Most ladies and some guys still have this belief that it is the responsibility of a man to take care of a woman. It is very common to find Nigerian ladies who have good jobs and make a lot of money but still depend on a man to provide her needs. The truth of the matter is that the current setting in our society is making such belief become more disastrous and uncomfortable to put into practice. This method of parasitic coexistence may have worked well 200 years ago but it is no more feasible in today's setting.

Let us say we have reached a point where 50% of men are employed and 50% of women are also employed which fulfills the gender equality objective. Now since women believe it is the responsibility of a man to take care of women, what it implies is that the 50% of men employed will be the ones responsible for caring for 100% of women which includes both the employed women and unemployed women. There is definitely no way half of the male population can take care of the entire female population especially as we practice monogamy. On the other hand, since women hardly sponsor men it means the other 50% of unemployed men will be left with no support.

What I am trying to say above is that in this period where women are empowered and taking up employment positions it is no longer feasible for men to "take care" of women as it is currently practiced. Both men and women should take care of each other and quit making it one sided by saying men should take care of women. Women are now empowered so they should take up responsibilities by sponsoring males too. It is unless if women are getting empowered and they wouldn't take any responsibilities. If women are insisting that men should take care of them then it is better they quit taking up employment positions and leave them for the male folks to earn money and take care of them. There is no point when ladies displace men from work and still expect men to take care of them.

At this point what I have to tell the male folks is: DO NOT be ashamed to be sponsored by a lady or request financial assistance from her. Why then should we allow ladies to displace men from employment positions and we still wouldn't benefit anything from the arrangement just because we foolishly think men should not request support from women. If men support and empower women and women do not reciprocate the support towards men then men are setting the stage for their own destruction. It can't be one sided.

For the women, many years ago men confined you to the kitchen walls while they went out to fetch the bread. So it was perfectly valid to say men should take care of you at that time. But these days you join men in fetching the bread so it is no more acceptable to still insist that men should take care you. As you join men in hunting you steal opportunities from the men, therefore you MUST accept to take responsibilities to take of care of men as well. If you earn a lot of money feel free to marry a broke guy if you love him. Men will not die just for you to live. DO NOT insult any man who requests for financial assistance from you. It makes you an ingrate that men are allowing women into the work force and you still turn around to call him a broke guy.

Whatever the op and the FTC NIGGA WROTE I AGREE.

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Modified remarkable write up @ op but it will make SOME of the men lazy and look inferior knowing most of their ideal responsibility is being taken care of, there are cases like that as we post.
however their support is welcome.

The negative effect is such men looses their women respect and receives lots of insult for not taking atleast 80% of the responsibility. I believe no man can live like that.

rich ladies marrying broke guys?? that naija ladies will not. ladies just want guys who earn more no matter how rich they are and thats intimidating.

Who are those people advocating for gender equality?

Oya file out.. fast... na only by mouth una go dey showcase unaselves, do d work nw dem go say shebi he is d man.. mchew.

Op marrying a broke guy should be out of it!!

falconey:
Whatever the op and the FTC NIGGA WROTE I AGREE.

reading...............

Modified remarkable write up @ op but it will make SOME of the men lazy and look inferior knowing most of their ideal responsibility is being taken care of, there are cases like that as we post.
however their support is welcome.

The negative effect is such men looses their women respect and receives lots of insult for not taking atleast 80% of the responsibility. I believe no man can live like that.

rich ladies marrying broke guys?? that naija ladies will not. ladies just want guys who earn more no matter how rich they are and thats intimidating.

You are still talking about a man's responsibility which is what I am kicking against. We can't have such thing as a "man's responsibility" when women are competing with men to gain income from employment. Why should women displace men and fetch money and it still remains a man's "responsibility"??

dollyjoy:
Op marrying a broke guy should be out of it!!

Let say me for instance if ladies somehow out manoeuvre guys and gain 90% of employment positions. If ladies are insisting on "men's responsibility" where would these ladies find a rich man to marry when they have displaced 90% of men from work?? Why shouldn't they take the responsibility and care for these men since they have displaced them from work? Or would ladies prefer to stay single and enjoy the wealth alone which is the height of selfishness.

Ontarget:

You are still talking about a man's responsibility which is what I am kicking against. We can't have such thing as a "man's responsibility" when women are competing with men to gain income from employment. Why should women displace men and fetch money and it still remains a man's "responsibility"??

I understand from your initial post, let me tell you a fact, empowering the female gender is not to take a man's responsibility but to Take care of their need and support men.

Nonetheless there are some work that best suit the Female like marketing, customer service , sales of food stuffs and the likes. I believe those areas are where you will find the females mostly.

Other areas are completely dominated by men E.G construction industry, aviation you know them, if you find a female it must be by chance and it rare.

They are not competing with us and they have not taken over our workforce.

falconey:



I understand from your initial post, let me tell you a fact, empowering the female gender is not to take a man's responsibility but to Take of their need and support men.

Nonetheless there are some work that best suit the Female like marketing, customer service , sales of food stuffs and the likes. I believe those areas are where you will find the females mostly.

Other areas are completely dominated by men E.G construction industry, aviation you know them, if you find a female it must be by chance and it rare.

They are not competing with us and they have not taken over our workforce.

Whatever jobs the females are employed to do men can still do them. Even if it's hair dressing or cooking. There is nothing like female jobs and male jobs. So whatever employment a female gets a man can still fill in there. If women want a man to take care of them as his "responsibility" then where would men get the income to do so when they are being displaced by women?

Ontarget:

men get the income to do so when they are being displaced by women?

Ontarget:

when they have displaced 90% of men from work?? Why shouldn't they take the responsibility and care for these men since they have displaced them from work? Or would ladies prefer to stay single and enjoy the wealth alone which is the height of selfishness.

Ontarget:

Why should women displace men and fetch money and it still remains a man's "responsibility"??

Your choice of words, OP, shows your mentality. And its a very sad sad mentality indeed. Some people blame God or their station or their parents or the gov't for lack of employment opportunities. And now OP is blaming women. Chai.

Ontarget:
It makes you an ingrate that men are allowing women into the work force and you still turn around to call him a broke guy.

@bolded, are you kidding me? Just wow. Anyways, the solution for you, in your personal life, is to not allow your wife to work. That will prevent all of this headache.

A new kind of personality everyday on NL honestly.....

MrsPhyno:




Your choice of words, OP, shows your mentality. And its a very sad sad mentality indeed. Some people blame God or their station or their parents or the gov't for lack of employment opportunities. And now OP is blaming women. Chai.


@bolded, are you kidding me? Just wow. Anyways, the solution for you, in your personal life, is to not allow your wife to work. That will prevent all of this headache.

A new kind of personality everyday on NL honestly.....

Please where did I state that women are responsible for the unemployment situation in the country? Is that all you understood? Is that what the thread is about? Why did you miss the part where I said that women displace men from employment positions and still do not want to take responsibilities?