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Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by egobetatoday: 1:21pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Strahovski:honestly. see life! some people like suffer head ehn! |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by anumide(f): 1:27pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
QueenValerie thank you. you just saved me the stress of typing.
op, listen to her. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by spreado(m): 1:31pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
U're complaining of him being too carin nd considerate bt u called him sick d only time he would not consider what u ar doin cos he wants to have sex... Bravo OP 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by jpphilips(m): 1:34pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
[quote author=optimusprime2 post=40410720] Secondly You lack the caring instinct of a mother; if you did, you would have known how to adjust your husband to fit your specs, with Love. Cant you see he is as a child to you? I wonder how you would care for kids with special needs with an attitude of insensitivity like this... I don't agree with you completely, A woman should be a woman while a man should be a man it is called a conventional family setting, if she was raised in a conventional home, chances are that she will want her hubby to lead the marriage, it is not insensitivity. Now, she has a feeling that she married a woman and decides to put her theory to a test, that was where the ATM ish came about, it is not being inconsiderate, it is being logical and perhaps scientific, most of you don't understand that speculations are no substitute for facts, she can not appeal to anyone for advice without a practical conviction of the situation. The man failed the test woefully, a man who allows his wife to waste his earnings on a frivolous trip without question is not a man in any sense of it, he practically believes that so long as his wife is concerned, she can eat his future for all he cares, that should call for serious intervention, it is wrong to assume that the woman is insensitive, she was actually expecting to be rebuked. Fourthly, You are the solitary lady- basically you love doing your thingys alone. It's unfortunate you married a man who values company and companionship, now in marriage, the definition of you is "Selfish" because all you lookout for is "You" ... sorry girl thats the picture I see. Nothing in her expose suggests or insinuates this conclusion of yours, you must have serious comprehension problems, she only asked the hubby not to remove the damn underwears while she is studying, who needs to be reminded of that? I believe the man must have paid for the academic exercise as such common sense demands that he should get value for his money, how does distracting your wife while studying guarantee that? How did you mis understand her Salon story, it is embarrassing when your hubby is the only male in a female salon, the women can't talk freely because of that and the woman is watching out for him reason she complained, who knows if other customers are already making side comments? Sixth, You are just not romantic period.... (A wife beater would have suited you just fine) Removing her underwears while studying is romantic? crap! it is actually s!lly! Ecclesiastes 3 says there is time for everything, a time to study and a time to fvck, just you and her hubby doesn't understand that. Just wondering why you skipped that part of your bible. Most of you support this dumb man because majority of the guys here are equally dumb. Marriage is not for boys but men, quitting the marriage is not an option no doubt about that but you can not tell me this lady does not have a serious issue to deal with simply because some men are unreasonable. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by rhymaster: 1:34pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
uzolexis: What is a spouse personal space? Women/girls are soooo doooooommmmbbb! Well, great I love my personal space, many men do which gives them the room to have better girlfriends than the liability girls like you actually are! Well, that is why men who've seen the uselessness of girls like you know it is a man's world and will actually show it to your face! Some men try very hard to just be a good enough man to a good woman, but hear a woman still complain? Time for your man to go haywire and punch your nose and lips until they break and bleed one moment, say sorry but not really sorry because next time he will pregnant a small girl ask you to leave you beg, he lets you stay and then whips you with an iron belt, etc. I bet this is the type of man fhoolish girls like you deserve and should get. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Opetech(m): 1:37pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
uzolexis: Come and complete this story ooo. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by uzolexis(f): 1:43pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
rhymaster: So all you do with your free time is chase girls? It's no wonder you still have this primitive mindset. Her husband is obsessed about her and it's unhealthy and dangerous. Have you heard of crimes of passion?? It's behaviours like this that lead to that. There is a difference btw love and obsession. My dear, pls read more with your free time and don't use all of it to go after girls. I am dating an amazing guy who loves me but he has a mind of his own as well, he has never hit me and would never do that. We argue a lot about stuff, he doesn't lick my feet or fall at my feet like a dog, or do everything I say even if it doesn't make sense. That my friend is the difference btw love and obsession. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by jpphilips(m): 1:43pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by FRANKOXY(m): 1:44pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Everything is problem to women. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by uzolexis(f): 1:45pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Opetech: That is THE END |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by yinkeys(m): 1:45pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack:Madam sorry to be rude but you really are not serious. Some of you women could be confusing, it seems you should have married a player because you don't deserve this guy at all. You should have married someone that would constantly cheat on you or has so much experience with women. That is how a lot of inexperienced men behave if you don't know, I was also obsessed with my first gf until I understood women a lot better If he's too clingy, trust me there are better ways of handling this since you are more experienced when it comes to relationship matters. Right now, if I see an inexperienced babe I go happy die cuz I know how I'll handle the whole clingy & nagging problem For better or worse, work it out. There are lots of ladies out there that desperately want to be married. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by drnoel: 1:46pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
uzolexis: the day married men take advice from single unmarried People without experience will be he day. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Opetech(m): 1:47pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
uzolexis:Lolz, let me just believe you, let me just. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by uzolexis(f): 1:50pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
drnoel:As you can see,i also advised her to see a marriage counsellor as I don't consider myself an expert in marriage issues. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ManTiger(m): 1:50pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Nigerian Crazy Mentality. NCM. Yeye dey mess, if he dey beat you like fufu now, you go tok. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ehix89(m): 1:50pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
he gives yhu good loving,he gives u care,he gives u money, he gives u sex,he gives u warmth and he gives u attention....and all u hv to gv him back is complains...God how do singles like us get a good woman 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by uzolexis(f): 1:50pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Opetech: Lol,you don't have a choice |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nmeri17: 1:53pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
where is kanwuliajara when you need her mbok come give this op small injection |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by egobetatoday: 1:54pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
i understand u perfectly well. if i wasnt married i would have condemned his behaviour too. The fact is that u are a lucky woman, i dont want to say u dont deserve him cos u dont understand what God has done for u. Start treating him nicely, love and care for him. Believe me, if u lose grip of him u would not get him back! 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Jalinco: 2:00pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
I couldn't find the right words for your husband in any of the dictionaries here but Mama Onibooli said your husband is Andogi. Yes real Andogi, but you can make him wise by taking one of your concubines home and have sex in your husband's presence. I swear you will know that hell is even better than some conditions 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Tomtoxic: 2:02pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
I understand the op but divorce is totally out of it y do u want to break his heart wen u knew he was like this and u still married him that's selfishness. your husband is simply obsessed and has low self esteem like seriously when I read does submission and cuckold stories I do not even believe they exist.y would he want to follow you to a women convention that silly even going to the salon with you.make sure he never does that again before tongues start wagging cuz women generally prefer a dominating man too much of everything is bad and he is showing too much love as for the sex when u studying there is nothing wrong jhur love dey shack am just let him knw when u're reading isn't the best time to get intimate.talk to him to stop texting u at work gosh these are what guys do that get them in d friendzone sef.no body z gonna stop me 4rm watching my football by it could that hubby wasn't enjoying the match tho. ur hubby can't be changed but can be improved tho.he is mentally weak and feels he can't do without u.trying to change him might bring out the mike Tyson sha but seriously if my wife cums back around 12 due to traffic I go just chill let her get some rest but we must talk about it the next day same with the ATM too but ur husband z kinda weak and sister he can't be changed its your cross to take charge so do a good job in taking charge and maintaining the family. don't tell his friends oh if he finds out it will reduce his confidence and self esteem the more 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by aniblue(m): 2:04pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Madam, i understand how you feel but the solution to this very issue is in "Communication," sit your husband down and discuss the issue with him, talk to him with sincerity and respect. This is a very sensitive matter, ensure you talk to him in a way that you won't be chasing him out of the house/arms cause there are millions of women out there waiting to have this man you are complaining as it is always said that one man's food is another man's poison. Finally, pray to God and commit your marriage into God's hand. Marraige isnt a bed of roses, stay positive, wishing you success. #Team no divorce.... |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ogaofficer(m): 2:05pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
Enu e lo wa yen. olamisowon1: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by MDDang1(m): 2:11pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
divorce is not the option madam...u need to talk to him, he's just being too caring |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Tomtoxic: 2:14pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
the movie pyaar impossible does justice to your husbands case he might be feeling inferior to u or maybe he just feels you are more experienced and wants u to show him the way in any case simply try to but his ego,confidence level and self esteem if there is a decision to be made and he brings it to u remind him that he is the man of the house and he should make the decision with little suggestions from u |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by mobb: 2:20pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
I hope you're not dating another man yet ? If not; the only thing you need to do is step up your game by doing those things he does; which obviously is your duty (House Chores) gradually he'll start gaining his pride. Your write up also indicates you don't have kids yet ? if so, why are you staying of from sex? I bet that part of his attention will shift on the children when you start making kids; "abi person wey go pay child school fees fit give you his ATM just like that" .. do your bit 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by holyokoto(m): 2:24pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: I have been hearing of this kind of your husband but never knew they existed. But don't loose gut, He can change with influence from friends, at least 10% . I wish am his friend, I would have bring out some manliness in him. |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by ibnzubair(m): 2:25pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: I think you better leave him so, just be good on your part as a wife, one change may lead to a complete overhaul of his personality, you may end up regretting 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by holyokoto(m): 2:25pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: I have been hearing of this kind of your husband but never knew they existed. But don't loose gut, He can change with influence from friends, at least 10% . I wish am his friend, I would have bring out some manliness in him. And your fault, you appeared not to be that Romantic |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by teemy(m): 2:28pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help compared to My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag https://www.nairaland.com/1366681/husband-turned-me-punching-bag The above is a link that appears as a related thread to this thread you created enstack. A further look at your post suggests you are not the original lady involved but a friend of hers that wants her to come over to nairaland and see people's reaction and their views. enstack: Your hubby has his flaws but I believe you are the one extreming this love. Over many years of observation, I realised that people end up despising most what they at one time appreciated. A good conversationalist becomes talks too much A wonderful smile becomes always shing teeth without control Same old thing but being too close changes how one perceives it later He was a typical virgin and was new and I was his first girlfriend. So I felt comfortable with him. He was so kind and loving so I agreed to marry him. Simple don't ask for anything if you don't really need it. In case you already have gotten it you could simply return it. Problem solved
Secretely a lot of ladies at your work place would 'kill' I mean it really kill to be the synosure of all eyes that an hubby would create time at his to call then or do you feel that those that have not been receiving such do not want it? Even at work he would be calling me and texting me I am even scared he would loose his job if his employer finds out. Seriously depriving him for weeks! This man has segregated himself by singling you out as his sex partner and no other. Try get this orientation about sex. He has every right to use your body to satisfy his sexual desires same as you have his. Apostle paul refers to this as regular marriage relations. Do not feel as if you are doing him a favour. If you feel his libido is too high try get him a intimacy gadget to balance the time you are incapacitated to join him. On the other hand it could be you are not getting a kick out of sex as you should be, might be he comes too early or does not know all the tricks he should be performing. Tell him to get educational knowledge to up his forte (definately not porn). His friends or good google search should help him out on 'how to please your woman in bed'. By the time he gets it right you probable might be the aggressive one. Ever seen anyone spit out good honey? I have no time for myself.. he is always around. Sometimes if I say no to his advances for sex he would act like I am a wicked woman who has cheated him or rubbed him of his right. He would give me the silent treatment for weeks until I give in. Forget that thing or do you believe that those women agreeing with you that he is a woman wrapper because you said so do not wish to have his digits and get back to him later on only to play a recording of you saying so and work their way to being 'the woman who appreciates him'. Men do follow their women to salons not a biggie. sorry if your 'friends' are not so lucky. On Sunday he insisted on going with me to the salon and it's now embarrassing as every Sunday my mates in the salon would gossip about how my husband is the only man amongst women making their hairs because his wife is there. I can relate to this. My wife once mistakingly felled the baby in her arms and I said nothing. She later came around to say it pained her more that I did not accuse her than if I did. I laughed. Why step on someone that is already on the floor. It was obvious it was unintentional. The day I returned home 11pm due to huge traffic jam, I was expecting him to be furious like any other man.. he was with all smiles even offered me water and collected my bag and books. Christ. Wait who is the one asking for silly things - you. Who is the one complaining when he does them - same you. Now who is the source of the problem? The bible recommends that men love their wives. You have also agreed that he is kind and has love. He just cares. Well maybe excessively but you have the power to control how it goes. I need sincere help. I told his family that I'll file a divorce if this continues as I cannot live like this. It's no longer love but idolatry. I thought it's wives that are submissive.. he is the one submissive. Anything I ask... he grants even silly things. Things that a real man would query before granting. There is no way you do not know his salary or financial projections considering you virtually control him yet you went on to 'spend excessively'. No kill this man. Do not take his gentility for granted. I am sure that if I ask him to bathe in acid he would do it. I'm sick and tired of this marriage. Just a year. The last quater he gave me his ATM to spend when I went for training in Abuja. When I was spending excessively he was quiet about it until I returned and found it he was broke that i wrecked him. I was wondering what happened to him. Why didn't he talk? You know he would assent to all thing involving you, you ask for it, he gives you and you end up complaining about him listening to your desires. He has chosen to be to you a friend married rather than a professional husband which I can assuredly say is the better of the two. If you simply do not want him just let him go rather than do as if you are doing him a favour by staying in the marriage. One thing I do know is that man you so despise for what you call feminity is one in a million. Manage him well and you would reap its fruits. Do otherwise and you would also reap its fruits. When the years have gone by you would have one story or the other to tell. By the way I am pro #noDivorce and you deserve to be happy. I know you will do the right thing. Wishing you well my dear - Teemy 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 2:32pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
enstack: kindly refer me to the baba that did the jazz for you cuz from the look of things its over working 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Idolised Me And Now I'm Fed Up. Need Help by Nobody: 2:34pm On Nov 26, 2015 |
ibnzubair: one change may lead to a complete overhaul of his personality looks like thats wat she actually needs |
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