Good morning my fellow Nairalanders,

Please I urgently need your advice on my marriage plan. My babe of 2+years is 3 months pregnant. I have commenced the plan for introduction and court marriage so that a month after when she puts to bed we would do the engagement and wedding. This is to plan and manage my finances very well as I would be the only one financing everything. But the real issue is her parents want me to do everything between March & April this year. I maintain my stand that I'd do introduction and court now instead.

What do I do?

You are the man and head of your house, act like one. Your yes is your yes, after all, you're the one doing all the spending. If they insist on having their way, then take a book, write all your expenses and give it to them to bring money out for the marriage. Some in laws are so annoying and not understanding.

They will want you to spend all your money on a one day marriage, later when you'll be running up and down to settle debt no one will even lift a finger to offer you a kobo. My dear, ''cook your food according to your firewood''.

Ginaz:
[You are the man and head of your house, act like one. Your yes is your yes, after all, you're the one doing all the spending. If they insist on having their way, then take a book, write all your expenses and give it to them to bring money out for the marriage. Some in laws are so annoying and not understanding.

They will want you to spend all your money on a one day marriage, later when you'll be running up and down to settle debt no one will even lift a finger to offer you a kobo. My dear, ''cook your food according to your firewood''.

He is heading himself and no one else, atleast not yet.
If that chick were to be your sister, you won't be here calling these parents annoying.

@Op, you do not get to talk. You impregnanted their daughter before marriage and you expect them to be lenient with you?
You would have considered your finances before deciding to put the cart before the horse.

The least you can do at this time is to go ahead and marry her fully now, this is all her parents ask of you. You can go with a very low key wedding, the ceremony can be done alongside the introduction to save cost. Nobody says you must go broke, all they want is for their daughter to be married Asap before she puts to bed.

All the best!

Wonder why you have to do these things in bits..Oh yea you said finance


Tell them how much you plan to spend and you will spend that much to do all at the same time

Afterall who big wedding help?

Ginaz:
You are the man and head of your house, act like one. Your yes is your yes, after all, you're the one doing all the spending. If they insist on having their way, then take a book, write all your expenses and give it to them to bring money out for the marriage. Some in laws are so annoying and not understanding.

They will want you to spend all your money on a one day marriage, later when you'll be running up and down to settle debt no one will even lift a finger to offer you a kobo. My dear, ''cook your food according to your firewood''.

My brother just do introduction and traditional wedding and you're good to go!

EnigmaticEnigma:

You this man, you won't leave me alone?

See what premarital sex does

Managing your finances.. when you were fvcking you did not know about your finances

Ginaz:


You this man, you won't leave me alone?

leave you alone and ruin our impending friendship

why would I do that ??,

EnigmaticEnigma:


leave you alone and ruin our impending friendship

why would I do that ??,

Ginaz:

if u think I'm gonna be missing out on all that delicious fried rice, then you must not be serious

Thanks all...I'd go discuss with the parents again.