please NLers I was arguing with some friends about whether asking your partner for money or help is ok. Most of the girls believed that the guys should give without asking but how would someone give without knowing if you have any need? by the way he also has his? Abeg ladies and gentlemen of Nairaland make una help me judge oh

Look, i"m not against a boyfriend supporting his girlfrnd in financial issues in a relationship, but where I won't support is where the babe begins to take advantage of his generosity by offloading all her financial burdens on him as if it's her right.. if she wants money, she should work for it. Simple

I really dont need a man to take care of me

Unless i borrow the money and you refuse me to pay back and e no dey pass 3k

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to ? help am

Elzends:
Modify the topic

Its not bad... But most ladies now thinks it's their BF responsibility

iwakacome:
to ? help am

Is asking ur partner in a relationship right or wrong

Tot it should be "is asking ur partner for money in a relationship................

halfricanadian:
I really dont need a man to take care of me

Unless i borrow the money and you refuse me to pay back and e no dey pass 3k

Hi dear, we can chat here or via mail........

3rdlegxxx:



Hi dear, we can chat here or via mail........

No both ways

halfricanadian:


No both ways

u are stubborn

I hate asking for help .I'm not comfortable with it

3rdlegxxx:


u are stubborn

Sturborn for d right reasons

If u check reasons im sturborn nd d situation at hand

U will kno its a form of protection

halfricanadian:


Sturborn for d right reasons

If u check reasons im sturborn nd d situation at hand

U will kno its a form of protection

not arguing with u on that, u have ur reasons and it's alrite, whats wrong ur mail, go use it

3rdlegxxx:


not arguing with u on that, u have ur reasons and it's alrite, whats wrong ur mail, go use it

*magically* i cant access it

halfricanadian:


*magically* i cant access it

lol, more like intentionally, open a new one jare and link it to nl... should take u more than a few minutes

3rdlegxxx:


lol, more like intentionally, open a new one jare and link it to nl... should take u more than a few minutes

No need

halfricanadian:


No need

stubborn ass

halfricanadian:


No need

s o i guess ur gf is also on nairaland right? and u say she is painting u as the bad one right.....

3rdlegxxx:


s o i guess ur gf is also on nairaland right? and u say she is painting u as the bad one right.....

No she aint on nl she aint my gf no more

Cos if ur bestfrnd will b loyal to a stranger dan u dat av known her for years? den wats definition of bestfrnd?

no body can force trash on me she lied it will take me time to process it cos i trusted her so mch took her like a sister nt even a frnd

Its too mch to process she can b loyal for money

Nd cos im nobody she cant b loyal i need a loyal frnd.

halfricanadian:


No she aint on nl she aint my gf no more

Cos if ur bestfrnd will b loyal to a stranger dan u dat av known her for years? den wats definition of bestfrnd?

no body can force trash on me she lied it will take me time to process it cos i trusted her so mch took her like a sister nt even a frnd

Its too mch to process she can b loyal for money

Nd cos im nobody she cant b loyal i need a loyal frnd.

lol so you really think it was all down to money, ur besty fell for money, well it's been said to have a strong pulling power, anyways i'm sure u still have sure friends, types u can spill ur heart out to and won't look at u wif no judgmental look or look down on u but understand u, we all need one of those...

3rdlegxxx:


lol so you really think it was all down to money, ur besty fell for money, well it's been said to have a strong pulling power, anyways i'm sure u still have sure friends, types u can spill ur heart out to and won't look at u wif no judgmental look or look down on u but understand u, we all need one of those...

I just need frnds to just share moments

I really dont kno d importance of frnds

Wen i said money i had to look for wats closer to d situation nd d fact d guy place her feelings above mine always is sickening

Wo i av been kept in an uncomfortable situation enof

Wateva happened btw dem deir headache

Im finding my life again after school atleast i wont see her face again unless her see her face on celeb section nl

I really wish her well above dis she can b loyal to who she wants to b with

halfricanadian:


I just need frnds to just share moments

I really dont kno d importance of frnds

Wen i said money i had to look for wats closer to d situation nd d fact d guy place her feelings above mine always is sickening

Wo i av been kept in an uncomfortable situation enof

Wateva happened btw dem deir headache



Im finding my life again after school atleast i wont see her face again unless her see her face on celeb section nl

I really wish her well above dis she can b loyal to who she wants to b with

i have a feeling there is more to this story than u are telling, ur guy can't be putting ur besties feeling before urs, something must have gone wrong along the line, it's either u did something wrong along the line and ended up pushing him away and u didn't know or they grew to like like each other, could be ur fault or theirs...

3rdlegxxx:


i have a feeling there is more to this story than u are telling, ur guy can't be putting ur besties feeling before urs, something must have gone wrong along the line, it's either u did something wrong along the line and ended up pushing him away and u didn't know or they grew to like like each other, could be ur fault or theirs...

I only asked if dey were chatting

Dey both descended on me

One time d girl said i shd warn my bf

See if dey like each oda

Wat can i do?

wen i talk about her he shows me he cares bou her deeply nd me i shd go nd die

Well im happy for dem if dey make something beautiful

Wats wrong in dem sayin yes we chatting

Bf had interior motives from d start den

If he loves her i will gladly attend d wedding even if it was to b me it will giv me d chance to find love too

He made me feel little of mysef

I tot a bf was to stand for his girl in d presence of her frnds

Not bring her down

He brought me down to a little level in her presences

Which means he cared bou her from d start she has all d comfort den me is being put tru alot of hardship she has people all arond her he took people away from me

he makes my heart bleed

Well im happy for dem dats all i can say

My mind as made up itsef to accept dey lile each oda

So i will walk away so dey can build it sronger
If he loves her am happy for her


Now dey av gone far nd me coming in i will b d fool

He has created a deadline for me nd him

He has treated me like trash enof

I set him free his new girl new wife everytin i wish him well im nt lookin back made up
Mind

Cant wait to see ex bestfrnd face on nl celeb section i will b proud she was once a frnd

Theres notin bad in asking ur partner for money..but it shud come wt a very solid reason for something important in ur life or career and also for something profitable...its shudnt be for ur normal daily needs and social upgrading just to feel among wt ur peers....not like the girl am recently seeing asking me for 52k just to buy a weavon.....thats absolute madness for this kind hard times...

halfricanadian:



I only asked if dey were chatting

Dey both descended on me

One time d girl said i shd warn my bf

See if dey like each oda

Wat can i do?

wen i talk about her he shows me he cares bou her deeply nd me i shd go nd die

Well im happy for dem if dey make something beautiful

Wats wrong in dem sayin yes we chatting

Bf had interior motives from d start den

If he loves her i will gladly attend d wedding even if it was to b me it will giv me d chance to find love too

hmm u sound bitter and hurt, well from i am standing i really don't know the full story so really say much but be strong, am not cool wif us havn all d convo here, der shud be a way we can actually talk off here tho..... stay strong dear

3rdlegxxx:


hmm u sound bitter and hurt, well from i am standing i really don't know the full story so really say much but be strong, am not cool wif us havn all d convo here, der shud be a way we can actually talk off here tho..... stay strong dear

Yes deeply hurt each time i try to forgive dey do it all over again i av felt for dem

Cant make two people make me little no no

Cos i told one i love u as a bf and d oda i love u as a best frnd i cant ways i will never treat dem dey did to me

Im fine cant access my mail

He knows he doesnt love me yet block my chances of finding love wen me im happy for him

dats wats paining me i shd b free to find my love

3rdlegxxx:


hmm u sound bitter and hurt, well from i am standing i really don't know the full story so really say much but be strong, am not cool wif us havn all d convo here, der shud be a way we can actually talk off here tho..... stay strong dear

Yes deeply hurt each time i try to forgive dey do it all over again i av felt for dem

Cant make two people make me little no no

Cos i told one i love u as a bf and d oda i love u as a best frnd i cant ways i will never treat dem dey did to me

Im fine cant access my mail

He knows he doesnt love me yet block my chances of finding love wen me im happy for him

dats wats paining me i shd b free to find my love.

shebi una dey ask
me i don't even know how to ask a guy for money
how i wan take talk am sef... i need money or i need your help
to me.. it downgrading kind off..walai

The nigga above me called hector just nailed it

halfricanadian:


Yes deeply hurt each time i try to forgive dey do it all over again i av felt for dem

Cant make two people make me little no no

Cos i told one i love u as a bf and d oda i love u as a best frnd i cant ways i will never treat dem dey did to me

Im fine cant access my mail

He knows he doesnt love me yet block my chances of finding love wen me im happy for him

dats wats paining me i shd b free to find my love

good am dear, open up a new mail 2day lets talk better, hope ur good tho, busy n surround ur thoughts wif things dat interests you, fings dat makes u happy, could be movies, music, games, reading books or novels dat u know u enjoy, just stop d regret and blame game n enjoy urself for me

baranzy:
Theres notin bad in asking ur partner for money..but it shud come wt a very solid reason for something important in ur life or career and also for something profitable...its shudnt be for ur normal daily needs and social upgrading just to feel among wt ur peers....not like the girl am recently seeing asking me for 52k just to buy a weavon.....thats absolute madness for this kind hard times...

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