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Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by pet4ril(f): 8:05pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
its very bad...... I thought she is supposed to be one with the hubby not the father or, maybe the man does not worth it sha |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by HaneefahRN(f): 8:17pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Yomieluv:I don't blive couples shld hide such from themselves, but sometimes men cause it, she might av noticed the man's body language. Some men behave as if they don't want any gud for their wives. I knw a woman who told her husband abt her plans on the land she inherited from her father and the husband withdrew all the financial support for her and partly for her children. I know a woman whose husband kept frustrating her whnever she contributes to the building of their house, bt the man kept telling her he doesn't send her cos her contributing to the building doesn't make it hers, so she simply bought a land, built her house and invited the man to see it afterwards. Or men who av series of lands and build houses wtout the wife's knowledge. Many cases like tht. The couple shld av a review of the marriage, there is somethn wrong somewhere. The communication link btw the couple is faulty or she doesn't trust her husband 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 8:27pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Acidosis: Yor fiancee would have to get your consent and permission to buy land?? . Real 1 chance 9 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by babygirlfl: 8:42pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
I always discuss ( not take his consent or permission) with my hubby when I want to embark on such a huge project. I think it's the right thing to do in MY case. We have heard of women who heard about their husbands property from someone else. To such women, I support you in buying one without his knowledge. You are just a good wife following the good example of the head of the family. We have heard of women whose husband built in his name alone. To such women I say build one in your name alone. Are people actually surprised that these things are happening in marriages? As long as the number of years of marriage is more important than the quality of marriage in Nigeria, we will keep seeing single married people. 11 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 9:25pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
eyinjuege: True |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 9:26pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Divorce is an example of spousal separation (a legal form). Death is another form of spousal separation. 1 Like |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Pidggin(f): 9:37pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
tpiar: |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 9:39pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Yomieluv: Why don't you ask the husband what he did wrong? |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Naavah(f): 9:41pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
olashas:Brilliant reply ma'am. I can see too many careless replies. 1 Like |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 9:46pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
fem29: In my family, you don't run a project and hide it from your spouse and children or refuse to seek their opinions. I've long left my parents' home but I still have their ATM pin numbers for all accounts. The relationship is cordial and I hope to maintain the status quo. I guess the word "permission" sounds too strict, but its not as stringent as it sounds in that context. It simply means, my fiancee seeks my opinion on vital issues regarding investment, management, etc.. She won't call me whether to eat eba or semo for dinner, but she'd ask if its wise to buy a plot of land in Mowe. The intention is not to fix my name on the land documents (It is her land), rather to seek the opinion of someone she sees as a mentor, a friend and a companion. 7 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 10:05pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Acidosis: Whether you divorce your wife or separate from her, without going through the process of divorce, the end result is the same, is it not? |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 10:22pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Acidosis: Yes you are right, permission was too stringent a word. The fact is that although your explanation sounds much more reasonable and sane , the fact is that you said she must seek your permission AND consent. Please remove this kind of thinking if you want to have a happy and fulfilled marriage. Enter into marriage without the thought that your wife is below you. Yes it would be nice, in an ideal world of your wife to discuss with you openly and if she doesn't, you need to ask yourself and her why she doesn't feel comfortable discussing it with you 2 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 10:23pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Acidosis: If the purchase of a land property does not crop up in any of the discussions between husband and wife, then there must be an underlying issues in the relationship - of which the withholding of vital information is one of (possibly) many symptoms. I agree with you that it is much better to share such information in a marriage. However, our advice is not always needed. At times it is enough to rejoice in our spouses's eagerness regarding something that s(he) is sure is the right decision to do. I think that it is important to understand the difference between someone asking for advice and someone sharing information for other reasons so that we do not come off as patronizing and therefore disrespectful. 2 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 10:33pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
fem29: Actually, the ideal of seeking opinion is a mutual thing. On many occasions, I have equally sought her opinion. |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 10:38pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Mindfulness: The end result is not the same. Marrying a woman who has not been legally separated from her husband is suicidal and risky. You've not only committed a huge sin against your creator, you've equally snatched another man's wife. |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 10:39pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Acidosis: If this is the true then that is great, please keep it up. Opinion and advice is different to permission Marriage should as much as possible be a partnership. Not a dictatorship. Especially if you are marrying nowadays, us modern women don't plat dat shite . I understand that sometimes the husband as the head has to have the final say, but you must always carry your wife along and make sure that all decisions you make are for the good of the family 1 Like |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 10:39pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Acidosis: I thought the husband separated from her (=left) because she made a purchase without telling him. 1 Like |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 10:43pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
fem29: Exactly That's the beauty of partnership |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 10:44pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Yes the husband can 'leave', while hoping that the wife will come back for reconciliation. |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 10:46pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Acidosis: So the husband left to reconcile later? 1 Like |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 10:51pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Mindfulness: Yes, a good wife will call her husband for reconciliation. She has a choice between a happy home or a sad one. |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 10:56pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Acidosis: A few corrections. 3 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 11:00pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Mindfulness:smh |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by tpiar: 11:12pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
Yomieluv: |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by cococandy(f): 11:28pm On Dec 15, 2015 |
babygirlfl:exactly. Wisdom is profitable to direct. Like husband like wife. 2 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by JustHere2Observ(f): 3:02am On Dec 16, 2015 |
Acidosis: Izzit ya money? Church rat hubby no get right abeg. 1 Like |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Onegai(f): 3:30am On Dec 16, 2015 |
babygirlfl: For this comment, you are entitled to one chilled Gulder, with a plate of chicken suya. Also go to the nearest fabric store and collect one lace on my account. 4 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by temi4fash(m): 6:39am On Dec 16, 2015 |
To me, it depends on the dynamics of the marriage. No two marriages are the same but any marriage in which one or both parties are not looking for ways to better each other lifes is not marriage in the first place. It is staying together. If these ever happens in what I believe to be called marriage, I believe they're not married, they are just room mates. Looking at situation critically, you should begin to ask questions, if he is still interested in the marriage he should probably sit her down and ask questions cos if he does not the marriage would never remain the same.. Let me tag men from the men's thread TV01 Pickbeau1 Netotse NashvileTN Bellong The host of others... |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by PresVA: 7:50am On Dec 16, 2015 |
My marriage can never degenerate to hiding stuffs as crucial as this from my spouse. . |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Nobody: 8:06am On Dec 16, 2015 |
As Acidosis said, there are marriages and there are "divorcees living together" If either of you can buy land/property without telling the other partner, then to me they are just living as room mates What happened to companionship, bonding, mentorship, advise, support etc? Arent 2 heads supposed to be better than one? In this case the fact that the father is involved in this conspiracy is just too bad. Would he be happy if his wife did the same? I also question why the woman did that . . .is the man irresponsible? and she is just protecting herself and her children? Sometimes men push women to do things they wouldn't normally have done. You cant sow beans and reap yam. Its wrong IMO. We are talking about property here and not a pair of shoes. 4 Likes |
Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 8:17am On Dec 16, 2015 |
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Re: She Bought Land Without The Knowledge Of The Hubby. by Acidosis(m): 8:17am On Dec 16, 2015 |
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