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Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by dapsonlou(m): 1:51am On Feb 19, 2016 |
Bro let me tell you, it's not enough to leave your Wife over and yes you married a selfish wife. If a woman wants to control you the 1st thing they will do is get reed of your Family. Don't allow her to put her mouth in your family business. 4 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by scantee(m): 2:54am On Feb 19, 2016 |
ariyike23:my dear i still de like that they left me o |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by elomepee: 8:12am On Feb 19, 2016 |
[quote author=zayhal post=43012363]Stop telling her about everything you want to do for your brother. Help your brother (and other family members) without informing her. hat way, peace will reign. [/quote Please, go this way for now. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by jacy67(f): 9:12am On Feb 19, 2016 |
chekasforchekas: I don't think it's normal at all. I am in a serious relationship and my guy tell me a lot of things, including financial assistance to others. But that has never been a problem between us because I don't know who might help him tomorrow. 3 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by chekasforchekas: 9:16am On Feb 19, 2016 |
jacy67:because your exposed or maybe matured in your own little way, you don't know how childish your fellow women could be a times or how influenced too. 4 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by sunnyt1(m): 9:43am On Feb 19, 2016 |
Bro, i affirm that your wife is neither a bad nor a wrong person, she only has a defiant and variant outlook about life. Dont ever decide on keeping your activities from her as against what others have been advising you. Doing things your wife is against in secret will only aggravate the feud when she finds out and she will one day. The best approach is to work on her mindset, let her know the concept of sowing and reaping, let her know the table might turn one day, let her know the myth of giving and recieving. Let me open your mind to something, Keeping this from her could mean you have the tendency of keeping out deeper secrets, in fact it means there could be other secrets somewhere. Now imagine what this thought in her would do to your marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by yemi16: 11:18am On Feb 19, 2016 |
olushowunm: THanks sir...very well noted and appreciated... |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Nobody: 11:30am On Feb 19, 2016 |
Lol...yong marriages sha |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by mutiply: 12:04pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
grandstar:would love to know your reasons for the above. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by Ochyglowsglows(f): 5:20pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
@ ayauche, thanks for pointing it out to gologolo. @ yemi16, some people think it's not proper for u not to tell ur wife before helping ur siblings. I d still say Do NOT tell her, but like I earlier said, she d eventually find out. When she does, let her know her reactions when u help ur siblings out pisses u off, talk to her, and tell her u d even keep more important things from her, if she won't change. I hate my man keeping things from me, and not eating my meals, infact it breaks me to pieces. So I tend to dance to the tune of his drums when the need arises. Above all, pray for her, pray o. Cos no matter how much u love her, if she has a particular attitude that provokes u and she's not willing to even try to change, omo iya, the love go fade o. It is well. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by adedayoadeoye(f): 8:17pm On Feb 19, 2016 |
What I see in ur wife is dt her selfish interest wil ruin her marriage.blood brothers is nt easy to interven in their matters.I am a lady too n I no there are some vital issues wives shouldn't get involve wit when it involves in laws.she is gradually pushin u outside at dis early stage of ur marriage is a pity.if u start keepin screts from her it gives room to many tings to hapen btw u.pls sir dnt abandon ur brother I beg u in d name of God just keep helpin him n his family and for d rest of ur family cos she is just wife which can go at anytime.then keep prayin cos more are stil comIn.God is ur strength 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by wiloy2k8(m): 11:40am On Feb 20, 2016 |
yemi16: you just married the wrong lady ... 2 Likes |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by ebbyneza(m): 9:21am On Feb 21, 2016 |
yemi16: |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by scantee(m): 12:31pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
ariyike23:pretty how ar u happy new wek |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by ariyike23(f): 1:01pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
scantee: thanks dear,,im good ,at work now.. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by eyinjuege: 2:40pm On Feb 22, 2016 |
yemi16: The earlier you do, the better. You know your wife, and for peace to reign don't discuss such with her. Just do your thing and assist those you feel you should. Provided you are meeting your responsibilities at home, I don't see why she should be so mean particularly to your siblings. Please always remember your parents and take care of them well. For your siblings that need your support, pls render it as its just for a short while. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by ariyike23(f): 11:40am On Feb 29, 2016 |
scantee: ,,im jes seeing this.. watsup? |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by scantee(m): 4:57pm On Feb 29, 2016 |
ariyike23:am cool ur Lordship! Ojection overule u may continue to enjoy ur day... |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by blesseddiddy10: 1:03am On Mar 01, 2016 |
yemi16: to a strike a peaceful balance between your wife and your family, u need to keep salient on some of your help and deeds. Rule if thumb is never tell your wife how much u help your family members a d same should apply to the family towards your wife. I practically tried it and it worked for me. you are not hiding any secret but you are just managing the situation because of the overall result which is PEACE. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by loshybab(m): 10:50am On Mar 01, 2016 |
yemi16:Is either u feel sad for keepin tinz frm her nd later have a peace of mind and a peaceful family or u feel more sad gettin her informed abt whateva u wnt to do for ur relatives,havin a troubled mind as a result of frequent quarrels and risk ur relatives detestin u nd ur family coz or ur wife's greed....im sure u can pick d'better choice!!! |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by misreal(m): 8:44pm On Mar 01, 2016 |
yemi16:na patience uzorkwor u marry......seriously i dont think your wife is mad to behave as such.just try talking to her to get what she really wants.. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by misreal(m): 9:04pm On Mar 01, 2016 |
broswilli:op here is your answer.. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by scantee(m): 3:54pm On Mar 03, 2016 |
ariyike23: check up ur whatsapp message |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by ariyike23(f): 10:59am On Mar 04, 2016 |
scantee: That fone crashed but i'll be bk dere dis night ,i'll check... |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by bukatyne(f): 11:57am On Mar 04, 2016 |
yemi16: The pre-marriage class is right. However, it is quite 'unfortunate' you married a 'Nigerian' wife and such rules/classes might not necessarily apply. Since you are buoyant enough to help your elder brother, then she should take a blast and never disgrace your elder brother that way again. Whatever it costs to ensure she gets her acts right, please do. And remember not to have joint accounts with her. 1 Like |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by bukatyne(f): 12:00pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
mrDennis: Yet I can bet my left bum you will not forget where the Bible said a wife should submit to her husband. Selective much? |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by bukatyne(f): 12:06pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Recherche: So a 'man' should not be more concerned about his marriage to show he is 'manly' ba? There is nothing wrong with the husband, the problem is with the wife. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by CNN80: 3:22pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Ok, everybody has finished insulting the wife. E don do. Yemi, talk to you wife. Find out why she has issues about you helping your brother. Tell her that it will look irresponsible of you to leave your brother in his time of need. Then ask her how YOU TWO |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by CNN80: 3:39pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
Ok, everybody has finished insulting the wife. E don do. Yemi, talk to your wife. Find out why she has issues about you helping your brother. Tell her that it will look irresponsible of you to leave your brother in his time of need. Then ask her how YOU TWO can assist your brother. Let me tell you my own situation. My husband can be over generous with money. He is not the best money manager. Once a family member or friend says, my guy, I need help, he will jump in head first. I, on the other hand, am more cautious. I will happily give in church, orphanages, etc but if someone directly approaches me for aid, they will get the third degrees more so if they are family. It has nothing to do with stinginess and every thing to do with having experienced people leeching off my parents in the name of family. When we were about to get married, I pointed out to my husband that he had almost no savings. We had worked for almost the same number of years and had almost the same salary yet he had no tangible investments. He had sponsored various things in his family, weddings, business ventures etc. I told him it had to stop. How can you help people when you have not yet helped yourself? You have to pay yourself before you help others. This is basic financial knowledge. It has taken years but now he is much better. He still gives out more than I would like (he doesn't always let me know) but I know he has savings which we can depend on if something goes wrong. And he always consults me before give any large sum of money or household item. Giving away an old phone, iron, electric kettle....go for it. Giving away a fridge.... I better have a say in that. Communication is a wonderful tool. It builds togetherness. Saying that you want to make all the decisions because you are the head of the family does not fly. Once you married her, she became the bone of your bone and the flesh of your flesh. Talk to her, make her a partner in your endeavours and you will be pleasantly surprised at how your marriage will blossom. It will take time but you will get there. I know a man whose family complains that the wife doesn't like the husband helping the family. But they forget that there are two things involved. One, the lady was orphaned at a early age and had to struggle for every thing she achieved. Two, the family members are actually doing okay for themselves. Of course who won't like some extra help but without it they are okay. The wife sees this so she is more concerned with saving for their children because she knows what she went through. Everyone has a story. Find out what your wife's own is, allay her fears and show her that you are partners in your marriage. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by poik(m): 11:19pm On Mar 04, 2016 |
yemi16: In things like this, it is always better for there to be agreement. the house and the things therein are for the both of you, not you alone. You two are not compatible when it comes to giving, apparently. But make the woman calm down abeg. wetin? i hope she has siblings and extended family, too. |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by scantee(m): 9:22am On Mar 05, 2016 |
Re: Help!!..did I Marry The Wrong Lady? by naijagobetter(m): 11:09am On Mar 05, 2016 |
yemi16: |
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