I know this sounds like gold digging but it's not. It's what I call "Redundancy". Lots of people say "As long as we are happy" but give them 5 years (if no money and poverty strikes in).. they start unnecessary quarrels. ..yelling.. and in another 2 years the woman starts regretting if she has a child she would say "let me stay for my son" if she has non she starts flirting outside.. another year... divorce. That's the bottom line.

It's a good thing for ladies to have a criteria for marriage. Believe me, marriage is not by force. Marriage won't stop you from dying if you get run over by a truck or shot in the head by stray bullet. Marriage won't bring out cash from the atm when your balance is 0.00. So it's not something you dive into because you have have a moment.

What is a moment? A moment is a short period where you are extremely in love with your partner. Maybe he bought you a new teddy bear or something so you have this drive to be with him ignoring the future! It's a normal thing for all guys to be angels when dating a girl they plan to marry. That should not fool the ladies.

Fast forwarding to his finances.. You need to evaluate and estimate how your so called lover boy is able to take care of you and the kids when you get married. For example, he is working in a firm and he is paid N10 , 000 - N30 , 000 a month and judging by the country economy that salary won't increase in fact he can be sacked at anytime. Do not marry such a person!

Here are the lists of things to evaluate before getting married:

- Salary Per Month
- Net Income after all expenses such as rent has been paid! What is left? Remember it's gonna be two of you not just him anymore.
- Is he willing to increase his income ?
- Does he economise his spending or he is the type that celebrate between 24 - 30 (salary period) and get broke 1 - 23? Is that the husband you want?
- Does he have any form of insurance? For example, he looses his job, is there any savings anywhere he can use to pick himself up? Does he have a rich family member that can load him up when he is broke?
- Is he willing to spend for you? No Coz he is a broke ass.

If many ladies today evaluated these things, they won't be married to those broke men they are married to instead the men would be able to work more and better their life then get the best lady for a wife. If you as a lady ignore these because of a moment then you should be in for the setbacks. What are the setbacks.

1) You would never remain the same.

2) Poor feeding. If you were eating 5 times in your father's house, you would start eating 2 or 3 times. Later 3 will become 2 and 2 will become 1 if care is not taken

3) Your eggs are in one basket if you have no job of your own. If the basket falls or gets broken your eggs are broken.

4) fine, you have a job, overtime you would begin to use out of your salary to maintain expenses whilst your husband does feeding or the other way round.

5) You would lack lots of amenities a woman should have. Why? In the name of marriage or love? Seriously?

6) Poor maintenance of your children. Shall there be no money, your children won't enjoy things they should in their childhood. Because your funds are so little.

7) You will remember your ex! That explains itself

You would always nag at each other at some point.

9) You would look less appealing than you were before you got married.

And so on....

I am not saying you should start digging for gold I.e looking for a rich man to milk. No. My point is, don't be in a rush, consider your partners finances. Forget about yours. After all a man is supposed to feed his family including his wife. Not the two of them. It's the man! Let him do his job as a husband you do yours as a wife. Let the economy of the country speak to you. You can spend N50k in Nigeria you won't know what you used it for coz it has no value anymore. So his 30k salary or even 50k salary is nothing. Ask the guys in the finance industry.

If you too are so in love, you can still be together but ensure he is financially ok to take care of you and the kids when you get married. There is no point rushing into marriage.

Like I said this is not telling you to become a gold digger please read and understand before you start your trash comments. This is saying you should ensure there is enough finance before getting married.

Bye...

*takes a deep breath*

Stupid Op. Do u think any man enjoys being poor. Stop discouraging people on RL

You cretinous cünting fückhead. You know nothing about marriage. Cause If you did, you wouldn't compile that tedious piece of shït up there, and even gone to the extent of posting it for all Nairalanders to see. But being the programmed ignoramus that you're, you hastily rushed to prepare a lengthy bullcrap just to gain a few accolades (likes). Such a fücking son of an epileptic whörecunt.

Thing is.. Life is 50-50

Even if we say marry a rich man.. There's a chance he'll go back to being poor.

Thank u very much op for discussing an issue people usually turn a blind eye to.

I often tell most of my friends to evaluate themselves(financially) b4 entering into a relationship which is a form of partnership where they become sponsors with little or no return.

Relationships require resources-Money,Energy,Time,Activities,sacrifices, etc

My point is- As a woman should look at the man's finances, The man should also look at his/her/their finances.

Thank u.

But some men start off poor but end up becoming rich due to hardwork and some rich men even end up becoming poor at some stage.I think a lady just has to be supportive to her guy(rich or poor).

But some men start off poor but end up becoming rich due to hardwork and some rich men even end up becoming poor at some stage.I think a lady just has to be supportive to her guy(rich or poor).And by the way sef,why focus on only guys.Ladies gotta have to start working for the family too.

Tell me what I don't know about marriage sir.

I guess you are broke and my post offended you.

MelancholicGuy:
You cretinous cünting fückhead. You know nothing about marriage. Cause If you did, you wouldn't compile that tedious piece of shït up there, and even gone to the extent of posting it for all Nairalanders to see. But being the programmed ignoramus that you're, you hastily rushed to prepare a lengthy bullcrap just to gain a few accolades (likes). Such a fücking son of an epileptic whörecunt.

Hmmm... I don't normally say this but this is an endtime Reason

You have a Myopic line of thought.












Do you know that most rich folks we know today had it rough at some point.
I rest my case.

Strahovski:
Tell me what I don't know about marriage sir.

I guess you are broke and my post offended you.

That I don't share your lousy sentiments doesn't imply that I'm broke. You have a perforated brain. Schooling your sheer ignorance is same as trying to fill a basket with water - a waste of valuable time and energy. Fucking Rëtarded twünt. May your friends have a jolly day while burying your corpse.

Lol all this insults because I posted on NL.


My post really offended you

MelancholicGuy:

That I don't share your lousy sentiments doesn't imply that I'm broke. You have a perforated brain. Schooling your sheer ignorance is same as trying to fill a basket with water - a waste of valuable time and energy. Fucking Rëtarded twünt. May your friends have a jolly day while burying your corpse.

So ladies should marry poor men?

PushMusic:
You have a Myopic line of thought.













Do you know that most rich folks we know today had it rough at some point.

I rest my case.

Strahovski:

So ladies should marry poor men?

Poverty is a mindset. I've hung around Billionaires to know they ain't any different from an average hustling dude like me so keep your silly damn opinion to yourself.

Lols. U HV a point tho but hey op, As history has it, My Dad wasn't near an Hundred Thousandnaire before Marrying Momma. They built their empire (bright future) together using the tool called 'Mutual understanding , Love and a clear laid out plan for the future'. Good news , their empire has been built and in fact, well furnished . All they do now is mere oversight and maintenance .


So the point IMO is that even if the finance ain't that much, So far u guys love each other, have prospects and are really ready to stick ur asses up for each, are matured enaf to cut yor coat according to your Cloth - This is very IMPORTANT, marriage shouldn't be any BIG deal.

PushMusic:

Poverty is a mindset. I've hung around Billionaires to know they ain't any different from an average hustling dude like me so keep your silly damn opinion to yourself.

My opinion is already passed and nothing stops the ladies from reading. I don't know why some guys are angry.

Hahahahaha. Broke ass niggas

Strahovski:


My opinion is already passed and nothing stops the ladies from reading. I don't know why some guys are angry.

Hahahahaha.Broke ass niggas

Like your opinion counts.

Hisses at the bolded.

So now you're telling me you are rich baa!

Oya! go ahead and brag.

@princeprinz
Your head is correct.

Op, did your mom consider all these before she married your dad?

@op, wat happens wen d finances go dry in marriage?

PushMusic:

Like your opinion counts.

Hisses at the bolded.

So now you're telling me you are rich baa!

Oya! go ahead and brag.

@princeprinz
Your head is correct.

Whether it counts or not... it's already passed and I'm not mandating anybody to follow it. I only stressed my view. Everyone has his own view. So using vulgar language on a person because his view does not flow with yours is just immature.

Regarding me being rich, I am able to take care of my family conveniently everyday so that's what matters.

Read my post well.

MrMcJay:
Op, did your mom consider all these before she married your dad?

What concerns my mom with the thread? Why are Nigerians like this? And for your info, my father is a comfortable person and he was capable of taking care of 5 kids conveniently until they all became men and women on their own.

So don't mention my father.

Thank you.

When you throw stones in the marketplace, it could hit a member of your family. That is exactly what happened to you.

FYI, my mom supported the dreams of my dad and stood by him to become what he became.

FYI, I asked that question in order to be able to understand what informed ur jaundiced opinion.