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Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 12:38pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Over-sharing is a natural consequence when regular sharing is deemed insufficient by the sharer. It occurs when a partner shares all the activities in their lives. This feeling of insufficiency is exacerbated by a lack of feedback. People are used to sharing their feelings, their emotions, and their activities with their partners mostly for validation: Am I right about feeling this? , Should I do that? I'm with my friends, I'm talking with my parents, I ate rice and stew , I had a hair cut today , I went to class today ,Et cetera. Personally I find this boring and unnecessary but I may be wrong tho The question is how do you cope with such partners ? 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by vicstar(m): 12:51pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
actually, because of love u can tolerate a lot of things but if it becomes outrageous,I'll say its prudent to make your partner aware of the issue in order not to suffocate in the relationship. 4 Likes |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Smellymouth: 12:54pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Hhmmmm |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by firstking01(m): 12:58pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 1:03pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
vicstar:this can occur out of insecurity. When your partner wants to know if she is doing the right thing? She may feel unappreciated 1 Like |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 1:04pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
its necessary though it erases the feeling of trust but then again its the ladies that will always complain that ure hiding something from them when u told her its nothing. 3 Likes |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 1:09pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
saintloveren:how does it erase the feeling of trust? |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by vicstar(m): 1:09pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Diddyydiva: u're right tho but there's an extent to which it might become boring Out of love I won't hesitate to tell her, and I anticipate she won't misunderstand |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 1:12pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
vicstar: You must be careful with your presentation then else ......... |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by vicstar(m): 1:18pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Diddyydiva:I'm a "sweet-talker" so presenting an issue is never a problem |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 1:19pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Diddyydiva:I will always tell u my activities 4 d day bcaus i hav a feeling dat u dnt trust me. |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 1:26pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
saintloveren:WAo This is another perspective. You mean when your lady shares her activities with you, she is implying you don't trust her? Can you explain better because I can't relate well with this |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 1:33pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Diddyydiva:YEAH when she does it in a way that i begin to wonder like does it mean i dnt trust her, she will tell me everything she does 4rm 6am to 10pm, then im like baby dnt worry i know ure telling me all this 4 me to earn u trust but dnt worry, i trust u even if u dnt tell me everything u did or where u went to. "just be free girl |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by vicstar(m): 1:40pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Diddyydiva: from ma experience,sharing things like these are not based on trust issues, sometimes she just want u to be fully knowledgeable of every activities concerning her in case of an unforeseen event, or if u might be confronted with a question concerning her,u won't be found lacking of an answer 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 6:31pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
vicstar:I agree with you 1 Like |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 6:33pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
saintloveren:lol I understand you. You don't like such attitude either |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 6:39pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Diddyydiva:I expect her to tell me when i asked only not when i dnt ask her. |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Twaci(f): 7:06pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Well I ain't a fan of this behaviour. I love you, yes, but that doesn't mean I should run to you at every uncomfortable turn. I should be able to handle situations myself and carry on any responsibility independently. That's called being an adult. But hey, that doesn't mean I won't talk to my boyfriend about things or share problems with him. His opinions too would be considered. But whatever decision arrived at would be totally mine. The only situation I can wholly depend on him would be when it concerns the relationship and our future. Apart from that, it's a no no. 4 Likes |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 7:46pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Twaci:Nice one. 2 Likes |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Twaci(f): 7:47pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Diddyydiva: |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 7:49pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Twaci:but how will you handle your guy if he does that ? |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Twaci(f): 7:53pm On Feb 09, 2016 |
Diddyydiva:I won't complain. Might just tell him to stop only for him to believe that I do not want communication in the relationship. So no shakes. Just don't expect me to do same. |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 3:36pm On Feb 11, 2016 |
I think its high time ladies started actively participating in and even guiding conversations with their boyfriends. If your guy has a routine of calling and drilling you with questions, then simply direct the flow of discussion next time he calls. The problem is that most Naija ladies lack the capacity to maintain intriguing conversations, thus after how are you and how was your day, they lapse into silence and allow the guy to fire a barrage of questions at them. Here's a revolutionary idea, for once be the one to call your boyfriend and talk about something interesting. Don't give him a chance to ask you what you ate and where/how you ate it 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 11:39pm On Feb 11, 2016 |
Rollar:you are right to some extent tho. When topics are interesting then boredom will be out of it. But this is about your girlfriend giving you every details of her activities, both necessary and unnecessary ones. |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 11:40pm On Feb 11, 2016 |
Twaci:Yea, so you keep on listening to all the .......... |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 12:55am On Feb 12, 2016 |
Diddyydiva:That's exactly what I'm saying. When I notice her habit of giving me unnecessary details, I'll simply segue when next she starts. Since she's not demanding for details about my life, it'll be easy to divert her attention to a different topic. Its all about tact. Telling her to quit telling me about her personal life may hurt her feelings, so I'll just nip any attempt in the bud stylishly. Hope you get the logic 3 Likes |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 9:26am On Feb 12, 2016 |
Rollar:gbam. that's a better idea. 1 Like |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Kennywonders: 10:33am On Feb 12, 2016 |
My own na my own, her own na our own |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Barselonia(m): 10:35am On Feb 12, 2016 |
all these happened When u are on social media....Facebook, whatsapp.. etc... once u are out of discussion, irrelevant discussion comes up..... Because he/She wouldn't want to be online without communicating to u,,That's When all those talk comes up... example... u know Am at work... She: were are u? me: at work she: What are u doing? me: at work na she: u and who is at work? me: maadam, he b like u go enter taxi come meet me for office and see say I dey work oo... she: sey I can't know u and who dey work ni.... me: (I Don off data ) too much question ennnnn Anyway dis question keep me communicating with her every time...But it's annoying atimes 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by ShitHead(m): 10:35am On Feb 12, 2016 |
This niggga dey here dey talk about "over sharing" shiit...I no dey share at all. Na this over sharing shiit dey cause heartbreak, thus...emmmm, suicide shiit. That shiit is boring. Mind your fvcking shiit make I mind my own shiit. Shiit. |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Akynzodeighbour(m): 10:36am On Feb 12, 2016 |
i think you should learn to participate more, it elongates the discussion rather than respond with ok,kk or even kkk, if he's telling you all these things, obviously, he has you on his mind always, shows he's giving you a lot of attention, and you should appreciate it by responding well, if hes with his parents, you could ask, how the discussion went, what the outcome was, if he's eating, ask what he's eating or who cooked it, if he cooked it, you could even go further and say, you are sure the food isn't sweet or tasting good, you should learn to be open to conversations, if he's telling you all these things and he's not getting the right response, bae, that as it may, condition will be critical. 1 Like |
Re: Over Sharing In Relationships. How Do You Cope by Nobody: 10:42am On Feb 12, 2016 |
Partners should be friends, and sharing 'irrelevant information' is what friends do. The world out there is tense enough. Heaven knows one isn't, perhaps shouldn't always be in the mood to discuss global warming and national and international politics. There should be time to share the little nothings. Me thinks it can be a channel through which partners not only bond, but one through which they de-stress. #nice and fresh topic by the way. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
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