holyghost:

well, pride is a decease of the mind, OK don't think right and suffer shame all Ur life.

in my opinion women should help when it is necessary, the law or tradition was made to make man succeed and not to make man fail?

what is wrong with women sponsoring the wedding show?
look if you see your MR right but his pocket was wrong, Fix it quickly OK!
here is what you should look out for b4 u sponsor,


1 Ask God for directions 1st

2 is the Guy cooperative ( reason well with you, i.e very compatible with u) remember no pretence on his part O!

3 has he got the penitential to be up /independent after d wedding is on( to avoid 4ever depending too much on u)

4 has he got any record to show that he was once a real man ( i.e b4 he lost the command of his cash)

Please. note that this forum is not just for jocks these thing are really people real problems so when u post be helpful and matured life is a market place if u throw a stone it might hit Ur sister or Ur Daughter badly.

Women should also note that not all women were created to marry and not all married were destined to reproduce it's God's design for life to be uneven, so to him give the glory( he is the most Wise)

spikedcylinder:

LOL! His other daughter is dead. You still want?

slimfine:

so what would the guy be doing while I am sponsoring for my own wedding alone?

is it that he doesn't have a job, or, suddenly broke,  or in school or what?

I really do not mind to share the bills but I need some sort of explanation to what this guy would be doing while i am spending my money alone?

slimfine:

so what would the guy be doing while I am sponsoring for my own wedding alone?

is it that he doesn't have a job, or, suddenly broke, or in school or what?

I really do not mind to share the bills but I need some sort of explanation to what this guy would be doing while i am spending my money alone?

na2day?:

well he might have lost his job, he might be poor, he might be in school etc but most importantly, he is praying somewhere and asking God, hope this is not a big mistake 

slimfine:

well if he is in school, I will wait for him to graduate and get a job! if he lost his job and we are planning the wedding ALREADY, then I will sponsor the wedding, if he is praying to God for money as he doesn't have any, we will wwaituuntilGod ANSWERS his prayer.

If a guy can't sponsor his own wedding what's next, I have to buy my own ring too, pay the rent, insurance etc come on!

I have a questions for you gentlemen, what if the lady in question is your daughter or sister? so you the father or brother will deem it ok for your sister/daughter to spend your family's money while the guy continue to pray to God? please lets get real! If you are not ready for the financial aspect of marriage, why marry? Wait until you can reasonably afford it!

you men of nowadays expect ladies to work, clean, bear children, be sexy while at it! during the time of my grand father, women were home makers while the guy makes most of the money! now you want women to come and marry a man and cater for all the eexpenses give us a damn Break!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

na2day?:

u r sayin it like we r asking too much of u girls and by the way, yes i can pay 4 my daughter's wedding as long as i am assured the guy has a future. like sum1 said earlier, it is customary 4 the bride family to take care of the wedding bills here in the usa but funny enough the nigerian girls refuse to observe that part of the american culture but when it comes to cooking and other stuff, they quickly dump the african culture and claim westernized, yeye!

slimfine:

I guess you will also pay for your daughter's rent and all while she lives with her husband after the wedding as long as he says he has a future abi? Everybody and their opinion. i will gratuitously fund SOME of my wedding expenses but will not fut the whole damn bill unless on the circumstances I listed previously. I still don't understand why the guy can't wait until he is able to do so instead of looking for a girl to dwindle!

lechatte:

death
Me sef, single Nigerian nurse, come December I'm going home with my wedding gown in hand to marry a man from home.

One thing I won't do is sponsor my own wedding, only thing I'm sponsoring is my wedding gown, accessories and wedding cake. The man has to do the rest or forget about the wedding. That is already agreed on and settled so no problems in that area. If the man had expected me to come back home, and then sponsor the wedding too then he is of all men most deluded. If he is not ready to rumble, I still have time to use that period to look around for someone more serious.

agabaI23:


Good luck. put your eyes for ground!

seunpapi:

@ if you are running out of age, pressure is building beyond control, and there is availability of BOBO NIJJA,ready for marriage, but pepper no rest, i dont see any LONG TIN there to foot the marriage bills, this does not make less ur man bin the real man,

na2day?:

what if as the guy, i have the money but i dont want a big wedding, just u (assuming u r the bride) and me and our families and very few friends. no big after party very low key, no expensive jewelries, will u accept such a wedding?


fyi: i am paying everything

slimfine:

of course I will marry you ! I am a very practical person. I just want my guy to be a participant in our wedding both financially and physically. I am not the Cinderella type! it won't be fair for him to just ride on the back seat while I take care of all our wedding expenses j[b]ust like it is not fair for my guy pay all our bill without my contribution! [/b]

agabaI23:

Eby what shall we do with the pic?

cutenk:

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