Omotolu:
...are you insinuating one should not marry because one has not got a job? Anyway,there is no specific scenerio that will determine when or whether a man should get married. Nigerian economy can make one single till old age.

Yes there is. After marriage, the next step is to make a family which is having children and taking care of them. This is the main responsibility of the head of the family.
How's he going to do that without a job?

tallfish145:
I graduated in 2012 and had my NYSC in 2014 but since then getting a meaning job has been a major challenge for me. Though after my NYSC,I opened an hair dressing salon for my wife in my hometown but after few months,she asked if we can relocate to abuja(where we met). After so many pressures from her,she moved to Abuja sometime in March,2015 and i later joined her in April after she secured an apartment i paid for. I stayed idle(after many job search) for two months before i got somewhere(through nairaland). As a graduate,i was earning 20k per month and transportation to work in month cost about 9-10k. Due to stress,i left the place after 3months. Now,this is November, no job and my wife is threatening to leave me,for reason that she hasn't experience hardship when she was alone. Please advice me on what to do friends.

I think this is early marriage syndrome most especially when getting married to young girls that just graduated, that has not felt the heat in the labor market. two of my frnd that are politicians are passing tru the same heat living in their personal houses in PH, with fleet of cars, just that their party lost in the previous election n mine I'm a Lil job not earning upto 60k n have abt fews days off duty. despite that she mounted pressure that the money is not enough, meanwhile I started job search from 2009 after nysc till date not seen a better one yet. to cut the story short I talked to her but all in vain. so I decided to be leaving the house n started coming back late, when she called I told her that I was looking for job by 10pm for 3days n she started begging n promised that she wont do that again. like wise the other 2 frnds of mine.
# just look for something n be doing no matter how small it is.
# don't be moved by her threat(if u not ready to loose u can't hv it).
#she just want u to up n doing even if u r doing sth or not.
#she wants to be hearing that u took ur cv to house of assembly gate n the gate man said come tomorrow, tell her to be praying for u to get a better job.
# don't regret that u married her, but this is the fun abt it.
#im sorry to say this''don't beg her again''but do the needful.
# keep searching u will get a better job soonest

englishmart:
if you love her, then find a job. A man who can't provide for the family is worse than an infidel

So you didn't have a job but still let your wife pressure you into moving to abuja. What were you thinking! Why did leave the little job you had before finding another one.
Your problem is not knowing your priorities. Your wife sef no try!

angiography:

no one forced him to get married.

marriage comes with responsibility

well we finally see eye to eye on the bolded. its his cross he has to carry for stupidly rushing into marriage. like in this era of enlightenement why is he still living like a primitive man ? primitive men married early and had many kids so the kids can all work on the farm. the earlier you married and the more kids you had the better you were cuz that means more hands to harvest the crops. this is a different era. unless your father is dangote, you dont need to be getting married till you are 40

sben2308:



So does getting married with no job means he isn't getting his priority straight. Wat about those who had a job before marriage and lost it ...

Oga, now that he got married without a job. See what he is going through. Abi didn't you read his story?

Bros I think she is not meant for u. A good wife will be by your side at any time. Many wives are breadwinners pending when d husband gets a good job. D important thing is that u are a graduate and by d Grace of God a good job must come. Allow her do her mind. Don't even beg her if not she may turn u into a house boy. Think.

Trapnews:

Lol, but he is actually right.

sukkot:
well we finally see eye to eye on the bolded. its his cross he has to carry for stupidly rushing into marriage. like in this era of enlightenement why is he still living like a primitive man ? primitive men married early and had many kids so the kids can all work on the farm. the earlier you married and the more kids you had the better you were cuz that means more hands to harvest the crops. this is a different era. unless your father is dangote, you dont need to be getting married till you are 40

lol...that's so true....
well, perhaps the op got the ladie impregnated and had to marry her..lol



the 40 is kinda long tho...u don't want ur children to call u Grandpa... lol

God is your strength my brother,, everything happen for a purpose. In everything always give thanks to God
what is your field of specialization, am not employer but have the chance for the field of elect/elect.

Nova15:
But OP why should you even be thinking of marrying when you haven't secured a job?


You should get your priorities striaght!

this is d problem wit young guys of nowadays. To tink I graduated 3 years b4 dis guy, wit a job dat pays me 100k monthly, plus I just rounded up a Masters programme I started wen I got d job, and yet i'm still single and looking for ways to increase my income, dis one is tinkin of marriage and woman. @op u neva see anytin, I dnt pity u at all. U hav laid ur bed so pls go and sleep on it.

tallfish145:
I graduated in 2012 and had my NYSC in 2014 but since then getting a meaning job has been a major challenge for me. Though after my NYSC,I opened an hair dressing salon for my wife in my hometown but after few months,she asked if we can relocate to abuja(where we met). After so many pressures from her,she moved to Abuja sometime in March,2015 and i later joined her in April after she secured an apartment i paid for. I stayed idle(after many job search) for two months before i got somewhere(through nairaland). As a graduate,i was earning 20k per month and transportation to work in month cost about 9-10k. Due to stress,i left the place after 3months. Now,this is November, no job and my wife is threatening to leave me,for reason that she hasn't experience hardship when she was alone. Please advice me on what to do friends.

You graduated in 2012 you served in 2014, and you are already married. Are you that jobless and vision less. Now you want us to pity you. I am sure that girl pushed you to marriage. Bale nta Igbo, iyawo nta ogogiro, Omo GBA Owo ita esi ni e fe esu labule. Meaning, Eze sells Indian hemp, his wife sells shepe( kaikai) their son is a tout and you are saying you Dont want trouble in the village. Yeye they smell.

tallfish145:
I graduated in 2012 and had my NYSC in 2014 but since then getting a meaning job has been a major challenge for me. Though after my NYSC,I opened an hair dressing salon for my wife in my hometown but after few months,she asked if we can relocate to abuja(where we met). After so many pressures from her,she moved to Abuja sometime in March,2015 and i later joined her in April after she secured an apartment i paid for. I stayed idle(after many job search) for two months before i got somewhere(through nairaland). As a graduate,i was earning 20k per month and transportation to work in month cost about 9-10k. Due to stress,i left the place after 3months. Now,this is November, no job and my wife is threatening to leave me,for reason that she hasn't experience hardship when she was alone. Please advice me on what to do friends.

sorry but you have a useless wife that used you to get out of the village now she doesn't need you again. no be wife you marry o but liability. and you sef why your wife go de control you like mumu. you carry go Abuja with no plan cos your wife said so. so if she say you should join Boko Haram you will join cos she applied pressure

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tallfish145:
I graduated in 2012 and had my NYSC in 2014 but since then getting a meaning job has been a major challenge for me. Though after my NYSC,I opened an hair dressing salon for my wife in my hometown but after few months,she asked if we can relocate to abuja(where we met). After so many pressures from her,she moved to Abuja sometime in March,2015 and i later joined her in April after she secured an apartment i paid for. I stayed idle(after many job search) for two months before i got somewhere(through nairaland). As a graduate,i was earning 20k per month and transportation to work in month cost about 9-10k. Due to stress,i left the place after 3months. Now,this is November, no job and my wife is threatening to leave me,for reason that she hasn't experience hardship when she was alone. Please advice me on what to do friends.

Simple go and find job, hw could u have married without one

That woman is not your wife. She might be the bad luck not allowing you to secure your dream job. If she doesn't have a child for you, pls allow her to go so that you can arrange your life. I hate young men that doesn't plan their future before marriage.

You don't have a wife bro.

sben2308:



So does getting married with no job means he isn't getting his priority straight. Wat about those who had a job before marriage and lost it ...

Oga now that he got married without a job and going this this shit. Which is better?

Did you even read his story?

No job, u moved to Abuja... The most costly city... Something is wrong with the op..

Remind her marriage is for better, for worse! or has she forgotten her vows?

Yeye dey smell.

You expect your wife to feed, cloth and house you?

Olorunmajebadthing biko!! So your only mission in life is to bang her?? He might even be lousy in bed with bad breath and all.. You have misplaced priorities jawe.

Wetin I dey read bikozienu , the only thing he's bringing to the table is his blockous..

Tafia.

End time wife.
Let her go na, wen one door closes, another one will open

OP made NO mistake by marrying her without a JOB. What if you had a job and later lost it? Do you all think the witch will make a different statement?



Abeg let her go!!!!!!

Bro, u didn't marry ur wife ( God's destined woman) , u married a woman who was destined for someone else hence the predicament. Because ur true wife will stick with u through thick and thin and not give u ultimatum cos of ur present predicament.

Nova15:


Oga now that he got married without a job and going this this shit. Which is better?

Did you even read his story?

The job is not the issue... He had the wrong wife. ..
If he has a job and marry, and after marriage, lose the job, this kind of his wife will still lament.. . She is ostentatious, that maybe why she insisted on Abuja

Nova15:
But OP why should you even be thinking of marrying when you haven't secured a job?


You should get your priorities striaght!

Things aren't always the way it seems..and life doesn't always, most times, play out the way it should.. It's not about the job really.... Some women will even threaten when you have a job and you at earning 250k..The problem is not the job or money cos he could still make over 300k monthly without a "job", if you get me.. The problem is THE WIFE...I got married to my wife without any job.. And she never felt bad for once or hustled me.. Because of who SHE IS..Today, that a memory we enjoy laughing over..

tallfish145:
I graduated in 2012 and had my NYSC in 2014 but since then getting a meaning job has been a major challenge for me. Though after my NYSC,I opened an hair dressing salon for my wife in my hometown but after few months,she asked if we can relocate to abuja(where we met). After so many pressures from her,she moved to Abuja sometime in March,2015 and i later joined her in April after she secured an apartment i paid for. I stayed idle(after many job search) for two months before i got somewhere(through nairaland). As a graduate,i was earning 20k per month and transportation to work in month cost about 9-10k. Due to stress,i left the place after 3months. Now,this is November, no job and my wife is threatening to leave me,for reason that she hasn't experience hardship when she was alone. Please advice me on what to do friends.

Have u paid her bride price? If not let her go better women will come ur way.

Nova15:
But OP why should you even be thinking of marrying when you haven't secured a job?


You should get your priorities striaght!

Things aren't always the way it seems..and life doesn't always, most times, play out the way it should.. It's not about the job really.... Some women will even threaten when you have a job and you at earning 250k..The problem is not the job or money cos he could still make over 300k monthly without a "job", if you get me.. The problem is THE WIFE...I got married to my wife without any job.. And she never felt bad for once or hustled me.. Because of who SHE IS..Today, that is a memory we enjoy laughing over..

Nova15:
But OP why should you even be thinking of marrying when you haven't secured a job?


You should get your priorities striaght!

He's already married Mr. Oga, you don't have to chastise him all over again. I'm sure he's blaming himself for getting married already.

Op sit your wife down and talk to her, if she refuses, leave the decision to her. A yoruba adage says, 'if your wife leave you, trouble has left you be that'. Marriage is for better for worse, if she can't endure the worst, then she's not fit to be a wife.

fm7070:


OK Bro.
That is end time women for us oooooooo.
If the man should go into kidnapping or robbery and bring loads of money, she will be all over him as if her life depends on him

He can't go into keke driving n other menial jobs but arm robbery. E dey he blood before. nonsense

Nova15:


Lol, but he is actually right.

kilode100:
Yeye dey smell.

You expect your wife to feed, cloth and house you?

Olorunmajebadthing biko!! So your only mission in life is to bang her?? He might even be lousy in bed with bad breath and all.. You have misplaced priorities jawe.

Wetin I dey read bikozienu , the only thing he's bringing to the table is his blockous..

Tafia.

You're obviously NOT married and really sounding like a youngster.. Using your post, what also is the woman bringing to the table? Well, I can't even begin to explain to you.. A 4 by 5 mind can NEVER understand a 15 by 16 concept..