I wish I knew a better way to rephrase this question. You have seen many married people slowly cut ties with their single friends. Is it just natural that they instantly cease to have things in common or is it a society expectation? It is common among ladies. Some friends even cut ties with their friends once they have a boyfriend! Common b o y f r i e n d !!!

Some won’t even invite their single friends to their weddings or when they do, the single ones are made to wear a different type of asoebi as though they are wild animals that the wedding guests should be cautious of. (proof is attached on the url below)

I wouldn’t be asking if I haven’t been a victim. A friend of mine got engaged 7 months ago and I was busy turning up and down for her. Her wedding is this coming Saturday and I noticed last night that she’s no longer on my BBM. I feel I don’t deserve it cos I respect people’s space a lot. No matter how close we were before you got hitched, I would respect your privacy once you start a family. I have never ever gone to the house of a married friend on my own volition and I am also quick to turn down invites once I sense that you are inviting me because you feel obligated to. Phone calls or chats once in a blue moon will do for me but there are still friends that will avoid any form of communication with you but run for advice from you as a single person that knows nothing when things get a bit rocky in their marriages. Some even go as far as looking for married friends pen pals on blogs and social networks like they didn’t make their bed.

Since this is now the in-thing, my new motto is,”Cut the engaged ones off before they cut you!”

http://naijasinglegirl.com/why-do-people-abandon-their-single-friends-after-marriage/

It's the gist..

Married and Single women are not on the same gist level.
Most times the married women would want to hook their single friends so they can get married too and 'upgrade' their gist.

Men really don't care for the most part. We can play PS4 and drink Beer with anyone.
PS4 and Beer doesn't care about your Marital status.

Hmnnnn.



It depends on the lifestyle you all lived while she was still single with you....





If she considers you a bit too crazy or untrustworthy or if you are extremely pretty and shapely (especially when you look better than she does) she might be advised by relatives not to bring you to her home.



Or if you all lived a very bad life and she feels you might expose her to her hubby one day, she may avoid you.




Don't worry ba'e. You will get married someday too.



Na only am sabi find husband?

I don't know why.

But, birds of a feather flock together.

Maybe she doesn't want u to snatch her man . On a serious note i think it depends on your personality & the ladies are good at cutting off their girlfriends after marriage but trust the guys, we ain't letting our friends out of our sight.

Level don change na

This "thingy' is common with the ladies. Maybe dem dey fear say Single girls would snatch there husband. Well it's a warning that u should go search for your own. Naija girls can be careful when it comes to relationship. Dem no wan go back village. Lool #okbye

Levels

Mjshexy:
Maybe she doesn't want u to snatch her man . On a serious note i think it depends on your personality & the ladies are good at cutting off their girlfriends after marriage but trust the guys, we ain't letting our friends out of our sight.

yeah. So on point. That's why I like guy's way of life. Simple and mature.

To be frank, i don't know for now, but I will get married next year, cut my single friends, then come and tell you why i did it..

Abbykem:
yeah. So on point. That's why I like guy's way of life. Simple and mature.

Yeah because it's a small world & we know we will one way or the other need each other's help some day

Insecurity says it all

After they've joined their friends in stomping lekki, painting Abuja red, riding that rich white man in a threes0me, banging chief for 100k, why won't they be scared when she's around knowing the kinda attribute her friend possesses and how karma might befall them

Nigerians easily Get jealous...


Maybe they avoiding the trait..

Naijasinglegirl:
I wish I knew a better way to rephrase this question. You have seen many married people slowly cut ties with their single friends. Is it just natural that they instantly cease to have things in common or is it a society expectation? It is common among ladies. Some friends even cut ties with their friends once they have a boyfriend! Common b o y f r i e n d !!!

Some won’t even invite their single friends to their weddings or when they do, the single ones are made to wear a different type of asoebi as though they are wild animals that the wedding guests should be cautious of. (proof is attached on the url below)

I wouldn’t be asking if I haven’t been a victim. A friend of mine got engaged 7 months ago and I was busy turning up and down for her. Her wedding is this coming Saturday and I noticed last night that she’s no longer on my BBM. I feel I don’t deserve it cos I respect people’s space a lot. No matter how close we were before you got hitched, I would respect your privacy once you start a family. I have never ever gone to the house of a married friend on my own volition and I am also quick to turn down invites once I sense that you are inviting me because you feel obligated to. Phone calls or chats once in a blue moon will do for me but there are still friends that will avoid any form of communication with you but run for advice from you as a single person that knows nothing when things get a bit rocky in their marriages. Some even go as far as looking for married friends pen pals on blogs and social networks like they didn’t make their bed.

Since this is now the in-thing, my new motto is,”Cut the engaged ones off before they cut you!”

http://naijasinglegirl.com/why-do-people-abandon-their-single-friends-after-marriage/

dis tin is synonymous and common amongst d female circle....cos gals dnt trust demselves

Naijasinglegirl:
I wish I knew a better way to rephrase this question. You have seen many married people slowly cut ties with their single friends. Is it just natural that they instantly cease to have things in common or is it a society expectation? It is common among ladies. Some friends even cut ties with their friends once they have a boyfriend! Common b o y f r i e n d !!!

Some won’t even invite their single friends to their weddings or when they do, the single ones are made to wear a different type of asoebi as though they are wild animals that the wedding guests should be cautious of. (proof is attached on the url below)

I wouldn’t be asking if I haven’t been a victim. A friend of mine got engaged 7 months ago and I was busy turning up and down for her. Her wedding is this coming Saturday and I noticed last night that she’s no longer on my BBM. I feel I don’t deserve it cos I respect people’s space a lot. No matter how close we were before you got hitched, I would respect your privacy once you start a family. I have never ever gone to the house of a married friend on my own volition and I am also quick to turn down invites once I sense that you are inviting me because you feel obligated to. Phone calls or chats once in a blue moon will do for me but there are still friends that will avoid any form of communication with you but run for advice from you as a single person that knows nothing when things get a bit rocky in their marriages. Some even go as far as looking for married friends pen pals on blogs and social networks like they didn’t make their bed.

Since this is now the in-thing, my new motto is,”Cut the engaged ones off before they cut you!”

http://naijasinglegirl.com/why-do-people-abandon-their-single-friends-after-marriage/

dis tin is synonymous and common amongst d female circle....cos gals dnt trust demselves...and for d records...we have dedicated bfs,,,,gals wit focus know one wen dey meet one, so, dey wnt dare allow their wolfering frnds to come near him...so, diaris nothing like comon bf, cos we the bfs have brands

DebbyChris:
Level don change na

Levels?? When marriage become upgrade abeg?? A man in your life doesn't guarantee you happiness or success!

Some will cut u off, bad personality or not.

Mjshexy:
Maybe she doesn't want u to snatch her man . On a serious note i think it depends on your personality & the ladies are good at cutting off their girlfriends after marriage but trust the guys, we ain't letting our friends out of our sight.

TheRealAdonye:
It's the gist..

Married and Single women are not on the same gist level.
Most times the married women would want to hook their single friends so they can get married too and 'upgrade' their gist.

On Point.

lol

emperorchedda:
Insecurity says it all

After they've joined their friends in stomping lekki, painting Abuja red, riding that rich white man in a threes0me, banging chief for 100k, why won't they be scared when she's around knowing the kinda attribute her friend possess and how karma might befall them

Guys hardly do that.

Smartsyn:
To be frank, i don't know for now, but I will get married next year, cut my single friends, then come and tell you why i did it..

From my experience,

It is no big deal at first at when the single friend is yet to be married at 30, 40......the best thing is to cut her off or reduce the time you spend together. They become frustrated and totally irrational.

We africans have this mentality that singles might/can/will corrupt or brainwash you when you keep them as friend after marriage.

My bestie got married early this year, anytym we on phone I couldn't help but boast of how many pvssys I gonked during the weekend. So you don't expect a married man to keep friends with such single like me, else you go leave wifey for house follow me dey gonk pvssys. Likewise ladies

I dont think this is really true, but maybe some of them do so cos they feel single friends might corrupt their marriage

I had a friend back then who actually pretended to be a friend but went behind me to sleep with my ex boyfriends or toasters! Once she knows a guy is asking me out she goes to sleep with him and tells me months later. I know she had serious self esteem issues then,it was a demonic spirit following her! That spirit of wanting to take what belongs to me,i didn't cut her off permanently but was extremely careful with her. An unlucky guy married her last month,she didn't invite me for the wedding,i didn't even know about this guy,i just saw pics on facebook. Maybe she was thinking I would expose her but naaaaah i'm way too matured in reasoning. So my dear,its either you married tfriends know u would spill their dirty little secret, or u were not so good to them the first place

Stuffs like this only happens to Females with "Insecurity Issues". It doesnt happen to all ladies but its common among ladies.

My Sister's frnds is an exception. Dey wer besties bfor her frnd got married n dey re still in good terms. My Sister goes to her matrimonial home atimes to help her with d baby n der is no fighting or misunderstanding goin on. Even d baby now refers to her as Small mummy.


I think it all boils down to how u present ursefs and d relationship u female folks had bfor either of u got married.

Why does it always ve to be d female folks?


Same thing is common when a female gains admission to an institution. She cuts of ties with her frnds who re yet to be admitted.

Now they ve taken it to marriage.


Two Causes: Pride & Feeling Classy

Things like this make me happy I don't do female friends.I have a couple of them o,but its just on small talk basis.My real friends I can tell anything are guys.Girls from time immemorial have always been pros at exhibiting senseless attitudes.So,there's no chance for any married girl to beef me,because I have perfected the art of sticking to my closely knit circle of male friends.They are very encouraging,realistic and can walk a mile for me.I have encountered girl friends who hid their introduction,pregnancy and even marriage from me..Its funny sha,because those things are not a big deal to me.I have come to see it as normal "fish brain style behaviour,exhibited by people void of rational thinking".That's why its much better for me kepping guys as my close friends,because there are no issues of jealousy,funny attitudes and other cra.p.Although,my male besties are all in committed relationships,so there is no issue of him catching feelings and wanting to leave the "bestie zone".

coz we are no longer on the same page,ideas and opinions wouldn't tally,we don't share the same timetable anymore,a married woman has a home to cater for no time for outings,hosting,dilly dally or even constant social media communication

etc

Jesu gbami, Tolu tife marry, he go come fashi me....*singing Olu Maintains Wifey*

some do it to make u feel unlucky and for u to chase after them or look IP to dem since dey are married and u are not

Birds of a feather should flow together.