u called him and discussed this with him? What was his response? Did he give you any assurance. The ex may have realised what she missed by letting the guy leave in the first place and staging a coup to kick you out seems to be working. My dear stand up to your realtionship and give your man a shoulder to lean on.

OK, got d no. from a group chat

How can u girls learn, quit d childish relationship n move on, must you call or ask for advice anytime u had a misunderstanding, can't u decide on your own or are u that dumb?

No be today love don turn pple to mumu. Keep mumuing ur self o

olumide81:
I am sorry dear, you only wrote this in a way to exonorate yourself and above all paint yourself white, a year relationship and you are calling friends to help mediate into issues, have u called him and discussed this with him? What was his response? Did he give you any assurance. The ex may have realised what she missed by letting the guy leave in the first place and staging a coup to kick you out seems to be working. My dear stand up to your realtionship and give your man a shoulder to lean on.

when this whole thing started I told my brother, n he said no matter what I shld av ntn to do with d girl, i am nt trying to exonorate myslf, i just feel i av no business with her, I may av made a mistake calling d girl's sister, but honestly I thought its best

Sorry, you've just been turned to the side chick.

mzclare:


when this whole thing started I told my brother, n he said no matter what I shld av ntn to do with d girl, i am nt trying to exonorate myslf, i just feel i av no business with her, I may av made a mistake calling d girl's sister, but honestly I thought its best

Good....u dont have anything with her, u need to be firm at this point in time make a decision either to stick to him or otherwise however, issues like this only gives u the required knowledge and stamina to handle situation relating to this when u are legally married.... Best of luck

Typical Nigerian girl /lady... Do you people have brain to reason at all... Sorry if I sound like this.. But you need get better thing to talk about...

Greyworld:
How did you get the elda sistas numba by the way?

she's probably friends with the other babe. you know girls like snatching each other's boyfriends

mzclare:
I met this guy early last year, we've been friends, December last year we decided to get serious, before we got into d relationship I asked several questions abt his last relationship I figured out he lied to me, he just had a break from d girl, they didn't really breakup, April 2015, this girl started attacking me, calling me different names I just try as much as possible not to let her words get to me, my guy got to knw abt this, his mum also heard abt it, she called to settle d scores although he apologized on her behalf but told me he would want to end things with her amicably, so I think they stop seeing each other for sometimes, few days back we had an argument and this girl has actually been hiding her no. to call me, maybe just to confirm I was d owner of d line, I dnt knw. I called my guy that same night only to hear insulting me on background, I was really hurt, I called his friends that knew abt our first fight, with the way the girl runs her mouth i felt i shld tell someone who is older like a family, i honestly do not want to fight her, so i called d girl's elder sis, explained things to her, she apologized on her behalf few hours later my guy called me and asked me d right I had to av called d girl's sister, pls av I done anything wrng. if yes what could I av done.

Read the bolded line... When u called ur bf that night, who was insulting u in d background?... If it was his so called "ex" , what was she doing with him in d night, or what was he doing with her?

Sis u gotta be smart...you might just be a side chic while the "ex" might be a jealous main chic. If u know what's good for u, u should give him an ultimatum to clear his relationship situation before coming to u or u walk away....its that simple.

No matter what u see in him, u can have sum1 better if u know ur worth and know u deserve a better relationship.

Op I don't fully understand what you're trying to say but the little I know shows the guy isn't serious about breaking up with his ex. Maybe he's still having sex with her, that's why he's finding it hard to leave her.
At this point, it is your boyfriend 's responsibility to end things with his ex and be serious about your relationship or he can keep forming he wants to end things amicably (meanwhile he's seeing her secretly). The girl has the nerves to abuse you and all because the guy is still seeing her. Be smart OP and use your head. If he can't fight for you, he doesn't deserve you. My opinion!

adeoti01:
Typical Nigerian girl /lady... Do you people have brain to reason at all... Sorry if I sound like this.. But you need get better thing to talk about...

Nobody dragged you here to comment, if you saw the thread was too senseless- you should have quietly passed.

And as for generalising thrash about Nigerian girls, I think you're very SILLY for saying that. Everybody is different!

mzclare:
I met this guy early last year, we've been friends, December last year we decided to get serious, before we got into d relationship I asked several questions abt his last relationship I figured out he lied to me, he just had a break from d girl, they didn't really breakup, April 2015, this girl started attacking me, calling me different names I just try as much as possible not to let her words get to me, my guy got to knw abt this, his mum also heard abt it, she called to settle d scores although he apologized on her behalf but told me he would want to end things with her amicably, so I think they stop seeing each other for sometimes, few days back we had an argument and this girl has actually been hiding her no. to call me, maybe just to confirm I was d owner of d line, I dnt knw. I called my guy that same night only to hear insulting me on background, I was really hurt, I called his friends that knew abt our first fight, with the way the girl runs her mouth i felt i shld tell someone who is older like a family, i honestly do not want to fight her, so i called d girl's elder sis, explained things to her, she apologized on her behalf few hours later my guy called me and asked me d right I had to av called d girl's sister, pls av I done anything wrng. if yes what could I av done.

Why do you have time to waste with a guy who is clearly cheating on you with his other gf?

evegran:


Nobody dragged you here to comment, if you saw the thread was too senseless- you should have quietly passed.

And as for generalising thrash about Nigerian girls, I think you're very SILLY for saying that. Everybody is different!

Thank you

Hoe u dating ur friends ex....smh

Go to school.

IF I WERE U, I'LL GET A LAWYER... JUST JOKING

NOW, SERIOUSLY! ASK HIM TO TELL THE TRUTH BOUT THE WHOLE THING... AND THEN DECIDE..

DECIDE TO LEAVE HIS UNSERIOUS SORRY ASS ALONE.

JEEZ! HE IS SUPPOSED TO PROTECT YOU NA.. AIN'T HE YOUR BF?

wet in be all this long story,una never marry,he don dey give you headache,a beg find your way,I know you wouldn't listen till acid pours in your face,some girls can be desperate o,leave that guy till he finally settles with the girl.

adeoti01:


Thank you

I trip