After that, the woman brings her “wife” home and they start living together as “husband” and “wife”. Nobody frowns at it. To have children -both the “woman- husband” and “woman- wife”- will agree to allow a man from the same village or neighbouring town to sleep with the wife.

grafikdon:

If the Igwe guy wants to marry his homosexual lover, he should go ahead without boring us with his moonlight tales injected with a heavy dose of distorted concepts.

adadike:
It is not a woman _ woman marriage. In such cases, the marriage is contracted on behalf of the dead husband or family head who needs a male child for the continuation of the family's linage. The marriage is contracted on behalf of a man and the new wife will have to bear the man's name not the woman. Leo Biko ko nke ima

JoannaSedley:
The writer is s confirmed efulefu.
His distortion of facts makes it impossible to read all. Spits!!!

wordcat:


His own type of efulefu is greater than that of Joe Yorubaigbokwe.

One question for him; Can a single lady marry another single lady in Igbo culture or can a man for whatever reason marry another man in Igbo culture?




I'm neither against homosexual nor in support of it, what two adults do in their closest with their private parts is non of my business but distortion of fact is no no no for me.

OkaNaUbe:


I can confirm that a woman can marry another woman in Igbo land, (similar to what Sarah did to Hagar for Abraham) if the woman is barren or doesn't have a male child for the husband.

wordcat:
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Nobody is denying that but my question is;

IS IT PERMITTED IN IGBO CULTURE FOR A SINGLE LADY TO MARRY ANOTHER SINGLE? LADY ?

OkaNaUbe:


Boy, stop shouting (capital letters shows you are).

Does the OP say "single ladies can marry other single ladies"

presido1:
In this case both women are not lesbians. So itz very very diff from two ladies going into marriage cuz of their chosen sexual orientation. This kinda marriage is not for sexual pleasure(lesbos) rather to keep the family lineage going.

If they live as "husband and wife" whatz the essence of agreeing for another man to come between them? Do you see such in a lesbian marriage?.

walata44:
http://odili.net/news/source/2009/jun/19/610.html

By Leo Igwe
Friday, June 19, 2009
One of the contentious issues in the debate over homosexuality and same sex marriage is whether a marriage between persons of the same gender is totally alien to African culture and tradition. Those opposing same sex marriage have continued to argue that same gender union is foreign to Africa. On the contrary, I have tried to draw their attention to the fact that there is a strain of the same gender marriage in African tradition particularly in Igboland.

And that we should not rush to deny this, or pretend it does not exist or just sweep it under the carpet in the quest to establish that same gender marriage is alien to the African continent, and must be banned.


I hail from Mbaise in Imo State in Southern Nigeria. Traditionally, in my community, marriage is taken to be a union between a man and a woman as the case may be. But there are circumstances where a marriage between a woman and a woman is permissible.


In a situation where a woman has no son or no child, if the husband dies, it is culturally allowed for her to marry a wife. And in this case, she becomes the husband. Like in every case of marriage, this woman goes out, inquires and gets a wife of her choice. She pays her dowry and fulfills other traditional rites as it is done when a man is marrying a woman.


After that, the woman brings her “wife” home and they start living together as “husband” and “wife”. Nobody frowns at it. To have children -both the “woman- husband” and “woman- wife”- will agree to allow a man from the same village or neighbouring town to sleep with the wife.


And the children born by the wife bears the family name of the woman- husband, not that of the man responsible for the pregnancy. I want to add here that the man who sleeps with such wife in most cases are married men. And normally it is regarded as immoral, in fact it is a taboo for a married man to sleep with or “father” children from another woman. But in this case an act normally taken to be immoral is allowed.


This is a situation where people are permitted to break taboos and deviate from traditions. This marriage practice pre- dates Christianity and the so- called western culture which most people today blame for all the moral and cultural wrongs in Africa. The same gender marriage is still practised till date. In other words, there are some families today in Igboland where women are both husbands and wives, fathers and mothers.


There are some homes where woman- husbands are living happily with their woman- wives. Though there are not many of such families or marriages. Such unconventional marriages and families are in the minority. The fact is that they exist. The fact is that they are part of the local tradition and culture. They are not imports from the West. And this has in no way undermined social cohesion, public order and morality or family values.


Some people have tried to argue that this is not really a case of gender marriage because a man comes in to impregnate the wife. But, traditionally, it is the case and it is known as such. It is a case where a woman marries a woman.


The man who impregnates the wife does not come into the picture at all. He has no family responsibility. His duty is only to supply sperm. The family is responsible for the woman- husband and wife.Some say that same gender unions destroy family values and undermine the upbringing of children.


It should be emphasised that children in this case are brought up in an environment where both “parents” are females. And they grow up to be normal children. Some say because child bearing is involved, then it is not same gender marriage. But my response is this: whether for procreation or for pleasure, it is same gender marriage. And it is the couples, not the state that decides whether to marry for procreation and or for pleasure or for any other purpose they deem fit.


Unfortunately, most Nigerians think that same gender marriage is antithetical to procreation. It is not. In fact same gender unions as in this case enrich family values. There have been instances where a partner in a same gender relationship wants children, and goes ahead to have them.


Because of the secrecy, privacy and hypocrisy that go with sexual expression, no one can really say, if these female partners have or do not have sex with each other. But like all couples they live together and run their families. But today, things are changing.


Individuals are becoming more open, more assertive and expressive with their sexual and marriage choices, desires, orientations and identities. The sexual and marriage dynamics are changing rapidly. And Africans must make the necessary social, cultural and legal adjustments in response to- and to accommodate- these changes.


Igwe is the executive secretary of the Nigerian Humanist Movement.

wordcat:


Ancestor, you need eyeglasses (capital letter is for you to see it very well).

The op is trying to prove that homosexual/lesbianism is part of Igbo culture with his distortion of fact which prompted my question.

OkaNaUbe:


Boy, stop shouting (capital letters shows you are).

Does the OP say "single ladies can marry other single ladies"

The original writer shot himself in the foot when he is advocating for same sex marriage but gave an example of a married woman marrying another just to bear children for her husband (The only way it is accepted in Igbo land).

OkaNaUbe:


Read my full post again. You quoted some.

RemiTinubu:
chaii mmimi
i just dreamt of you today
please can we mingle

adadike:
It is not a woman _ woman marriage. In such cases, the marriage is contracted on behalf of the dead husband or family head who needs a male child for the continuation of the family's linage. The marriage is contracted on behalf of a man and the new wife will have to bear the man's name not the woman. Leo Biko ko nke ima