[Single Couples Only: doesn't apply to married or pre-relationship stage]

This is not about those guys that hit women, there is never a good reason for a man to lay his hands on his woman, if not in self defence. We all hear about those boyfriends who always seem bothered about that your hot male bestie or the random guys that text at 2am, or even bad female friends and what not, we call these men various names like Jealous-Lover, Possessive boyfriend, and are often judged as insecure big babies.

In reality, these sorts of guys may not be insecure, they may have great plans for their future and see a picture of you in it and don't want to see that dream shattered especially if the girl is the carefree type, some relationships have gotten to marriage stage only to find out their partner just got an unwanted pregnancy from a one night stand with one of her flings, or an incurable disease. Notwithstanding, these men should realise they do not own the lady and she is free to do whatever she wants with her life. But in most cases, these men are so trapped in their own futuristic thinking that they may not even realise how overbearing they have become.

Some other guys might trust and not poke nose in your affairs with people, however, its clear when a guy simply isn't bothered about your flings and/or even encourages them, if you are intimate with such a person, the following may be the reasons why.

The easiest way a guy would never care what you do is if:

1. He is a cheat himself (player) or you are the side chick:

This one is easy, the guy has his own madam or one too many sex partners to bother about your flings.

2. He doesn't plan to marry you in the future:

If the guy never even imagined a ring on your finger, he would care less how many Ds have been there now and in the future before he has to wife you, cos he never will.

3. He doesn't love you:

You are just his booty call when ever he needs to get laid and he doesn't mind if you play around as long as you are available when he needs to get down.

4. You are the flirty gf:

He might have loved you initially but later realised you are the die hard flirt who would sleep with an ape-man if it would get you ahead in life. And he has stopped bothering about stalking you around because he knows you would never change. Instead of leaving the relationship with dignity, he stays put, especially if she is good in bed, but usually only because of that.

5. He is not investing in you:

From Bride price to School fees to recharge card, the capacity of guys pockets differ, when a guy spends more money on his girlfriend than he can on himself, to him it is an investment, depending on how much he feels he has invested in you, he would become jealous when other guys want to do more than just admire you. Take this example: You go to the market and there is this piece of cloth material that has been hanging outside a store for a long time, no one even takes note of it. You pick it up and spend hours designing, tailoring and embroidering it until it becomes a very wonderful dress, now you keep it outside and people sneak around trying to steal it. If the guy isn't trying to guard the dress, he might not have put in a lot of work into the design or doesn't fancy it that much.

Note to Genuine Ladies dating Jerks:
Not every guy that exhibits the above is truly not interested, and I know not every lady is a flirt, but the truth is most genuine guys would be jealous if you behave like a flirt with people around, if he doesn't seem jealous, he may be suppressing it or trusts you not to take it too far, but the truth is if you spot no atom of jealousy whatsoever, he might be one of the guys above. And if he is, its best you leave because there might not be a future for both of you.


Note to the Genuine Guys dating flirts:
The truth is, not every lady that acts like a flirt is actually one, they might just be bored. Its easy to spot most ladies who fit the category of b*tch type, cos they mostly don't hide the fact that they are with you just to climb the social ladder and attract the guy on the next floor up. When you meet most of them, they look plain like that cloth material. When you date her, you brush her up, and she naturally becomes happy from all the love you show her and consequently, irresistible to other guys that were not admiring her before (like a finished product). All of a sudden, she starts to think she has outgrown/outclassed you because she is now getting more attention from those same guys that she could not previously even say 'hi' to and get a response. B*tch-type girls go for the highest bidder anytime anyday, so if you are the jealous type, do not p*mp a girl up if you cant afford to match her new class, when you cant keep up anymore, they move on. If you complain, they say you are insecure or possessive. Take a cue from Tee-bill's situation. No lady naturally wants a man she is better than. The minute she gets ahead, she starts looking for a potential bigger boy.

https://askbravo..co.uk/2016/05/five-reasons-why-your-boyfriend-may.html

1st nonsense I'm reading dis kain early momo

who is this one?can't someone just sleep peacefully in here nd not get disturbed?

The Op is 100% right.

I see

OP u try....i gat some!

(1) because he doesnt know weather you cheats on him
(2) he doesnt know weather his love is good enough
(3) he doesnt know what he wants!
(4) when he is a learner!
(5) an introvert!!

........

Honestly he is.

Kingsasian:
The Op is 100% right.

some don't have time for that shit . i have other important things to worry about.