I have to now contend that a marriage I attended last year, filled with joy and plump is finally over. Chidi never expected to be a divorcee and am sure neither did tolani. Yet all our pleas to him to forgive and forget fell on deaf ears. Not because he didn't forgive, but he could not forget.


I remember my reason for not visiting this fellow any longer, I couldn't understand the lack of boundaries his wife displays. Unto say I no wan make mistake nack my padi wife, I had to keep off and lie I am never in town. I always had this thinking that something was amiss, till the unpalatable story of him seeing sperms in her buttocks when he tried having a quick sex one day, apparently she was having an office affair and never cleaned up properly on the said day he tried to have a quickie. She later confessed and all but it appears that on the day in question she denied everything flatly. Chidi will always point to that denial and swear it was due to God's grace he didn't strangle her. He could touch another man's sperm on his wife and yet she was denying it.

I tried to make him see reasons that she was scared and its human nature to deny at such moment , and if after a year he could get past the sex part, why couldn't he just let go of the denial part. Today dat marriage has officially ended. Tolani changed during the past year of their issues, the once bubbly and flirty woman did everything to see that her marriage was salvageable. Yet her unfortunate past ruined her. To cheat could be devil's work but to lie about cheating is definitely man's work.

Its a deliberate ploy to decieve, to humiliate, to outsmart and denigrate a loved one. I understand my buddy though, even if I feel he forgave the sex but not the deception , and that he might regret that since I can confirm that she turned a new leaf.

What hurts the most and why exactly........ The sex ? Or the accompanying lying and deception. Even both

the lying and deception hurts most nt the sex

Trust

sex and imagination of how it happened...

The sex first.. I'm closer to STDs with that. The deception is not something new to me lol. I've been lied to over and over I've come to that stage where I just believe people cos I HV to for the mean time only to find out over time for sure for sure.

Both of them is damn painful .Extra marital affair KILLS AND DESTROYS .BE WARNED

To have someone u care abt not give a damn abt u. Coz once someone cheats, means dey dnt realy care abt u dat much

Vikky014:
the lying and deception hurts most nt the sex

I thought dat was a male thing. Guess women feel the same about the lies too

both hurts

Eddygourdo:
I thought dat was a male thing. Guess women feel the same about the lies too

i so much hate lies eh. it is better to tell me the truth despite dt it hurts than to deceive and lie to me. y shld i think abt d sex who sex epp

Oh my gosh she catches me red handed cheating on her and I deny flatly to her dat I don't knw what she is talkn about? Ryt?







Lord even knws I will die dat night

The deception of the sneaky toad To be double-crossed is the most painful & the most infuriating thing ever. It makes me almost epileptic with fury (the shakes) because you feel like such a dummy. It's humiliating.

The sex is not much of an issue with me. It's his D after all. He just wont be sharing it with the world while with me. Full stop. It's disrespectful.

Vikky014:
i so much hate lies eh. it is better to tell me the truth despite dt it hurts than to deceive and lie to me. y shld i think abt d sex who sex epp

funny. Truthful e no epp anyone. Though for std purposes and hiv it should be monogamous

donbenedict:
Oh my gosh she catches me red handed cheating on her and I deny flatly to her dat I don't knw what she is talkn about? Ryt?







Lord even knws I will die dat night

hahahahaha funny u

PunkyV:
The deception of the sneaky toad To be double-crossed is the most painful & the most infuriating thing ever. It makes me almost epileptic with fury (the shakes) because you feel like such a dummy. It's humiliating.

The sex is not much of an issue with me. It's his D after all. He just wont be sharing it with the world while with me. Full stop. It's disrespectful.

am guessing both could hurt you in equal measure

I must call smellinganus, seems he can relate to this..( a lil bit)

rubbish, imagine your girlfriend you live in the same compound with bringing in a man and spend the night with him in the full view of your compound people, then you would know what pain is, even God does not forgive all sins yet i forgave and she did worse. that was a big mistake on my part.

Eddygourdo:
funny. Truthful e no epp anyone. Though for std purposes and hiv it should be monogamous

yes u r right

abouzaid:
rubbish, imagine your girlfriend you live in the same compound with bringing in a man and spend the night with him in the full view of your compound people, then you would know what pain is, even God does not forgive all sins yet i forgave and she did worse. that was a big mistake on my part.

what a public disgrace. You tried in forgiving such. With a gun to me head, I won't forgive such a woman oh

PunkyV:
The deception of the sneaky toad To be double-crossed is the most painful & the most infuriating thing ever. It makes me almost epileptic with fury (the shakes) because you feel like such a dummy. It's humiliating.

The sex is not much of an issue with me. It's his D after all. He just wont be sharing it with the world while with me. Full stop. It's disrespectful.

Does that mean he has to as a matter of rule swear down he'll stick with you before he has his way with you? You talking deception as if he has promised for better for worse on the altar.

Eddygourdo:
am guessing both could hurt you in equal measure

Not the sex much.

pinceprinz:
Does that mean he has to as a matter of rule swear down he'll stick with you before he has his way with you? You talking deception as if he has promised for better for worse on the altar.

I just EXPECT people to have a moral compass & be decent, is all. I don't expect oaths, I just expect them to know right from wrong. Finish. If he doesnt understand that, then he shouldnt be with me. End of.

PunkyV:


I just EXPECT people to have a moral compass & be decent, is all. I don't expect oaths, I just expect them to know right from wrong. Finish. If he doesnt understand that, then he shouldnt be with me. End of.

If that's the case, then its not the deception; actually your standards . All I can infer from your piece. You want a unidirectional as.shole who don't do two. Hope you'll meet up with all of his fantasies? He won't have any excuses at that ykno?

Eddygourdo:
what a public disgrace. You tried in forgiving such. With a gun to me head, I won't forgive such a woman oh

believe me,if i tell you the full gist,you would deliver a dirty slap to my face for been such w weakling, love is indeed a weakness.

KashyBaby:
I must call smellinganus, seems he can relate to this..( a lil bit)

sweetheart to me is the lie that follows the cheatt that hurts me more... I can get married to LovePeddler but to to a foolish liar...

PunkyV:


I just EXPECT people to have a moral compass & be decent, is all. I don't expect oaths, I just expect them to know right from wrong. Finish. If he doesnt understand that, then he shouldnt be with me. End of.

if you really meant what you wrote, then can we be friends?

pinceprinz:

If that's the case, then its not the deception; actually your standards . All I can infer from your piece. You want a unidirectional as.shole who don't do two. Hope you'll meet up with all of his fantasies? He won't have any excuses at that ykno?

LOL, well it's the whole package. I'm really sensitive to betrayal & yes, I also have very rigid principles. If he thinks I dont meet his fantasies, then I prefer he leaves than do sneaky shìt behind my back. That gets to me like nothing else.

PunkyV:


LOL, well it's the whole package. I'm really sensitive to betrayal & yes, I also have very rigid principles. If he thinks I dont meet his fantasies, then I prefer he leaves than do sneaky shìt behind my back. That gets to me like nothing else.

Oh OK, Till you meet the robot that'll meet all your specifications anyway...

the sex is the painful part, cos it'll be difficult to continue having sex with my hubby ooo, what of the disease he might give me

pinceprinz:


Oh OK, Till you meet the robot that'll meet all your specifications anyway...

I'm already one step ahead, I dont need a relationship to feel whole so whether the "robot" does exist or not, it'll always be rainbows & lollipops in Punkyville

abouzaid:
if you really meant what you wrote, then can we be friends?

Of course

PunkyV:


LOL, well it's the whole package. I'm really sensitive to betrayal & yes, I also have very rigid principles. If he thinks I dont meet his fantasies, then I prefer he leaves than do sneaky shìt behind my back. That gets to me like nothing else.

its like u my twin

We av d same brain mindset nd approach to life