Men are simple creatures while it is generally known that women are complex creatures and as a result, they do operate at a different wavelength than men especially when it comes to relationships. Aside the sex, other things which includes each view of life is completely different. That is why when you see two people (a man and a woman) having a relationship problem, they sometimes resort to use the phrase 'we are just not compatible'. Little do they know that our compatibility as human lies in our differences.


It is also often said that men are 'optical beings' i.e. they are most times blown away by what they see why women are won over by what they hear. However, both men and women loved hearing sweet words (words that are re-affirming, re-assuring, encouraging, motivating etc.). Like no one wants to be constantly told how 'bad' they are doing, how unfortunate they are or how disapproving their words is.

That said, it is therefore important to note that the usage of words between a man and a woman differs as well. This is true in the sense that men use words to communicate FACTS while women use words to communicate FEELINGS. When women feel strongly, they use 'strong' words. So a man listening to a woman and because he uses words to communicate facts takes what she's saying as facts but in actual sense that's not what she's saying, she knows the fact but only saying what she's feeling at the moment.


That is why you hear a woman say to her man "I know you don't love me". At that moment, a man runs his computer (brain) searching for the next thing to do or say, why? Because he takes that as a fact and he thinks that's the most ridiculous thing to say in this world. He tells her "you are lying, how can you say that? We were discussing together till we slept last night and then this morning I don't love you?. She knows that you love her, it's just that she doesn't feel loved at the moment.




Another scenario: when a man buys his woman a brand new car and after the usual love talks, kisses and all that, the following day she says something like "do you love me at all? I know you don't love me" (feelings). Then the man goes crazy, like WTH! Next thing, he runs to the table, grab the car keys and tell her "see, see this (pointing the car keys to her face) I still don't love you right?" (fact).


What most men fail to realize is that, it's not always about things, money, possessions and what have you, sometimes what a woman need are words of affirmation, reassuring words, like you telling her you love her over and again, I mean, telling her you can jump in front of a moving train for her sake, okay, that was funny.

What am I saying is essence? Most times, a warm hug will say the words more appropriately than gifting her the latest automobile or giving her your ATM card to enable her go on a shopping spree. Also, women want acknowledgement and appreciation. They want more than just the car keys, the kisses, the sex: They want to be appreciated. They want to feel adored - so maybe there are smarter, more attractive or more successful women out there, but to you, she is the bee’s knees. Your esteemed ladylove wants to feel that you are fortunate to have her, that you can’t keep from beaming when you see her or even that she makes your life better for being in it. Feeling your devotion will only encourage her to reciprocate and feel lucky herself for garnering such a good man.

And yes, women want you to listen up.


So the next time she say those 'crazy' words, instead of saying something that will hurt her or you trying to show her some facts, why not use your words to make her feel loved.

http://kolawolepeters..com.ng/2016/03/the-power-of-words.html

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Someone should summarize.

falconey:
Someone should summarize.

Nawa oo, you need summary for a post with few paragraphs? You need jixox.

In my own sumary






always lie to a woman

You ain't talking about Nigerian women right?

kolawolepeters:


Nawa oo, you need summary for a post with few paragraphs? You need jixox.

For spelling Jesus like that, you are the one who needs him more.

OP!! Wetin!!! Na Epistle be this??

Decker:


For spelling Jesus like that, you are the one who needs him more.

what I meant is actually different from the poo you're insinuating, maintain ur lane alagba..

E ris too long.

kolawolepeters:

what I meant is actually different from the poo you're insinuating, maintain ur lane alagba..

Lol.

Mehn, this thing long o

grad2012:
E ris too long.

KINGinVAHALA2:
Mehn, this thing long o

SMH-ing for una

kolawolepeters:


Nawa oo, you need summary for a post with few paragraphs? You need jixox.

Abeg park well. Jst say u didn't read it

AngelXs:
Abeg park well. Jst say u didn't read it

hhahahaha, dude, check who wrote dis, u mumu small sha, no offence..

kolawolepeters:

hhahahaha, dude, check who wrote dis, u mumu small sha, no offence..

atal..no tym 4 dat

Kondomatic:
You ain't talking about Nigerian women right?

Exactly, they will turn you to Maga.