Infidelity should in no way be blamed on genetics. Medically, a condition is genetic if its trait is carried in d DNA of d individual's gene ova generations. Its also qt difrnt wen d girl is a nymphomaniac in whc case she is a sex freak, 4wch i strongly bliv d girl shud not indulge in xtramarital affairs but shud wok out mr satisfactn 4rm her husband. So i tnk d ladies hv a problem wt dia morals &value system, or cud probably b unda a generatnal curse. I suggest d young man shud dig deeper &uproot d cause 2ru Prayers OR he should totally 4go d marriage. Dis is a lifeTIME union, not a Trial version!

Infidelity or other vices in relationship are not genetic. If the history runs in a family then it is a matter of influence.
This issue applies to men too. What of guys whose grandfather, father and siblings have history of not taking care of there family and polygamy which is the root of all evil in Africa.
A Yoruba adage says the child will definitely sow his/her cloth with yarn made by the parents. "Owu ti iya gbon ni omo yio ran"
The home where someone is coming from is an important factor to be considered when choosing a spouse ONLY IF HE/SHE CAN PROOF HIMSELF/HERSELF beyond reasonable doubt that she is not influenced by the family history.

Sometimes it happens like that but in some cases it does not, so the girl in question might be different.

Hi, your friend have to be careful and prayerful. I new a woman in my town that do cheat on her husband, her younger sister does and her daughter is liken to dog. The question is, how did your friend gilfriend treated her last boy friend? If you are in any relationship of which you are not the first person to date your spouse, you need to know why she left her former boyfriend. It doesnt matter if you convince her with all your effort. If the lady past is wayward, let your friend quits but stay with prayer if her past is good

Genetics has not been able to explain some trend such as this situation,just like guys or ladies that bite their fingernail will tell u they got it from their mother and this is true in most case.
On a second thot the poster's scenario could be a negative life pattern that runs in d family which should be addressed b4 it gets to d next on d line-ur friend's girl in this case- so,his parents could be right u know.

Medically and research wise, there is a lot of evidence to show that smoking is injurous to health. There is enough proof in the Scientific journals and institutions to prove that smoking is bad for humans. Buy sadly, this fact is overlooked by people because of the commercial expolitation by Cigrette companies. They thrive on the fact that people get hooked to this bad habit and take full advantage of unsuspecting people. Like you see in the movie, 'THANK YOU FOR SMOKING' it is just as bad in real like.

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There might be an explanation in the fact that some biological characteristics like hormones might be passed down from generation to generation . . . but I think social and cultural upbringing will help explain any trends easily.

If you grow up in a family where everyone availabe role model disrespects marriage.
These values or the lack of em influence children and they end up like their parent.

Can someone simply accept there cld be a good egg amongst several bad eggs

I have no data to back it up, but i have the feelings that it is genetic.
Cos i have seen people that their father were chronic womanizers and the sons ends up that way.
Although, it might not be genetic, could be that they see the habit as being acceptable since their role model {father} was doing it.
But then, i ave seen kids that never even lived with the father and yet do same, so how do we explain those?

@ OP,

Are you asking this question for yourself or your supposed friend??

I couldn't agree with Oyinda more, Very well put!

Like the old management saying goes about modeling a behaviour, "People do what people see".

wbb

Noooo, never! Its an habit that has to do with a person. Its just like saying smoking is hereditory which is not!

is going to church, praying genetic too?

Look. this is the truth. she may say that she would never be like her sisters but who knows what can occur in the future. What if the guy travels for a long time or they have a long quarrell. I think the parents should be listened to. they have more insight than we do. so i suggest the guy looks for another lady.

infidelity is a choice not genetic. and even though it might hard for the parents to believe and accept that the girl might be different from her "cheating" sisters, she should be given the benefit of doubt and not be labeled as a future cheater just because of hers sisters are doing the same or so they thought. . .

rusky:

Look. this is the truth. she may say that she would never be like her sisters but who knows what can occur in the future. What if the guy travels for a long time or they have a long quarrell. I think the parents should be listened to. they have more insight than we do. so i suggest the guy looks for another lady.

ummmmmmm
that is serious oh

rusky:

Look. this is the truth. she may say that she would never be like her sisters but who knows what can occur in the future. What if the guy travels for a long time or they have a long quarrell. I think the parents should be listened to. they have more insight than we do. so i suggest the guy looks for another lady.

true no body knows what could happen. also what's the guarantee that, getting another lady means no cheating in the marriage, even when the hubby travels or they quarrel as you nicely put it?

parents might know better true, but they're using the sinners of her sisters to judge her, just because her sisters are cheating doesn't mean she's of no good/use. she could be the only reasonable one among her sisters

she should be given the benefit of doubt.

~Sissy~:

infidelity is a choice not genetic. and even though it might hard for the parents to believe and accept that the girl might be different from her "cheating" sisters, she should be given the benefit of doubt and not be labeled as a future cheater just because of hers sisters are doing the same or so they thought. . .

where have u been, u just disappeared on me again, i am beginning to think it is a genetic problem in ur family

What a sorry excuse. Just tell the girl you don't like her.

But make I no lie, if na my son, I'd also be concerned about the girl's backgroud

Parent's do all sort of things out of concern for they children

True, we all should give someone the benefit of the doubt but this should be based on informed and satisfying reasoning's, whilst you cannot really observe someone's behaviour until you get married( even at that), its good you go back to the drawing board and not completely block your ears to your parents warning.Someone pointed out that social and cultural upbringing matters. she grew up with her senior sisters cheating on their husbands and justifying their reasons for doing so( who knows what else must have occurred in that same family). She might not be in agreement with them now but remember she might also not be completely cut off from them in the future. When they don't see anything wrong in cheating, they might encourage her one day to do the same. Think of the future and not just now.

To be frank, if i were a mother, i would not allow my son to marry in such family where there seem to be no sense of moral upbringing and Godly fear whether Genetic or not that's irrelevant anyway-a thief is never born a thief! they make them self one .

warn your friend. Except on grounds where he has very very strong spiritual conviction about her, parents are almost always right on issues that bother on fidelity. QED

na_so:

warn your friend. Except on grounds where he has very very strong spiritual conviction about her, parents are almost always right on issues that bother on fidelity. QED

They are not always right, but could be mostly right.

Fhemmmy:

They are not always right, but could be mostly right.

I did not say they are always right. I said they are almost always right in matters that bother on fidelity.


"Wetin old man dey see when him sidon , small pickin no go see am even if him climb electric pole"

na_so:

I did not say they are always right. I said they are almost always right in matters that bother on fidelity.


"Wetin old man dey see when him sidon , small pickin no go see am even if him climb electric pole"

na true u talk jare.

infidelity is a personal thing. sometimes the man is the cause whereas at some other times rhe woman is the reason behind it. you see, if ur man is not treating u right he's put u up for it ,in the same vane, if the woman is the over demanding type she has putten the man up for it. understanding is the life wire of every relationship. infidelity is never ever genetic, but it is always a product of marital disorders. if proper communication is in place and the bond is still strong then the question of infidelity is out. tell your friend his parents are not going to build his family with him.

i dont think so

na2day?:

where have u been, u just disappeared on me again, i am beginning to think it is a genetic problem in ur family

haba! i miss u oo, howdy?

have been really quite busy

Sissy,
bawo ni?
I don miss you too o
How you dey?

~Sissy~:

haba! i miss u oo, howdy?

have been really quite busy

alright but u cant keep leaving me cold like this, haba! anywayz, now that u r around what should we do to catch up with lost time

FL Gators:

Sissy,
bawo ni?
I don miss you too o
How you dey?

longest time my dear!!!
hun, how body?
sis i miss you too
i dey fine oo, but na busyness dey cause am 4 all the wahala oo

na2day?:

alright but u cant keep leaving me cold like this, haba! anywayz, now that u r around what should we do to catch up with lost time   

u should take me to a fancy resturant, where ma legs wouldnt be touching the floor