After many years of going through pains in his hand.I finally got a job which he said that is either I chose the job or I leave his house. after 5kids and a house wife for over 9years. staying at home and seeing what he is doing with his mistress in our home is really giving me pains.He did not want to change yet he is scared of me going out he banned my friends from visiting me.He turned his own friends against me. he lives with his mistress in our home.Now is either I chose the job I got or leave his house. I have suffered a lot in his hands. what should I do.which decision should I take so that my kids will not label me a bad mother. please I need your honest advice.

Hmmm... Honestly I think uve already made a decision, u just want approval... U don't need to be a rocket scientist to know ur viable option is to leave (waka), carry ur children and pack out, u have a job now, it may not b enof but u will survive

Choose your job lady.

God's grace.

Take up ur job ma'am and free yourself from emotional abuse. Take care of ur kids. Is that hard?
May God put you through

Howdy madam.

Did you take the job?

Reading all your other posts i can only say two things.
1. Do you have any friends that can help you? It doesnt matter , and its no longer about choice. You need therapy, you need to run out of that marriage if you have any love for your children. Seek help please. Youre being abused both physically and otherwise.

I don't know if this is coming late, But you really need to sit down and think abt what you want out of this life.
You need to ask yourself a lot of questions abt What you want, what you can make out of any citation, how to protect your future and so many other questions.
You need God More
You need to alive too
One very important thing you MUST know is that NOBODY will determine your happiness if you don't let them.
You need a Job, a career, a trade or something. The good Book said so too even when the Job of Motherhood is so Challenging.
And give yourself some brain.
Good luck

You are too weak for the average human, continue asking " what will you do, what will you do ".