D2diff:
Imagine the nonsense he is spitting

Would the woman have mentioned the feeding part without a genuine reason? As if most people do not everyone mention it when they feel betrayed and diassapointed with the recipient. The only issue that thing could concentrate on was turning the feeding part to a gender thing


This forum don tire me. Bunch of idiots running around.

You can say that again

Are you jinxed? If you feel like beating up someone, Go home! Your mother and sister are waiting to be taught

9ja4show:


You made a good decision to reply me because you need some morals..You think abuse is only when you slap and beat up someone ? You go about telling people that your husband can't provide for you and you expect him to not reply you with a slap

9ja4show:


You made a good decision to reply me because you need some morals..You think abuse is only when you slap and beat up someone ? You go about telling people that your husband can't provide for you and you expect him to not reply you with a slap

Go get a job if you can't feed your wife. Stop disturbing us here with nonsense. Later they'll start jumping from thread to thread calling women liabilities and gold diggers.

igbonla:
@OP, please leave that guy ASAP. You already got some good advice on the planning, waiting for 7 years hoping he would change has cost you a lot but you don't know yet. Kids should grow in an environment filled with love not hostility, you would leave if you love your kids and yourself.

Separation is good, as it will afford him the opportunity to seek help but you need to spell out the terms of the marriage after you leave and let him know that he must see a psychologist for some clean up. You are better off staying away from him if he would not be willing to follow through the "treatment" to make him human again.

Don't know if you have brothers or other men in the family, this is the time to open up and get some support that will build your confidence to take action. Do not delay!

I wanted to talk about opening up to her brothers or uncles for support until I saw your post.... OP for your own good leave the man you call your husband o before he does the unthinkable.... I don't think I can allow any man in the name of marriage physically abuse any female relative of mine when he's not mad

remioshy:
someone is pouring out her heart with pain and all you can say is this, na WA o, if you don't AV any advice for her, then u zip it

pouring out her lie..anyway my advice to her is that we can make this story a reality...what your own advice

HaneefahRN:



Go get a job if you can't feed your wife. Stop disturbing us here with nonsense. Later they'll start jumping from thread to thread calling women liabilities and gold diggers.

see who is saying one is jumping from one thread to the other.anyway dont you have any story similar to this maybe your sister,mother etc..cos you always have a story[lie] to tell

oloyede252:
see who is saying one is jumping from one thread to the other.anyway dont you have any story similar to this maybe your sister,mother etc..cos you always have a story[lie] to tell

I can swear it, every story I tell are true life stories. I am not the type that lies and unlike many I seek to learn from other people's experiences and mistakes which makes me more mature than lots of people to relate with issues.


Maintain your lane. I don't like you and that's why I don't ever quote you.

D2diff:
Are you jinxed? If you feel like beating up someone, Go home! Your mother and sister are waiting to be taught

My mother didn't raise no beater ; you are just a fustrated fellow ,get yourself a boyfriend and don't push too hard thinking he is made of steel, you will get slapped.

HaneefahRN:



Go get a job if you can't feed your wife. Stop disturbing us here with nonsense. Later they'll start jumping from thread to thread calling women liabilities and gold diggers.

There are still alot of strong hardworking ladies out there that show love unconditionally if you dont know of any try and be one ok.

HaneefahRN:



I can swear it, every story I tell are true life stories. I am not the type that lies and unlike many I seek to learn from other people's experiences and mistakes which makes me more mature than lots of people to relate with issues.


Maintain your lane. I don't like you and that's why I don't ever quote you.

are you phychologically okay?cos you seem to have expirenced all nagative stories.pls change your enviroment or people close to you so that you can have good story to tell....[i knw you lying and i need to encourage you..ewu]



you dont like me why? this the second time am qouting you so i dnt get you disliking me...quit hating gal.

9ja4show:


There are still alot of strong hardworking ladies out there that show love unconditionally if you dont know of any try and be one ok.

You are not fit to give me an advice, thanks.

So what's the work of the husband in the home?

9ja4show:


Op; I don't support violence against women but don't listen to women telling you to divorce , if you check them out you will see they cant even keep a boyfriend not to talk of husband...I know you provide for the family but don't override your husband cos of that, you should let him take the wheel sometimes , there is nothing wrong with you providing for your family... a man ego have no cure ooh

oloyede252:
are you phychologically okay?cos you seem to have expirenced all nagative stories.pls change your enviroment or people close to you so that you can have good story to tell....[i knw you lying and i need to encourage you..ewu]



you dont like me why? this the second time am qouting you so i dnt get you disliking me...quit hating gal.

I can tell you I am psychologically healthier than you. I see both positive and negative experiences and only share these experiences to buttress my points and share with other people. You can chose to believe or not, I could care less.


I repeat I don't like you. I see you around and don't seem to make sense much so I rather ignore you.

HaneefahRN:



I can tell you I am psychologically healthier than you. I see both positive and negative experiences and only share these experiences to buttress my points and share with other people. You can chose to believe or not, I could care less.


I repeat I don't like you. I see you around and don't seem to make sense much so I rather ignore you.

ok continue




lols.am here to have fun,you are here to tell story and if you dont see sense in it then you are senseless....i wanna start liking you since you dislike me that much.hello bea i like you like you i like you wu.you are the woman of my need the person to tell me stories..l like you wu..to be continue

oloyede252:
ok continue




lols.am here to have fun,you are here to tell story and if you dont see sense in it then you are senseless....i wanna start liking you since you dislike me that much.hello bea i like you like you i like you wu.you are the woman of my need the person to tell me stories..l like you wu..to be continue

Ok, now I grab, having fun on NL usually involves being silly.
Sure, even a mad man will call sane people mad.

Na you sabi

HaneefahRN:



Ok, now I grab, having fun on NL usually involves being silly.
Sure, even a mad man will call sane people mad.

Na you sabi

telling stories usually involves lies which can make the storymama silly,even a mad man will recognize a lie told by a silly person.


Modified
I was liking you till i saw your dp.....sorry ma e ma binu...

cococandy:
So what's the work of the husband in the home?

Go and sit down and learn , you think life Is rosy all the time ! Some People lose thier job everyday and their good wife supports without anyone else knowing, even the kids will not be aware its their mother's money they spending.

oloyede252:
telling stories usually involves lies which can make the storymama silly,even a mad man will recognize a lie told by a silly person.


Modified
I was liking you till i saw your dp.....sorry ma e ma binu...

If you make up stories and tell lies, sorry we aren't all like that. You are really starting to irk me.



Lolz. I love this p.pix

9ja4show:


Go and sit down and learn , you think life Is rosy all the time ! Some People lose thier job everyday and their good wife supports without anyone else knowing, even the kids will not be aware its their mother's money they spending.

Na only question I ask o.

Instead of answering me you're telling me to go sit down. How will I learn if you don't teach me.

So again. What's the work of the husband in the marriage.
And why shouldn't the kids know their mom also provides for them. Is it a crime for her to be acknowledged for her hard work?

HaneefahRN:


If you make up stories and tell lies, sorry we aren't all like that. You are really starting to irk me.



Lolz. I love this p.pix

lolz.i dont tell story

mine or yours

HaneefahRN:


If you make up stories and tell lies, sorry we aren't all like that. You are really starting to irk me.



Lolz. I love this p.pix

lolz.i dont tell story and all this is getting boring

mine or yours...

cococandy:

Na only question I ask o.

Instead of answering me you're telling me to go sit down. How will I learn if you don't teach me.

So again. What's the work of the husband in the marriage.
And why shouldn't the kids know their mom also provides for them. Is it a crime for her to be acknowledged for her hard work?

It's obvious you will never learn..run along girl

9ja4show:


It's obvious you will never learn..run along girl

What a good teacher you are.

Op what actions have you taken already? Have you started planning your move out?

1 question: why are u still in this marriage even with all the physical abuse going on? What right does he have to treat u the way he does and strangle you at every provocation. Like u said, u have ur money, u bring food to the table... File for divorce and move on! I don't believe u have anything to lose! As for the kids, you both can have custody agreements set up by the court

Cheund:
All comments and views are highly appreciated. He just came back now, and his mum opened the house for him. I am speechless and with no strength to confront him after reading your comments.
His mother came in asking me to forgive him. What should I do or shouldn't do. I have been doing my best to keep my home and honestly, I am about giving up hope.
How long will this continues? I am bearing all these because of my children, my mum and younger ones and my place of work. They look up to and expect much from me. What should i do or shouldn't I do?

I am gradually getting frustrated and losing focus and inspiration from my around me. I will be 32 by late this year, with a promising career and viable business I do from the comfort of my home just to augment govt salary.

I need stability mentally and emotionally and my hubby is threatening all these by his attitude.

I am thinking about quitting the marriage but don't know if it's right at this time and I am also scared about the other phase of life.

Like I previously advised, your health and peace of mind should be your number one priority. File for seperation or divorce and don't look back. You deserve better

raumdeuter:
Op what actions have you taken already? Have you started planning your move out?

Move out fire. She just wanted her husband home ni chikenan, she is moving no where. They probably had a stormy love making session which normally follows this beatings and cheating cases. She has probably forgotten she even wrote a post that got Nairaland women all fired up.

Any woman who wants to leave a bad relationship doesn't go writing long epistles asking for advice online, most of these women just want to whine and return to status quo. They will return to their abusive cheating husbands while nairalanders will be busy doing gender war

Get out now.

Eketem:
Move out fire. She just wanted her husband home ni chikenan, she is moving no where. They probably had a stormy love making session which normally follows this beatings and cheating cases. She has probably forgotten she even wrote a post that got Nairaland women all fired up.

Any woman who wants to leave a bad relationship doesn't go writing long epistles asking for advice online, most of these women just want to whine and return to status quo. They will return to their abusive cheating husbands while nairalanders will be busy doing gender war

What you have said is the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth

"move with your kids..." is it not equally his own children?