Sometimes last year i met this young lady. We love ourselves so much. Each time we are together, we find happiness. I just cant resist her so i proposed to marry her. I quickly made arrangements to meet the families in lagos and threw it open to them my intentions. They were happy about the move; i bought drinks and prepared delicious foods for the occassion. After all meriments, we departed to our various houses. Since then my fiance has decided to park her lugages and stay with me. I am not against her staying with me; the problem now is that the family in the village want me to come and pay the bride price within the shortest time. The elder brother is raining abuses on me, even threatening the sister to park away from my house. Presently, i am not bouyant enough to carry out such expenses.
Please what is your advice? Should i tell her to leave or allow her to take decisions. I am really confused.

Op ,you shouldn't have allowed a girl you are not married to, move into your house. You've assumed all husband responsibility while she is not yet officially your wife. What i'll advice you to do is this, dont let them push you around, you didn't force their daughter to come leave with you, and she can leave on her own accord, let her brother come and take her if he wants.
Don't get married because you are afraid of losing someone, do it at your own pace!.

Tell her 2 leave nd go back home,you guys are not married yet.what's wrong with these youths nowadays?
You sef no try at all,you are not financially buoyant but harbouring a girl.if she gets pregnant,dat ur love will turn sour.

Please don't accommodate her when you haven't paid her bride price. It is a shame to her and her family.

I think it is better she moves back to her family house until you are financially OK.

Do not put yourself under unnecessary pressure.

Keep her, at your own peril.
So you wanna eat your cake and still have it back...op do the needful before an unimaginable scenario visits you.
#caLLmeBERG

I have said all to pester her and go to her family. She refused. She said it is a shame on her that in short she is not moving an inch. I cant force her to leave. I have seen so many couples staying for some years before performing the marriages rites.

Infatuation and lust is taking a serious place in the lives of our youths today.

Abobo! Listen very well.

1. Go to your house, talk amicably and reasonable with her, 'on why she needs to space from your abode'

2. Any family member pushing you to the walls relax and tell them; 'ogbeni! calm down... Am working on it undisturb.

3. Reduce your communication stylishly with the lady.

Cos from diagnosis, your are suffering from infatuational indiscipline.

Tell the lady to move to her parents hz or she tells d brothers and her family members to stop disturbing u till u re ready..u re even helping d lady by feeding her

onoerime:
I have said all to pester her and go to her family. She refused. She said it is a shame on her that in short she is not moving an inch. I cant force her to leave. I have seen so many couples staying for some years before performing the marriages rites.

First question.

Are you a man on woman?

Who takes decision in the family, as you stated not relationship?


Do you have money for marriage rites?

Is her brother praising or disturbing you?

Finally, do you sleep well without thinking of people not person?


After answering these questions, then do what you wish?

Terry68:
Infatuation and lust is taking a serious place in the lives of our youths today.

Abobo! Listen very well.

1. Go to your house, talk amicably and reasonable with her, 'on why she needs to space from your abode'

2. Any family member pushing you to the walls relax and tell them; 'ogbeni! calm down... Am working on it undisturb.

3. Reduce your communication stylishly with the lady.

Cos from diagnosis, your are suffering from infatuational indiscipline.

maybe you think i am baby. I am 45yrs of age. This has nothing to do with lust. I have seen and date various ladies more than you do

@op, the posters above me have all advised you rightly. So summon the courage to do the needful.

onoerime:
maybe you think i am baby. I am 45yrs of age. This has nothing to do with lust. I have seen and date various ladies more than you do

Take a chill pill, @op. You are here for advice. So don't fight with anyone or things will turn sour for you this afternoon.

onoerime:
maybe you think i am baby. I am 45yrs of age. This has nothing to do with lust. I have seen and date various ladies more than you do

Speechless... But watin delay you all these while?

For being this advance, that lady would not want to step an itch off that house. I bet you. From look of things, if am permitted... She should be above 30.

My brother to be sincere, only you and you alone can counsel yourself o...

Cos you need her even more than she needs you..

You sef for tell me say you no be youth na...

Sorry for my earlier discretion.

Jst because u like a lady u don't knw well about her family u jst rush to tell them yr intentions nd u expect them no wait for another year for introductions proper abeg go pay nd marry. U see trouble go wake am

Terry68:


Speechless... But watin delay you all these while?

For being this advance, that lady would not want to step an itch off that house. I bet you. From look of things, if am permitted... She should be above 30.

My brother to be sincere, only you and you alone can counsel yourself o...

Cos you need her even more than she needs you..

You sef for tell me say you no be youth na...

Sorry for my earlier discretion.

you are correct .she is 35yrs

onoerime:
Sometimes last year i met this young lady. We love ourselves so much. Each time we are together, we find happiness. I just cant resist her so i proposed to marry her. I quickly made arrangements to meet the families in lagos and threw it open to them my intentions. They were happy about the move; i bought drinks and prepared delicious foods for the occassion. After all meriments, we departed to our various houses. Since then my fiance has decided to park her lugages and stay with me. I am not against her staying with me; the problem now is that the family in the village want me to come and pay the bride price within the shortest time. The elder brother is raining abuses on me, even threatening the sister to park away from my house. Presently, i am not bouyant enough to carry out such expenses.
Please what is your advice? Should i tell her to leave or allow her to take decisions. I am really confused.

...is she lightskin?

Smh vigourously!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pray the bride price .
Or return her bck period

if u meant to b it will happen no wahala

halfricanadian:
Smh vigourously!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Pray the bride price .
Or return her bck period

if u meant to b it will happen no wahala

...u fine?..show me yor picture ...sef?

MrCork:



...u fine?..show me yor picture ...sef?

Im nt bothered bou my looks not atall

U can go on instagram ur desired spec is there
Dont bug me

halfricanadian:


Im nt bothered bou my looks not atall

U can go on instagram ur desired spec is there
Dont bug me

...so u sayn u loooklike a man on instantgram? correct?

MrCork:



...so u sayn u loooklike a man on instantgram? correct?

Go take ur drugs honey

halfricanadian:


Go take ur drugs honey

...u chased me last year until i ignore u....now u come up wit atitude like u have class....THIS HOMEBASE VILLAGE GIRLS MENNNNNNN!!(no oofeinse)

MrCork:



...u chased me last year until i ignore u....now u come up wit atitude like u have class....THIS HOMEBASE VILLAGE GIRLS MENNNNNNN!!(no oofeinse)

I'm a village girl thank u

onoerime:
I have said all to pester her and go to her family. She refused. She said it is a shame on her that in short she is not moving an inch. I cant force her to leave. I have seen so many couples staying for some years before performing the marriages rites.

and do U knw the challenges they face wen the marriage rites is not completed. Guy follow the main way

Ladies what are your take on this matter?