The real intent behind opening this thread is purely selfless, A little lengthy but I need you advise on this one please. I am a young man in my late twenties but trust me when I say I get mistaken for a teenager, people while trying to console you say ‘oh, you will enjoy it when you are about 50 and above’. I have very embarrassing encounters at least once every week, when strangers are just so disrespectful to you thinking you are some kid, well, once I talk for about 2 minutes, they are speechless cos yes, I am really intelligent and talk my age, suffice it to add that I am a practicing accountant, graduated from the university about 4 years ago. Like I said the intention behind opening this thread is selfless, it’s my fiancée, it worries me how she feels when someone disrespects me in front of her, I always stand up for myself anyway, but I can’t imagine how embarrassed she’d feel. I was driving with her by my side to the mall one afternoon and got pulled over by the police, One of the policemen yelled at me ‘you this small boy, na because you carry woman, u no wun stop ya car abi’… I was mad like wanted to bitch slap the dude, I calmed down and reported him to his colleague who apologized on his behalf, I later called him too and rebuked him, seeing the confidence I showed, he denied it , said he never said such.(that felt good, at least my fiancée was listening…lol) To cap it all up, I have learned to live with this cos it’s been on since like forever. But my woman, it bothers me. She claims she has learned to live with it too, but truth us I keep thinking, what if she’s just trying to not get me worried or it bothers her for real and could be consequential on our relationship. What’s your take on this guys? Helpful comments from mature minds only please.

I can't say I know how you feel.
bt wait for dem NL ancients.... dem fit help you.

When you stop trying to prove to the world that you are not a small boy then you will truly be regarded as a man
What others think don't matter , you are you , can you change it no!
Do you have to prove you aren't a small boy no!
Steve Hawking is one of the most intelligent people the world ever produced

Can he talk ? No!
Can he walk ? No!
Does that limit his intelligence ?
Absolutely not

let me laff small

What's going on here sef

Confessng:
When you stop trying to prove to the world that you are not a small boy then you will truly be regarded as a man
What others think don't matter , you are you , can you change it no!
Do you have to prove you aren't a small boy no!
Steve Hawking is one of the most intelligent people the world ever produced

Can he talk ? No!
Can he walk ? No!
Does that limit his intelligence ?
Absolutely not

Tnx for d smart comment, however does that mean you just say and do nothing when someone puts u down? Especially in front of ppl that look up to u and respect you?

Honestly bro, you are just getting yourself worked up over nothing.
You said you have gotten used to it and your girlfriend has also learned to live with it, so I don't see any reason for you to be paranoid.

Decker:
Honestly bro, you are just getting yourself worked up over nothing.
You said you have gotten used to it and your girlfriend has also learned to live with it, so I don't see any reason for you to be paranoid.

seriously, I don't appreciate it when people just sit inside my head. It's not fair

Decker:
Honestly bro, you are just getting yourself worked up over nothing.
You said you have gotten used to it and your girlfriend has also learned to live with it, so I don't see any reason for you to be paranoid.

She claims to have learned to live with it, but it doesn't go down well with her when d embarrassing situations happen, what if she's just being polite and careful with my feelings? Maybe if you were in my shoes, u'd get what I mean, but Tnx all d same.

obiorathesubtle:
seriously, I don't appreciate it when people just sit inside my head. It's not fair

Just like the OP did, learn to live with it.

Well I'm actually a man pretending to be a woman trapped in a man's body, so.........Hope that helps.








Actually I didn't bother to read the post, too long

Lalastica lala lala.'# Show face 4 ere,make people adviz Op..I no sabi wetin to say bruda.






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Its well.

Lets just say i choose my battles .

I do not necessarily react to every thing

like you i am on the small side but when people talk me down i ask myself first is it worth proving anything to such a person .

Like the case of the policeman,i'll just calmly,firmly and politely say Sir ,The lady sitted there is my wife to be and i wont permit your disrespecting her.

What am simply trying to say is get over the fact that you are small and so people disrespect you,disrespectful people disrespect people
whether small or big they simply haven't been brought up well ,the question to ask yourself is ,

Should i come down to your level to prove to you am not small?

Are you worth my time ? Do you deserve an explanation ?
If you cant answer no to all these concerning that person ,then be polite firm and keep it moving

The people who look up to me know me ,they know my worth ,they know who i am ,that is why they are with me ,i need not prove anything to them beyond continuing to be myself

mayim:

Tnx for d smart comment, however does that mean you just say and do nothing when someone puts u down? Especially in front of ppl that look up to u and respect you?

hit the gym bro.

Start eatin beans evryday. Gym 3x aweek. Use sandpaper 2 scratch ur face anytime u'r in d bath.
GUDNITE

mayim:
The real intent behind opening this thread is purely selfless, A little lengthy but I need you advise on this one please. I am a young man in my late twenties but trust me when I say I get mistaken for a teenager, people while trying to console you say ‘oh, you will enjoy it when you are about 50 and above’. I have very embarrassing encounters at least once every week, when strangers are just so disrespectful to you thinking you are some kid, well, once I talk for about 2 minutes, they are speechless cos yes, I am really intelligent and talk my age, suffice it to add that I am a practicing accountant, graduated from the university about 4 years ago. Like I said the intention behind opening this thread is selfless, it’s my fiancée, it worries me how she feels when someone disrespects me in front of her, I always stand up for myself anyway, but I can’t imagine how embarrassed she’d feel. I was driving with her by my side to the mall one afternoon and got pulled over by the police, One of the policemen yelled at me ‘you this small boy, na because you carry woman, u no wun stop ya car abi’… I was mad like wanted to bitch slap the dude, I calmed down and reported him to his colleague who apologized on his behalf, I later called him too and rebuked him, seeing the confidence I showed, he denied it , said he never said such.(that felt good, at least my fiancée was listening…lol) To cap it all up, I have learned to live with this cos it’s been on since like forever. But my woman, it bothers me. She claims she has learned to live with it too, but truth us I keep thinking, what if she’s just trying to not get me worried or it bothers her for real and could be consequential on our relationship. What’s your take on this guys? Helpful comments from mature minds only please.

How you get affected by what people think or say about you instead of what you think or say about yourself at your age is very astonishing.

op i can relate to ur situation
i was in the gym the other day & we were working out to some old school jamz, we were all feeling excited singing along wen all of a sudden my colleague from uk said " wen these tracks were released u prolly was a little child, how com u know the lyrics like thise"?....

wen i told the mutherfucker my age he was like " NO WAYS!!!"

so thats just it

my advice is, start carrying some weight it will make u look big & also try to keep round beard

In contribution to what Confessng posted earlier..My dear,,you really do not need to prove yourself to anyone because they won't understand you.

Mznaett:
In contribution to what Confessng posted earlier..My dear,,you really do not need to prove yourself to anyone because they won't understand you.

So I just do nothing??

rawpadgin:
op i can relate to ur situation
i was in the gym the other day & we were working out to some old school jamz, we were all feeling excited singing along wen all of a sudden my colleague from uk said " wen these tracks were released u prolly was a little child, how com u know the lyrics like thise"?....

wen i told the mutherfucker my age he was like " NO WAYS!!!"

so thats just it

my advice is, start carrying some weight it will make u look big & also try to keep round beard

Tnx bro, but was just thinking, even with u carrying weight and all that, ur colleague still still looked down on u, so maybe gyming don't help so much afterall

Wait sorry. What about you is small. Ur height or what exactly

Wud u pls relax lols I see no dam reason why u shud be worried u are looking younger dan ur age so what,u don't need to prove to anyone how old u are let dem think watever.Besides you don't know its more like a blessing in disguise just wait till u grow older, u will be thanking GOD for this,abeg enjoy yourself lols.

Mermaids:
let me laff small

make me a mermaid