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Women View Men The Way Men View Women by Nobody: 12:08am On May 24, 2016 |
I don't speak for all men and I am not
saying all women behave a certain way.
Keep in mind that this is my first myTake.
To clarify things, I am straight
(Heterosexual).
I know the type of attraction isn't
restricted to a certain gender. Most of us
have heard people say that "Men are visual
creatures" implying that women don't find
men attractive in the same way. The media
and society wants us to think that men are
easily sexually aroused just by the sight of
a attractive woman. Society and media also
wants us to think women only care about a
man's personality and what he can do(how
strong he is, how many skills he has etc).
Personally I disagree with society on this
part.
Don't get me wrong, there are days I
wonder if women actually look at us men
like we look at women, but eventually after
analyzing the behavior of women I know
and asking questions here, I am more
convinced that women do check us out.
You are probably laughing at me and
thinking "You wish". There is a catch
though.
Most of the women that replied to my
questions said that while they do check
men out, they do it subtly. Women know
when is the right time to check a man out.
Here is were society comes into play,
society still shuns women who actually
ogle men. Society labels them rude names.
On the other hand not every man ogles
women. Men like myself actually care for
both a emotional connection and physical
attraction in a woman. It's like this, a type
of smoothie isn't a smoothie if you omit
the milk or another ingredient. Same goes
for when it comes to attraction to a
woman, if I only find the woman physically
attractive but abhor her personality, there
is no way that I will consider dating her.
Same goes the other way around, I might
think she is a very polite woman but if I
don't find her physically attractive I still
won't date her, because just like the
smoothie she is missing one of the
components/ingredients. From most of the
opinions I got(I know they don't speak for
every woman, I am just going by the
majority) Women tend to feel the same,
that they need like his personality, feel
emotionally attached to him and obviously
find him physically attractive to consider
dating him.
More proof that women can be visual
(personal experiences and opinions from
women on my questions) is the occasions
when a man that is considered physically
attractive is present in front of women, all
the women tend to start whispering to
each other "Oh my gosh, he is so hot!" and
they start talking about kinky things the
women want to do to the man.
While a lot men tend to look at the breasts
and buttocks of a woman(I prefer the
female abdomen and navel) at least in this
society, Women also look at certain body
parts of a man(mostly arms, abdomen and
buttocks) also a social experiment was
done to determine if women also checked
out a man's body, the experiment(which
many of you might have seen) involved a
man wearing a crotch cam and a fake
erection. The camera caught various
women constantly glancing at the man's
crotch and some even smiled. So that's
further proof that women can be just as
visual as men.
Here is what I've noticed when I hang out
with my friends(males), I notice that
whenever a good looking woman walks by,
they will simply look at her and whisper to
me and each other, "wow, she is hot!." I
admit I look at her, but I only glance at her,
I don't stare. After that they will stop
looking at her and we resume whatever
conversation we were having.
A lot of people think that men get sexually
aroused by women in bikinis. That might
be the case for some men, but not all men,
a lot of men simply find her aesthetically
attractive and sexually attractive(two
different kinds of attraction) Yes you can
be sexually attracted to someone and not
be sexually aroused. As I've mentioned in
my question(link above), if I see a woman
in a bikini, I won't get sexually aroused. I
will still find her aesthetically and sexually
attractive though but as I've said, that
doesn't mean I am sexually aroused by the
woman.
A hot woman in a bikini whether it's a
picture of her or if she's standing in front
of me, isn't enough to sexually arouse me.
In order for me to be sexually aroused I
need to have kinky thoughts in my head
(thinking about erotic things she can do to
me etc). That's simply sexual arousal(Body
is ready for sexual activity), but in order for
me to consider sex I have know the woman
personally(if the woman is my girlfriend)
since we would have a emotional
connection, but I would let her initiate the
sexual activity.
A lot women assume only men can be
perverted creeps. The truth is both women
and men can be perverted creeps. As I
mentioned in one my questions, one day
when I was 12 years old, I was at a local
park. I was having fun in the playground
but eventually a group of young women
who looked like they were at least 18 years
old came up to me and told me I was "hot"
and that they wanted to have sex with me.
I was only 12 years old so I didn't exactly
know what sex was. I didn't even know
women had genitals. My parents never
gave me the "sex talk". I walked away from
away from them as they continued to stalk
me around the park until I got close to
where my parents were. That's a day I'll
never forget. So yes women can be creeps
as well.
So that wraps up this myTake, the point I
am trying to get across is that men and
women can have the same kind of
attraction to each other. In other words a
lot of women view men just the way a lot
of men view women. So when a woman
calls a man hot, it means the same thing
when a man calls a woman hot. It's just
that a lot of people follow societal norms,
not me though. You see the good thing
about our society is that we have freedom
to be ourselves even if it goes against
societal norms as long as we don't hurt
anyone, so I am not afraid to be different
than everyone and I am proud to be
different, besides I am not hurting anyone
or anything. So don't be afraid to not
follow societal norms. |
Re: Women View Men The Way Men View Women by ibkgab001: 12:13am On May 24, 2016 |
Truly written and arranged by Crazysaints |
Re: Women View Men The Way Men View Women by whogoscam: 12:14am On May 24, 2016 |
Rubbish. 1 Like |
Re: Women View Men The Way Men View Women by Dahkogrin007(m): 12:15am On May 24, 2016 |
whogoscam:Infact super rubbish 1 Like |
Re: Women View Men The Way Men View Women by Chuksemi(m): 12:15am On May 24, 2016 |
Op, is your school on strike too? How did you find time to write this long post? |
Re: Women View Men The Way Men View Women by NiRfreak(m): 1:00am On May 24, 2016 |
Dont mind na 'forming' go kill them...... |
Re: Women View Men The Way Men View Women by pacino26(m): 3:28am On May 24, 2016 |
@Op I know you're not on strike like one poster said but look very clearly below. I think if you will be able to reconcile and understand it then your post will definitely be comprehensible.
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