Healthy relationships involve sincerity while
unhealthy relationships involve manipulation. Do
you believe a person truly loves you? Before
even giving a nod to a serious relationship, it
would be wise to analyze whether the thing you
are getting into is worthwhile. He who says he
loves you can even be a victim of his own
feelings or desires. For all you know he might be
confused with his own feelings. So, it’s good to
do a thorough analysis before making this big
decision in an area of your life that is
super sensitive.


1. Real giving vs. giving to get

A healthy relationship gives without expecting
anything in return. It freely gives. One can aptly
call this a true gift of love. An unhealthy
relationship gives in order to get something in
return. In a healthy relationship, trust is the
main force in operation. By hook or by crook
you got each other’s back. Your best interest is
always at the forefront. If what you have is true
love, both of you are willing to say to the other,
“I’ve got you covered.” You totally trust each
other. You can relax and not worry about the
relationship, because you know your partner will
never betray you. On the contrary, an unhealthy
relationship rarely gives without expecting a
return on investment; there’s always a price to
pay for something that is given. When it gives, it
expects a boomerang of benefits.


2. Accepting vs. wanting to change the partner

A healthy relationship involves accepting the
other person, wholeheartedly. It works hard to
discover who the other person really is, so she
can love that person in an all encompassing
way. An unhealthy relationship, in contrast,
seeks to change the opposite end of the
relationship. It wants the other person to
conform to his wants and needs. It is the kind
of relationship where controlling is the main
purpose, and it controls in order to get the
satisfaction it seeks.


3. Genuine desire vs. pushing your partner

An unhealthy relationship uses guilt to get what
it wants. It pushes you to feel guilt. That way, it
can demand things it wants from you. In this
kind of relationship you don’t give freely. You
give because you need to. In a healthy
relationship, you give because you genuinely
desire to take care of your partner’s needs. You
have a genuine desire to satisfy your partner.


4. Exposure vs. protecting privacy

In a healthy relationship, you go the extra mile
to cover for your partners weaknesses. You treat
your partner’s dark areas as sacred matters, not
to be divulged for any reason and to anybody.
Here, private aspects of the intimate
partnership are deliberately created in order to
strengthen the relationship; you don’t reveal
private details to anyone, even if they are
family, or very close friends. What you possess
as a couple is only for you two. You treat those
moments and details like governments treat
classified or top secret documents. You treasure
each other’s contributions to the relationship.
In a tainted love, negative attributes of a
partner become a source of nasty jokes — even
intimate moments like kissing are shared to any
person willing to listen.


5. Revenge vs. restoration

Arguments and lovers’ quarrels are a way to
strengthen a relationship. How? By using the
fights to get to know the other person more
intimately, you gain insight into how the other
partner can be served much better, rather than
use the fights as a way to gather ammunition to
control or hurt the other person in future. By
getting to know the other person, you will gain
knowledge on how to restore your bond. In
comparison, an unhealthy relationship is
vengeful and fights will manufacture rejection,
blaming, or even oppression.


6. Self-centeredness vs. shared dreams

True love transforms two individuals into one
real union. Upon forming a relationship, they
make dreams together — the fruit of which, as a
natural consequence, is the creation of
fresh goals that are unified and that aim for one
another’s well being. The unhealthy relationship,
on the contrary, demands that you give up your
personal dreams. It will not help you make them
a reality; this kind of relationship doesn’t give —
rather, it steals.

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So u saying if as a gal I Can't cook, don't like dowin house hold chores n d guy's trying to change me its naw unhealthy?




Abi if my BF smokes or drinks and am trying in the little way I can to change him, its termed unhealthy?

I didn't read everything... Yes! I'm guilty.. Bite me!

Better single than being in a charade like relationship.