Dyt:


Thought you said your last is 24months

24 weeks

oloyede252:
Op i know you are lying but am enjoying your story with live update..

You paid for the house,car,wedding,school fee,groom price etc..wating the man com dey do.sleep and wake up.

If you wanna sell this story.pm me

The man dey impregnate her at any giving opportunity. I read someone advising her to separate rather than divorce, I disagree with that, the Man does not deserve a wife, he should get a goat for a companion. A man that is not responsible for anything in a relationship that all he's good at doing is terrorising the wife does not worth it. Ladies should stop marrying for the sake of just having a man to stay with or to be called a husband, that's why they end up being victims of the marriage, they should marry for companionship.

focus7:
The man dey impregnate her at any giving opportunity. I read someone advising her to separate rather than divorce, I disagree with that, the Man does not deserve a wife, he should get a goat for a companion. A man that is not responsible for anything in a relationship that all he's good at doing is terrorising the wife does not worth it. Ladies should stop marrying for the sake of just having a man to stay with or to be called a husband, that's why they end up being victims of the marriage, they should marry for companionship.

mr man i dont know why you are quoting me but we can add your focus to the story...op come finish your story o..have you moved out?

Op. Read and mediate on @shaybebaby's advice. This is a thousand dollars advice. Even arrange counselors can't give you this first class advice. Obtain freedom, free will,Which even God himself gave to us even when he knows we could chose against him. All I see is people enslaving themselves in the name of marriage. God is more interested in your happiness than the length of your marriage.

Haven't you heard of the word divorce?.Sincerely marriage has been seriously abused, some people just use it as a means to enslave a fellow human
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I know someone in a similar situation, with an irresponsible husband, he couldn't keep a job cos of his lack of sense of responsibility. The woman takes care of the family finances plus home care. Whenever it's time to pay the rent he leaves the house for her and the kids, knowing fully well she'll pay, after she has paid he'll come back. Beats her even in public, even in their Children's school. Took her car from her and use it to carry concubines about. Uses force to take her salary from her. To top it off went to bring a second wife to the house. And this is a man that claims to be a religious leader o. Thank God she is already on the divorce processing, the useless man is now coming with his family members to beg her. Telling her to stay cos of her children.

They'll be telling women to stay in bondage in the guise of marriage. Better to be single and happy than married and suffering in every aspect.

Cheund:

It is painful, really painful. Here I am thinking out my next line of action. My husband slaps and tries to strangle me at any little provocation. Whe he has a date, he looks for a quarrel and sleeps out.

I am tired of both physical and emotional humiliation. I have 3 kids-6/4/24mnths, I bring the food to the house for him and the kids. He works with a private firm but often come back home saying no money. I work for the government and takes care of family bills. The cars in the house are all mine and he drives any at will.

He has no value or respect for family / wife or mother. I am ashamed of complaining to my mum or the church. DON'T SAY HIS MUM OR DAD, he walks out on them and have no respect for anyone.

When you see him out, he looks calm and nice but believe me he is a wolf in sheep clothing.

I have been thinking out what to do when he returns home today. This is 6:33am he left the house since about 10:pm last night without a word to any one. I overheard his mum(she's been with us for Omugwo) asking where he was going to , he ignored her and drove off.

I am tired and thinking out my mind what to do when he returns.

I have no strong bones like him so don't advise I fight him, but I am thinking I should lock the gate and do not allow him in. Pls nairaland family help me out. What should I do?
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so sorry for your predicament. I'm sure you must have seen somebody these behavior and attitude in him before marrying him.

anyway, you need to protect your kids and yourself from harm.

if you can relocate to another country or state and start afresh, that would be good.

if he finds you though, he might kill you. that's why I advice out of the country. remain incommunicado with him for a while, maybe he will come back to his senses.

nyben4eva:
Try to have a heart to heart discussion with him,ask him what you've done wrong to deserve all he does to you.Most times,women are the cause of their problems.You might have offended him without knowing and he finds it very difficult to forgive you.Search yourself very well,the answer to your problem might be in your hands.

Fnvyvat pbagvahe, jub tbrf gurer

oloyede252:
mr man i dont know why you are quoting me but we can add your focus to the story...op come finish your story o..have you moved out?

Tell me where I have gone wrong for quoting you.

Cheund, please never confront him with separation or divorce. If you do, you are at more risk of grievous bodily harm, death and increased and more frequent abuse. It is a proven statistical fact.

Can you please take shaybebaby's advice? It is positive and inspiring. If at all you want a family meeting, do it when you are not staying with him. Don't ever accept responsibility for whatever that he did. Don't allow any family member including your siblings and mother to speak you into living with a violent man. Remember that your children may end up seeing his behaviour as normal and carry on with the cycle of abuse therefore it is up to you to ensure that it stops. You should be able to get a restraining or a non-molestation order from the court if you do not want to leave the house for him.


Shaybebaby, you will make a good psychologist

Acidosis:
@Cheund
When did this whole thing started? after your 3rd child? 2nd child?

Are your kids all female?

Have you ever lied to him? about your age? virginity?

Did you beg him to marry you?

Do you have an elder brother/uncle?

Why don't you threaten him with a divorce, and watch his reaction?

Why don't you drop a fake divorce paper/file/appraisal on the Table, or any other place he could see it? On sighting that, the fear of poverty and homelessness would make him run to you to ask questions.

Pls note, never be scared to divorce anyone. You're only 32, young and beautiful. Many men would see you, 'toast' you, and treat you like an angel that you are. Never be scared of loneliness! No man loves divorce, the fear of starting over again would make him search for the love he used to share with you, especially now that he has 3 kids.

Do all this, and come back with results. BTW, if you need a fake divorce appraisal, you could get it easily.

D2diff:
Cheund, please never confront him with separation or divorce. If you do, you are at more risk of grievous bodily harm, death and increased and more frequent abuse. It is a proven statistical fact.

Can you please take shaybebaby's advice? It is positive and inspiring. If at all you want a family meeting, do it when you are not staying with him. Don't ever accept responsibility for whatever that he did. Don't allow any family member including your siblings and mother to speak you into living with a violent man. Remember that your children may end up seeing his behaviour as normal and carry on with the cycle of abuse therefore it is up to you to ensure that it stops. You should be able to get a restraining or a non-molestation order from the court if you do not want to leave the house for him.


Shaybebaby, you will make a good psychologist

You flatter me, thank you very much for the compliment.

TinyIslamic92:
Fnvyvat pbagvahe, jub tbrf gurer

AN ZR,AN ZR.FNVYVAT CNYREZB SEVTNGR.

nyben4eva:


AN ZR,AN ZR.FNVYVAT CNYREZB SEVTNGR.

Alonso h arire rpub zr he qrpx anzr

utenwuson:
ds is disheartening! Just divorce him, don't let d niccur drive ur car n stil strangle u! jst divorce the lazy goat

He will still benefit that car from the divorce

HaneefahRN:
Haven't you heard of the word divorce?.Sincerely marriage has been seriously abused, some people just use it as a means to enslave a fellow human
.


I know someone in a similar situation, with an irresponsible husband, he couldn't keep a job cos of his lack of sense of responsibility. The woman takes care of the family finances plus home care. Whenever it's time to pay the rent he leaves the house for her and the kids, knowing fully well she'll pay, after she has paid he'll come back. Beats her even in public, even in their Children's school. Took her car from her and use it to carry concubines about. Uses force to take her salary from her. To top it off went to bring a second wife to the house. And this is a man that claims to be a religious leader o. Thank God she is already on the divorce processing, the useless man is now coming with his family members to beg her. Telling her to stay cos of her children.

They'll be telling women to stay in bondage in the guise of marriage. Better to be single and happy than married and suffering in every aspect.

Just like that? You think marriage will always feel like the first spark always? If you want a perfect relationship, get a dog. You think its childplay to live with another human being when its hard sometimes to live with oneself

D2diff:
Cheund, please never confront him with separation or divorce. If you do, you are at more risk of grievous bodily harm, death and increased and more frequent abuse. It is a proven statistical fact.

Can you please take shaybebaby's advice? It is positive and inspiring. If at all you want a family meeting, do it when you are not staying with him. Don't ever accept responsibility for whatever that he did. Don't allow any family member including your siblings and mother to speak you into living with a violent man. Remember that your children may end up seeing his behaviour as normal and carry on with the cycle of abuse therefore it is up to you to ensure that it stops. You should be able to get a restraining or a non-molestation order from the court if you do not want to leave the house for him.


Shaybebaby, you will make a good psychologist

Who is talking about beating here, she never for once said he is violent ; every issue in marriage is now violet Abi? How are we sure this woman is not abusive at home since she's bold enough to say she feeds him here

Did you miss the slaps and the strangling part?


And it is wrong to say you feed a man, why? Don't men count it against greedy and ungrateful women or what exactly are you trying to say? Tell me, who on earth doesn't use that line to score cheap points evena father can use the same line on a child not to mention husband to wife or wife to husband. How has it reduce what makes the husband a man?


I know you are looking for trouble but I don't have your time today!

9ja4show:


Who is talking about beating here, she never for once said he is violent ; every issue in marriage is now violet Abi? How are we sure this woman is not abusive at home since she's bold enough to say she feeds him here

You can tell this to your daughters or sisters in abusive homes

Misogynist!

9ja4show:


Just like that? You think marriage will always feel like the first spark always? If you want a perfect relationship, get a dog. You think its childplay to live with another human being when its hard sometimes to live with oneself

oloyede252:
Op i know you are lying but am enjoying your story with live update..

You paid for the house,car,wedding,school fee,groom price etc..wating the man com dey do.sleep and wake up.

If you wanna sell this story.pm me

someone is pouring out her heart with pain and all you can say is this, na WA o, if you don't AV any advice for her, then u zip it

9ja4show:


Who is talking about beating here, she never for once said he is violent ; every issue in marriage is now violet Abi? How are we sure this woman is not abusive at home since she's bold enough to say she feeds him here

She did mention being strangled though, not sure how that does not equate violence.

D2diff:

Did you miss the slaps and the strangling part?


And it is wrong to say you feed a man, why? Don't men count it against greedy and ungrateful women or what exactly are you trying to say? Tell me, who on earth doesn't use that line to score cheap points evena father can use the same line on a child not to mention husband to wife or wife to husband. How has it reduce what makes the husband a man?


I know you are looking for trouble but I don't have your time today!

I don't have time to spare either, you must be an abusive woman , I just pray for that innocent man who will put you in his house.

D2diff:
You can tell this to your daughters or sisters in abusive homes

Misogynist!

When you get married and you go about bragging how u feed a man, we will be here when he beats you black and blue ...ediot.

I am very abusive. I don't have time for stvpid people who have chosen to be biased, unreasonable, selective and sexist.



I pity the unfortunate woman that will end up in your house.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

9ja4show:


I don't have time to spare either, you must be an abusive woman , I just pray for that innocent man who will put you in his house.

9ja4show:


Just like that? You think marriage will always feel like the first spark always? If you want a perfect relationship, get a dog. You think its childplay to live with another human being when its hard sometimes to live with oneself

What is this one saying? Give this same advice to your daughter when her husband beats and tries to strangle her. There is no perfect marriage but it is stupidity staying where your life is threatened.

Cheund:

It is painful, really painful. Here I am thinking out my next line of action. My husband slaps and tries to strangle me at any little provocation. Whe he has a date, he looks for a quarrel and sleeps out.

I am tired of both physical and emotional humiliation. I have 3 kids-6/4/24mnths, I bring the food to the house for him and the kids. He works with a private firm but often come back home saying no money. I work for the government and takes care of family bills. The cars in the house are all mine and he drives any at will.

He has no value or respect for family / wife or mother. I am ashamed of complaining to my mum or the church. DON'T SAY HIS MUM OR DAD, he walks out on them and have no respect for anyone.

When you see him out, he looks calm and nice but believe me he is a wolf in sheep clothing.

I have been thinking out what to do when he returns home today. This is 6:33am he left the house since about 10:pm last night without a word to any one. I overheard his mum(she's been with us for Omugwo) asking where he was going to , he ignored her and drove off.

I am tired and thinking out my mind what to do when he returns.

I have no strong bones like him so don't advise I fight him, but I am thinking I should lock the gate and do not allow him in. Pls nairaland family help me out. What should I do?
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Op; I don't support violence against women but don't listen to women telling you to divorce , if you check them out you will see they cant even keep a boyfriend not to talk of husband...I know you provide for the family but don't override your husband cos of that, you should let him take the wheel sometimes , there is nothing wrong with you providing for your family... a man ego have no cure ooh

D2diff:
I am very abusive. I don't have time for stvpid people who have chosen to be biased, unreasonable, selective and sexist.



I pity the unfortunate woman that will end up in your house.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

I'm thinking that is how he treats his wife. So all the fingers point at him.

Is that how you beat your gf/wife? You must think I am like one of the mor.ons you surround yourself with?

I shouldn't have replied you the first time. My mistake

9ja4show:


When you get married and you go about bragging how u feed a man, we will be here when he beats you black and blue ...ediot.

Imagine the nonsense he is spitting

Would the woman have mentioned the feeding part without a genuine reason? As if most people do not everyone mention it when they feel betrayed and diassapointed with the recipient. The only issue that thing could concentrate on was turning the feeding part to a gender thing


This forum don tire me. Bunch of idiots running around.

HaneefahRN:



I'm thinking that is how he treats his wife. So all the fingers point at him.

D2diff:
I am very abusive. I don't have time for stvpid people who have chosen to be biased, unreasonable, selective and sexist.



I pity the unfortunate woman that will end up in your house.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

You will end up all by yourself which is not a bad thing you know, push your husband to the wall and receive the reward...i love good women and i am very selective.

Shouts out to all beautiful,hard-working women out there who will not go about telling people how she feeds her man...(You will sure get a slap for that kind of abuse).

D2diff:
I am very abusive. I don't have time for stvpid people who have chosen to be biased, unreasonable, selective and sexist.



I pity the unfortunate woman that will end up in your house.

Good riddance to bad rubbish

You will end up all by yourself which is not a bad thing you know, push your husband to the wall and receive the reward...i love good women and i am very selective.

Shouts out to all beautiful,hard-working women out there who will not go about telling people how she feeds her man...(You will sure get a slap for that kind of abuse)

How is she overriding her husband?

What stvpid ego? Do you also think you have an ego?

Wonders shall never end.

9ja4show:


Op; I don't support violence against women but don't listen to women telling you to divorce , if you check them out you will see they cant even keep a boyfriend not to talk of husband...I know you provide for the family but don't override your husband cos of that, you should let him take the wheel sometimes , there is nothing wrong with you providing for your family... a man ego have no cure ooh

D2diff:
Is that how you beat your gf/wife? You must think I am like one of the mor.ons you surround yourself with?

I shouldn't have replied you the first time. My mistake

You made a good decision to reply me because you need some morals..You think abuse is only when you slap and beat up someone ? You go about telling people that your husband can't provide for you and you expect him to not reply you with a slap

Bla bla bla

What would enter your brain that would make you to even dare touch me?

Fvck off! I don't have time for senseless people.

9ja4show:


You will end up all by yourself which is not a bad thing you know, push your husband to the wall and receive the reward...i love good women and i am very selective.

Shouts out to all beautiful,hard-working women out there who will not go about telling people how she feeds her man...(You will sure get a slap for that kind of abuse)