KashyBaby:
U "stylishly" wasted ur 4yrs with her & she all did was cheating behind ur back...

Ask urself if u really "stylishly" deserved all that sh1t? And are u willing to waste another 4yrs with her coz of so called love?

U better "stylishly" bump ur head so u will wake up from ur nightmare and move on. Don't give ur love to someone who "stylishly" don't deserved it...

zanebaddo:
this is the only thing I think is missing in your post

Adeayo7:
Guy, try get sense abeg! Try.. Just try. You see, you're dealing with a Manipulator; a gal who knows how much u love her n because of that is confident enough to sleep around with other guys, knowing that at the end of the day, you'll probably still take her back. I read ur previous thread from last year and I also read this one. And its pathetic that you've allowed yourself to be used in this way. I do not feel sorry 4 u at all. I can't feel sorry for ppl who allow themselves to be used.

I think its obvious what you need to do; do not take her back, period. If they do it once, they'll most likely do it again. If she cheats on you now, what mks u think she won't cheat on u in marriage? Over time, she has proven beyond reasonable doubt that she is not worthy of ur love. I know you'll quickly tell me u really love her, but hey, love is not suppose to hurt. Yes, u love her, but that doesn't mean u shud bcom her puppet. It's time to do wat u shud hv done a long time ago - get some courage and end this charade. I think u're smart, else you'd not be here asking for help. She claims to love u yet she lies to u. She claims to love u, yet she sleeps around. Biko, wch kain love be that? End it now!!

As for ur new gf, end that as well or take it slow. She's clearly a rebound; you're using her to mend ur broken heart. But she doesn't deserve that. U need time to heal and the only way to do that is to spend time alone, get involved in so many tinz, and find ways to improve yourself academically and otherwise. Its clear that u're not cut out for this either; u appear naive and too immature to deal with the demands of a relationship. Be a man 4 once! End this now and start patching ur life together. Good luck!

pxdaniel:
Good day Nairalanders, pls I need you'll advice concerning my situation.

I created a thread last year september about an issue I had with my now ex-girlfriend. Here's the thread: www.nairaland.com/2632139/romancelanders-pls-need-urgent-sincere but I couldn't follow the advice given to breakup with her cos she seemed genuinely remorse and moreover I still loved her deeply especially because she is my first love.

I had a minor misunderstanding with her in november and she was angry with me. She didn't pick my calls for 4 days and so I stopped calling her. Few days later she called me and we settled everything. However, I began to suspect something wasn't alright so I stylishly persuaded her to use my phone for some time but unknown to her, I actually did that to spy on her with my call recorder. I was shocked to find out thereafter that she was still dating that oil worker I talked about in my previous thread and that she went to stay with him during that period she didn't pick my calls.

I was devastated and told her it was over but she wouldn't let me be. She kept begging me and even calling my parents, siblings and friends to talk to me.

I completely ignored her until sometime in January, I got a text from her that I should pick my call cos it was very urgent so I spoke with her and she told me she needed to see me for an urgent matter. When we met, she was pleading that I should take her back cos I'm her first love and we are soul mates and all that kinda talk. I couldn't trust her so I stylishly took her memory card and inserted it in my phone when she refused to give me the password to her phone.


Again, I was devastated to find out that she went out with this same guy during the christmas break and they even went to an hotel to spend a night. She started begging me that she's sorry and that she has truly repented since this is a new year and I should forgive her as a christian. I insisted that I would have nothing to ever do with her and I completely ignored her calls and text messages since that day until this early morning when I couldn't bear it any longer so I picked her call and she started talking about how she can never do without me, we are soul mates and that she loves me more than anyone else and would want to spend the rest of my life with me.

I told her I already have a new girlfriend which is true( we've been dating for about a month now) and she said it doesn't matter cos she's sure no one can take her place in my life and that I should take her back. That she would never cheat again cos she's more matured now and has truly learnt her lessons. The truth is that I don't love my new girlfriend as much I love my ex. Maybe its because she was my first or maybe because I dated her for about 4yrs I'm not so sure.


I don't want to go back to my ex cos she really hurt me by cheating on me but other than that she was very good to me. Moreover, she's been persistent in calling and texting me and also calling my parents and friends. I know she feels bad for d things she did and that she genuinely loves me. I'm so confused right now about whether I should give her another chance.

I confided in my closest friend and he told me to string her along just for sex sake but that I should eventually dumb her. What do u guys think I should really do?

Slyguy:
Av bin dating my girlfriend for quite a while nw 3 years to b specific...6months into our relationship she read ma watsapp chart of where I was comparing her wt dis chick I really liked...she told me it was over Nd as usual I begged her for like a week b4 she took me back...m her 3 bf by d way..so like a ur into d relationship she went 2 visit friends in anoda school I was so scared cos her ex schools dere so I called her to knw where she was Nd she told me her ex place ..doing wat she said just visiting...BT my mind was troubled I knew something had happened but couldn't prove it. So when she came back I was just making use of her fone wen a text entered saying tanks u made my weekend ...of course I asked Nd she said nothing DAT it was because she cooked for him...I relaxed Nd was very devoted to her BT she won't STP talking abt her ex to me...den a day came wen she confessed to me DAT she actually slept wt d ex ...dis was after I found the packet of postinol 2 in her bag wen I was helping her move to a new house so I asked wat she wanted wt it cos we Dnt use it as usual she denied saying some girl gave it to her to study....after she confessed to MD things has never being same cos I really CNT bring myself to b faithful cos I still av dis nagging feeling DAT she might still cheat. Above all she has a very bad temper she can even disgrace me in public while she's angry...recently I broke things up wt her but she refused to take it...but I Dnt how to go zbt dis relationship cos I think it has been stretched to its limits...pls narialanders honest advice pls

Cutehector:
I will just slap this op nw to receive divine sense...

Peacefulgold:
Op let me give u an example wit myself...i dated a girl for 3yrs,and dis happened 2010 ,I was her first guy and she was a darling all tru,she gained admission yle we were dating,there was a time we spent like 3months before we saw ,but before den she has been acting funny,she came to my house after 3months and she was in no mood for romance,I didn't complain,but I was amazed wen she left d bed around 2am and went off d room,I waited she didn't come back,den I stepped out and found out d sitting room door was open,I stood and was listening to d thrash my girl was saying to anoda guy,d part dat blew my mind was wen she was begging d guy to just tell her he Luvs her so she can sleep,I just walked back to bed,wen she came in I asked her were she was coming from and she said she went to ease herself and I told her to shut up cos I have a toilet in d room,I now told her all I heard her say and I told her it was over ,she started crying and begging,I told her I would have walked her out of my house at dat ungodly hour if not because of d luv I have for her,I also told her dat because of d luv I ave for her and I don't want her more pains dat I wouldn't call back d guy she just called and tell him she is in a guys house ,I told her to go back to school and continue wit d guy,but she kept on begging and even opted to calling d guy in my presence to tell him she was done ,but I grabbed d phone and ended d call,and for dat single act I forgave her rite there,but my guy after some months she came to do her IT in lag,she was staying wit her uncle ,but she works on d island and I happen to also do business on d island,so we c almost everyday after work ,one day she was in my shop wen she picked a call ,but d way she answered d call I was uncomfortable and I had to ask who d guy was and she said its there engineer in their office,,after 2 days a friend called me and asked if I've broken up wit my girl and I was surprised at d question so asked y and he said my girl posted a pics on fb where a guy was carrying her on his laps and even commented d guy was her new crush whom she was considering giving a chance, I was so mad cos she added almost all my friends on fb as her friends mostly d guys and dey all had excess to d pics,so I waited for her to come back from office and I challenged her wit d pics and she said its just a publicity stunt,I warned her and told her to pull d pics down,but she refused,to cut to whole story short she started a relationship wit d guy after all I pleaded wit her,I even had to warn d guy for u to know how much I luved her,my guy it was so impossible for me to let go,but after my best guy talked to me and told me I know I was her first guy dat she will definitely want to taste anoda,dat if I'm better she will come back,so I called her ,wished her luck and moved on,wen she came back 6months lata to mend fences,I've lost all luv for her and I told her I've forgiven her but we can just b friends,she kept on beggin dat we should start again but I've lost it wit her,later I asked her wat happened to d oda guy and she said he left her for her girlfriend...so my guy ,its always very difficult to let go but ur case is beta Dan mine cos u already have a new girl,pls focus on ur new girl and never try to meet ur ex one on one...before u know it u will get over her...it always seem impossible at first but trust me u will get over her .... And if I may chip in ,I'm a comfortable learned business man and dis guy in question is just a salary earner who still lives wit his parents...at times dis girls tink wit there anus...wat doubled my pain was knowing I'm better Dan d guy..so guy just move on...

pxdaniel:


Bros, I really need dat slap o

ethene:

Op I totally understand how u feel cos av been in a similar or close to ur case before. The fact is it is not that easy to let go off her(ur ex) because truly speaking ur feelings for her are genuine. But my advice is don't ever make the mistake of going back to her cos is not worth it and it would never work rather u would get hurt the more. With time u will get over what u are feeling for her though it may take a while, mine took over 4years before I got over it even while I was on another relationship. Mind u that u can never trust her again. Just like u too, in my own case I saw it coming but I was always carried by her tears and begging not until I finally stood my ground. At best both of u could be just friends and nothing more. Lest I forget some one earlier told u that u were too young; that's a fact and that is another reason u are feeling the way u are feeling now and she is taking advantage of it, with time u would get to know how to handle cases like this. Just like u in my case I was younger and she was my first too but now I am more matured and am very happy for the step I took. Don't make the mistake of taking her back as ur gf for anything for ur good and for her good.