agarawu23:
Once a lady rejects dating you after many move, the best thing you can do is to forget about her TOTALLY and move on with your life.


If you remain like MARIO, they have no choice than to zone u and remain their backup/option in case their bf break up with them.

MrPin:

Tanx, I receive sense by his grace

MrPin:
Hi Nairalanders,
First and foremost, I want to commend each and everyone of you for ur contributions towards the growth of this forum. Yes, I know it belongs to Mr. Seun Osewa, but we've in one way or the other kept nairaland alive. I have been a visiting member of this forum for over 3years and I've enjoy every bit of ur contributions, every bit of ur back2back comment like #IDon'tBelieveIt, end time post, FTC, leave trash for lawma and so on.[i][/i]
Today, I am here because I need help, I need advice; pls I urge you to read and be free to contribute, as this would help me to decide at this critical moment.
I met a girl five years ago on my way to write post-utme at my State Uni, as God would have it we both got admission into the State Uni but not so long I got another admission at one of the federal Uni through direct entry into 200L. I told her my feelings and how I would want us to start a relationship but she declined, that she needed to face her studies which I agreed with her. As time goes on, year after years I keep reminding her of my Love for her but she insisted that the best that could come out of us is friendship. That was where it done on me that I have been FRIENDZONED.
Guys, all along i have had one or two relationships in school and every every make sense, so its not as if I am a junky when it comes to dating but dis babe matter just tie wrapper for me. Funny enough, I had once introduce her to my parent as my girl, coz they've been worried that I not brought any lady home neither have they seen me with one. So, I just had to introduce somebody to them just to douse the tension coz e be like say dey don dey reason say i be denrele (na joke oo)
Fast forward to 2016, We were done with school and I base in the FCT, she came for a wedding and we got along, I took her out and in one of the outings, after telling her how I would not give up her and all that, it got to a point she made an attempt to kiss me but my liver drop, I was shy so to say and she left. When i got home that night, we chatted about the kiss which she asked why was I shy but i told her i don't know and we ended the chat. I couldn't sleep that night, that a girl i had wanted for over five yrs decided to bless my life with a kiss and i became a dundee united. The truth is no matter how crazy u think u are, somebody get ur medicine just as Iyanya get Ivon Nelson medicine. Three days after that scenario, I went visiting as i had made up my mind to kiss her so as to regain my confidence back, i wish i hadi not, as i hug d babe, say make i kiss her na so d matter be like mother wey dey try give akamu to her by force and d pikin dey turn head, dey drag say mama i no dey chuap . She declined my calculated attempt to kiss her. I stood there like pesin wey hug transformer coz i couldn't move but thanks to God I was able to get home but in different pieces.
Now, the truth is I love this girl so much that i would like to spend the rest of my life with but i don't know how to go about it. Funny enough, I have recommended so many advice to people on how to go about relationship and it worked for them but its quite unfortunate that i can't cure myself.
My fellow Nlders, how do I move from the duplex I was giving at FRIENDZONE AVENUE? Thanks for ur time.

Nubian113:
Did you explain to her what you just told us, that you've loved her for 5years ect? She is paying you back for the way you rejected her advances although due to shyness? Did you explain this to her... You really need to come correct you only get one shot and you blew two already. I'm sorry... She sounds like she is worth the chase so up your game and sweep her off her feet. Be yourself but the best you, the brave you, the cool you, the friend soon to be lover you. Good luck waoh, am happy I posted dis, tanx, I will definitely do all u've said

#Alpha to her beta

Nubian113:
Did you explain to her what you just told us, that you've loved her for 5years ect? She is paying you back for the way you rejected her advances although due to shyness? Did you explain this to her... You really need to come correct you only get one shot and you blew two already. I'm sorry... She sounds like she is worth the chase so up your game and sweep her off her feet. Be yourself but the best you, the brave you, the cool you, the friend soon to be lover you. Good luck

#Alpha to her beta

Dudeweedlmao:
She wants to kiss you
You decline (like the massive beta you are)
She asked you why
You said "Nothing"

Fvcking NOTHING!!!!?!?!?!? Really niqqa?? Thats the best you could do?
You better furnish that duplex cause you're gonna be in there for a long time.

sickstars:
please extra room dey d duplex i wan relocate join u o

bfatoba:



The problem with most guys is that you see the friend-zone as detrimental but you need to see it as an opportunity.
Friend-zone is kinda like detention where, only the person that put you there, has the power to remove you.
Since she's put you there, you need her to see you as dateable again in her eyes, and you need her to say it, then her very close friend to confirm it to her. Thats really how women work. Once they decide something, they seek the confirmation of a trustee.
So you have to make her remove you and beg you to be with her. To achieve that, you need to embrace your friend-zone and sincerely kill all hope that you personally can get yourself out. so you have to be just a friend to her and treat her like you would treat a casual friend.
Ask her to set you up with a friend of hers, and make sure she does it. She would be forced to highlight your best traits to the friend.
Because she's doing it doesn't mean you should have no standard. make sure to pick the best of the bunch of her friends. Then you date her and let the universe carry the events.

simple principle, No one in the history of LIFE has ever uttered this sentence "I want My " " that I have in my pocket, because its mine"
people don't want what they already own. would you drive into a dealership and buy your car that you drove there?

So why would you already give yourself to someone before they want you.... its cheer stupidity and it happens to the best of us, at latest 17.

jonaifame22:
U have to pack out and sell that duplex you have at freindzone avenue, by cutting all contacts you hav wth her ,no texts, no call, nothing at all, people appreciate what they can not have.
U built an ego in her as tall as the tower of Babel, how do I know,cos for five years you've made her understand that you've been waiting for her,this makes her feel that there's no one like her in the world,pls jus get busy if you can bear it and not call her for a month,there are seventy percent chances that she'll call you,
Pls stop chasing her like that it'll make her feel like she can keep you waiting and scout for people who will make pose a challenge to her!

jonaifame22:
U have to pack out and sell that duplex you have at freindzone avenue, by cutting all contacts you hav wth her ,no texts, no call, nothing at all, people appreciate what they can not have.
U built an ego in her as tall as the tower of Babel, how do I know,cos for five years you've made her understand that you've been waiting for her,this makes her feel that there's no one like her in the world,pls jus get busy if you can bear it and not call her for a month,there are seventy percent chances that she'll call you,
Pls stop chasing her like that it'll make her feel like she can keep you waiting and scout for people who will pose a challenge to her!

bfatoba:



The problem with most guys is that you see the friend-zone as detrimental but you need to see it as an opportunity.
Friend-zone is kinda like detention where, only the person that put you there, has the power to remove you.
Since she's put you there, you need her to see you as dateable again in her eyes, and you need her to say it, then her very close friend to confirm it to her. Thats really how women work. Once they decide something, they seek the confirmation of a trustee.
So you have to make her remove you and beg you to be with her. To achieve that, you need to embrace your friend-zone and sincerely kill all hope that you personally can get yourself out. so you have to be just a friend to her and treat her like you would treat a casual friend.
Ask her to set you up with a friend of hers, and make sure she does it. She would be forced to highlight your best traits to the friend.
Because she's doing it doesn't mean you should have no standard. make sure to pick the best of the bunch of her friends. Then you date her and let the universe carry the events.

simple principle, No one in the history of LIFE has ever uttered this sentence "I want My " " that I have in my pocket, because its mine"
people don't want what they already own. would you drive into a dealership and buy your car that you drove there?

So why would you already give yourself to someone before they want you.... its cheer stupidity and it happens to the best of us, at latest 17.

smithsydny:
I love your kinda men.. #commonsense more sense to your brain

smithsydny:
if like say na babe you be I for toast you here.. just kidding bro. words for the wise

bfatoba:


I'll take that as a compliment lolz thanks

Lolz, I was once like the OP, it's essential to know that, there will be that woman, whose got your keys, but that does not excuse you from being a man.

Sometimes you have to fight your initial reactions. Like when in an awkward situation, your reaction will tell the woman if you are man enough. Say the truth, embrace the awkwardness, smile and continue like it doesn't bother you.

I think every man needs to at least once, learn how to Steal a kiss!!!

hottest111:
duplex ke ? my brother, u av an estate in friendzone avenue

RUBYRUBY:
My brother, it is well with you.
May the God of #olajumoke locate you, because you are the godfather of a whole state in the country of friend zone

MrPin:
Hi Nairalanders,
First and foremost, I want to commend each and everyone of you for ur contributions towards the growth of this forum. Yes, I know it belongs to Mr. Seun Osewa, but we've in one way or the other kept nairaland alive. I have been a visiting member of this forum for over 3years and I've enjoy every bit of ur contributions, every bit of ur back2back comment like #IDon'tBelieveIt, end time post, FTC, leave trash for lawma and so on.[i][/i]
Today, I am here because I need help, I need advice; pls I urge you to read and be free to contribute, as this would help me to decide at this critical moment.
I met a girl five years ago on my way to write post-utme at my State Uni, as God would have it we both got admission into the State Uni but not so long I got another admission at one of the federal Uni through direct entry into 200L. I told her my feelings and how I would want us to start a relationship but she declined, that she needed to face her studies which I agreed with her. As time goes on, year after years I keep reminding her of my Love for her but she insisted that the best that could come out of us is friendship. That was where it done on me that I have been FRIENDZONED.
Guys, all along i have had one or two relationships in school and every every make sense, so its not as if I am a junky when it comes to dating but dis babe matter just tie wrapper for me. Funny enough, I had once introduce her to my parent as my girl, coz they've been worried that I not brought any lady home neither have they seen me with one. So, I just had to introduce somebody to them just to douse the tension coz e be like say dey don dey reason say i be denrele (na joke oo)
Fast forward to 2016, We were done with school and I base in the FCT, she came for a wedding and we got along, I took her out and in one of the outings, after telling her how I would not give up her and all that, it got to a point she made an attempt to kiss me but my liver drop, I was shy so to say and she left. When i got home that night, we chatted about the kiss which she asked why was I shy but i told her i don't know and we ended the chat. I couldn't sleep that night, that a girl i had wanted for over five yrs decided to bless my life with a kiss and i became a dundee united. The truth is no matter how crazy u think u are, somebody get ur medicine just as Iyanya get Ivon Nelson medicine. Three days after that scenario, I went visiting as i had made up my mind to kiss her so as to regain my confidence back, i wish i hadi not, as i hug d babe, say make i kiss her na so d matter be like mother wey dey try give akamu to her by force and d pikin dey turn head, dey drag say mama i no dey chuap . She declined my calculated attempt to kiss her. I stood there like pesin wey hug transformer coz i couldn't move but thanks to God I was able to get home but in different pieces.
Now, the truth is I love this girl so much that i would like to spend the rest of my life with but i don't know how to go about it. Funny enough, I have recommended so many advice to people on how to go about relationship and it worked for them but its quite unfortunate that i can't cure myself.
My fellow Nlders, how do I move from the duplex I was giving at FRIENDZONE AVENUE? Thanks for ur time.