Lots of ladies in nigeria might be confused about whether what's happening to them is abuse. This info helps you understand the different kinds of abuse that takes place in nigeria and the world.

Research shows that in relationships, males are most likely to be the abusers, and females are most likely to be the victims. Females can also be abusive, in lesbian and in straight relationships as the case may be.

Emotional Abuse

This is when your boyfriend or girlfriend puts you down, ignores you or calls you names. It may be about what you are wearing, or how you're acting. They may want you to stop spending time with your friends and question you on every detail of what you've done without them. They may use jealousy or anger to intimidate you or to control your behavior, or might deliberately humiliate you in front of others.

They might try to manipulate you and make you feel wrong, inadequate or like you're crazy. Another form of emotional abuse is if they threaten to hurt themselves or other people if you break up with them. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse.

Physical Abuse

This involves physical acts such as hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking, pulling your hair or choking you, or threatening to harm you in any way. It could involve using a weapon or an object to threaten or hurt you, smashing things or threatening to throw you out of the house and back to your parents. Hurting someone physically or threatening to hurt them is a criminal offense if the victim reports to the authorities.

Sexual Abuse

This involves pressuring or forcing you to do sexual things that you don't want to do. Even if they have not physically forced you to have sex with them, if they tried to manipulate you or coerce you into having sex when you didn't want to (like if they say 'you'd do it if you really loved me' or 'you're frigid'), this is still sexual abuse. It is also sexual assault if you have been drinking or taking drugs or if you were asleep or unconscious and you were not aware of what was happening. Rape and other forms of sexual assault are criminal offence.

What's Love got to do with it?

It can be hard to see whether your boyfriend / girlfriend's behaviour is actually abusive, or it can be hard to find a word for it. They might try to convince you that their jealous and possessive behaviour is because they love you. But this kind of treatment isn't love; it's control.

Are you being abused?

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ABUSE can be very subtle, . . , it doesnt have to be vividly aggressive and violent, . . .

If you’ve ever been called dumb. . . . .stupid, FAT, a B**ch, . . . .(or any sorta derogatory name)

Been pushed or shoved, . . . , hair pulled, . . .choked, . . . .or physically manhandled in any way. . . .

If you’ve ever felt fear when it comes to having a discussion or convo wid ur guy, . . . .

or you ever feel like u aren’t an equal wid him in any way, . . . .or u simply just have that gut feeling inside of u, . . . .

then u are indeed in an abusive relationship!!

PS, . . .there are always SIGNS!!!!