bennymark:
You no see her moniker? Dare2differ small sense no dey at all, no waste ur data dey answer unnder 18 wey neva sabi wetin life be, her/him matter go always differ from oda people ownn

keyman0007:
I learnt alot from this thread, it gave me fresh insight about how people see things different.

I think we were both selfish pursuing our thing.

Sha i took the advice of some people and decided to let her be. she can go anyhw to school.

But she came yesterday and said she want to go to LBS, i tried convincing her otherwise but its like her mind is made up.
Let me hear i wasnt happy, but i made it clear she should still think abt it sha.

Last last it what both of you think and believes that matters.

And pls 28 is old all those fathers saying 28 is young shd think twice, i be papa abeg, i finished uni 8 years ago and been working since then. I am over due for marriage, shd even be a daddy by now sef.

Thanks everyone for ur comments.

dare2differ:


Who is this cave man?

When you have daughter, as soon as she starts menstruating thrust her into marriage/. tell her not to strive for anything else lest she starts growing grey hairs.

Now Swerve!

bennymark:
E pain am ooooooo

Kpele

Go buy panadol extra take u hear

dare2differ:
You no get any sense at all

Common o, uncommon o, your brain just big for nothing

bennymark:
You wey get am full bucket who u help? How e take help ur career?

Thank God u knw say my brain big pass ur own, na dat one only go allow me free u

u go grow dada for armpit without husband if yu think say na sense b dis one wey u dey display, abeg show us ur picture sef make I see weda u dey drag age with methuselah, no worry, Linda Ikeji is almost 40 n single, so e no go be only u

keyman0007:
the funny part is the way everyone keeps bashing me like i am a child abuser na wa o.


Her parents never mentioned for ones that their daughter is too young and they know their daughter better.


She is from a well to do family. I went to her house to see her parents, both mum and dad and they were very nice, and we talked . Told them am seeing their daughter, You need to see the drilling i got from her mum, all manner of questions, where do you work? where are your parents? how old are you? hw did you meet her? alot of question ohl!!!

she even gave me some books to read about courtship and preparing for marriage and went as far as reading some part of the book that talked abt requirement for marriage like financially emotionally and spiritually matured.

And since then I have been communicating with them and they have spoken to my folks as well.

She has met my parents too and they know her age and they never for ones said she is too young.

Maybe when i mention marriage to her folks the game may change.

dare2differ:


So Linda is the one that is disrupting your sleep now

You get problem no be small

What about that your aunty na the one that cannot feed herself?

dare2differ:
If you have money, opt for mediocre things over quality things

Chizzy759831:
u needn't quote me. i undastnd ur pain. ur lineage has never produced someone with that degree bfor, so as u c say person wan get am and at a young age too u r feeling like thats wia the world strts from...listen up, in this part of Africa-Nigeria. 22 is old enof to handle a family. how about that ur aunty wey dey select husband till she reach 50?...i just pray u receive sense afta readn this. odawise ur case is Yaba Left

dare2differ:



"22 is not too young. However this issue is within a context of a woman who is willing to do an introduction and finally come back to Nigeria to marry. This is about a woman who favours quality, who knows that foreign certificate will give her an added advantage in the Nigerian job market. This is about a man who wants to get married because of outside influences. Don't be stvpid, woman!!! Learn to have a mind of your own and use the brain God dash you.

You do not have to tell me you are a liability. It is so obvious

Chizzy759831:
Who Quality don help? whether yu bag a degree from nigeria, chad, U.S et all, If the Grace of God has Refused to favour u fogerit... u wey dey talk aw many foreign certificate u get? if u do, who e help? oloriburuku. u want the 22yeard old gurl to go get d certificate cum back so dat u go pursue am till yu marry am, thereby shinibg on her glory. learn not to b stupid mr man. here in Nigeria 22year old can handle a family....#caseyabaleft

dare2differ:


Here is the thing babe, you are highly likely to be better off with a foreign certificate than with a Nigerian certificate. Almost all top officials have got foreign certificates. You see all this big big companies all over the world, their top top personnels get foreign certificates even their Nigerian bred officials sef go go abroad to meet up. Naija education na shit. You are an example of how shitty it is, I no tok say she dey too young to marry, no be the question be dat. The question be say, can op wait for 1-2 years for hin future wife to get a quality education that go help hin family join

You should have gotten the memo by now. You stink of mediocrity. The babe he wants to marry goes all the way, na strong, mature, smart babe. You be none

The mentality is different biko. if you were from a financially stable family, you no go think like a mo.ron

Na jealousy dey worry you. Liability!

Chizzy759831:
eh ya! i so pity ur pity. if u had all d foreign certificates i dont think u will b on nairaland looking for who to quote and say trash to. who made u better as a person with foreign certificate? "it ia nt of him that willeth but of God who shows mercy" yu shud b busy in all ur "big companies" you say jealousy dey worry me ova ma fellow girl, ova marraige abi ova dat ur 50 year old sister wey day waka from church to church dy curse una village witch whearas na she b d witch.? it baffles me to know dat a simpke suggestion i gave to the OP is wah has become ur problem. take heart missta! meanwhile, udon drink ur medicine today? #proudlynaija! #Ilovemadeinnaija. kill yasef.

dare2differ:
Liability!

Chizzy759831:
liability like ur 50year old sista. at least i beta pass am. with all una family foreign cert .put togeda she wont b married. so who is the liability? make sure u take d right dosage of those pills given to u @yabaleft. kill yasef . 22 years old i strong enough to handle a home-kill urself

dare2differ:
Liability!

Chizzy759831:
thats wah u and ur family are. jobless e-goat

dare2differ:
Liability!

Chizzy759831:
jobless e-goat.

dare2differ:
Liability!

Fkforyou:
Anywhere this dare2differ dey na to dey pick fight, I think it makes her feel special. ....you no dey tire? or maybe this is the closest to reality as you can get.







Note: before you say ode am going to say it first.

ODE....

crismark:
all dis niggas goin 4 gals dat re below 26 4 marriage pls wise up....because dey said gals don't av much time b4 dey get married shuldnt make u propose to a 22 yr old gal....it's clear dat she isn't ready nd still too young 4 marriage

Chizzy759831:
liability like ur 50year old sista. at least i beta pass am. with all una family foreign cert .put togeda she wont b married. so who is the liability? make sure u take d right dosage of those pills given to u @yabaleft. kill yasef . 22 years old is strong enough to handle a home-kill urself if e too pain u

Why do ladies like to pretend to be confused, when in the actual sense they know what they are doing, and what they want. It jut so annoying.

So this year i raise the marriage thing with my lady and she is like she wants to go for masters, that i should come see her parents then we do an introduction of some kind and she leaves, I told her a masters in the UK will mean i will wait till December 2017 to get married if she goes to a UK school and maybe 2018 if its a US or canadian school. I told her i am not trying to tie her career down, that why doesnt she go to LBS, since its an MBA she wants to do. I also discussed with my folks who are also desperate and they were like i should forget her she isnt the only lady in the world. what the guarantee if she goes she will not see someone else.

Sha i pulled out of the relationship and began to search again. only for her to come back and say she is sorry, she has reflected about every and that she is ready for marriage. Cos i liked her i dumped all other female admirers i had began to develop relationships with . I told her again about the LBS master and even told her that i am willing to allow her go do her masters oversees after we get married long as her dad will be willing to pay. Or if God blesses me i can sponsor it. She said she is ready for marriage even if i proposed today.


Sha with her change in position i decided to go see her parents in Lagos, the dad was receptive but the mum seem abit tough, wanted to knw what i did for a living and dall that. I then go see her uncle in Abj. I also told my folks she is having a rethink on the masters thing, that soften my parents. I then invited her to my place. She met my parents they really like her. she also met my siblings as well. My father even called her dad self and they seem to have started getting along.

Only for this babe to begin to say she will submit her school application to fulfill all righteousness. Then 2 days back she says i need to go see her folks to make my intentions. Then she is like she thinks she shd go for her masters now and brought the whole introduction story up again. That we should do introduction and then she travels. I told her i think she is trying to trap me, she is trying to trap me, We have been in a relationship for 2 year no kisses, no sex we even rarely hug. i am 28 she is 22. It is either she goes for her masters and then if she is still single when she returns am i also still single then we get married. It is nt heard of, in my culture. She is not even considering doing it in LBS.

We are not talking at the moment.
I am thinking of a way to break this news to my folks. cause they have already started seeing her as my wife.
I have told her i wont move an inch further in the relationship if she cant tell me what indeed her plan her.
it is either she goes overseas or does it in Nigeria and if it is overseas am nt giving any commitment.[/font]

IT just so annoying.